JUST FRIENDS!

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  • HeHealsMe
    HeHealsMe Posts: 174 Member
    It's interesting that you never see a guy ask this question.
    yup
    um... :embarassed: but we're friends... :tongue:
    ^ ^ ^ ^ the ONLY way to answer THAT question....:devil:
  • whitehandlady
    whitehandlady Posts: 459 Member
    i can't speak to this in "general"

    but i KNOW beyond any shadow of doubt...that i cannot be just friends....i can behave myself if need be and at the request of the other party....but i'm far too sexual to be "just friends"
    me, somebody, and who

    lol


    hmmmmm...i may want to remain silent here.....if i say it's you, somebody, and who....will i risk deletion?....if not

    ABSOLUTELY...lol
  • LeanerBeef
    LeanerBeef Posts: 1,432 Member
    Yes, it is very possible! I have been "just friends" with many women over the years (and still am). I have secretly wanted to bang quite a few of them but managed not to act on it for one reason or another and remained friends. True story......:wink:
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
    I personally, don't think I could ever just be friends with a guy. Mine's just fear, I'm scared to be alone with a man, other than my husband or a family member. It's a long story....
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    It's interesting that you never see a guy ask this question.
    yup
    um... :embarassed: but we're friends... :tongue:
    busted! lol

    It's my bicep pic that did it, isn't it?
  • LMHinson15
    LMHinson15 Posts: 201 Member
    My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years. We've never dated each other and never had "benefits" with each other... wouldn't even want to (and yes, that's true for both of us). We've both been in relationships and we're respectful of the relationship when the other is dating someone and that makes it work. He's never dated someone who has had to resent me, and I've never dated anyone who resents him. No, I don't think it always works, but it does for us.
  • FloraSin
    FloraSin Posts: 188 Member
    About half of my closest friends are guys. Some gay, some straight, other unkown.... One of them used to have a thing for me. It didn't go anywhere and we're still really close (and dating other people).

    I think any friendship is possible of you get the right combination of personality in the people.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    of course they can.
  • cfriend71
    cfriend71 Posts: 207 Member
    "If" there was ever, even once, any type of physical relationship, I think you really can't just be friends.... sorry, just my opinion.

    But if there wasn't, sure, why not?
  • SouthernSweetie74
    SouthernSweetie74 Posts: 844
    I don't know. I have mixed feelings about this. I am pretty sure that I could be just friends with a man if that man would allow us to be just friends. However, in my experience with this, I have never done it successfully. Every time I think I'm just friends with a man... I find out that he has different feelings for me.. whether it be wanting a relationship or wanting a more sexual relationship...

    When I was younger, I was friends with guys... but the older I get, it just seems more complicated. They all want to throw sex in the pot and ruin the friendship or end up falling in love with me. lol
  • katydid25
    katydid25 Posts: 199 Member
    I've had guy friends in the past...and then when I start dating someone, the new guy can't handle that I have guys as friends...hello? I thought that was *why* you liked me...because I can hang with the guys and deal with dirty jokes.

    I've ran into this problem before. Then I started making it a point of introducing the guys I date to my guy friends before I spend too much time around them without him there. Now, my friends actually call or text my boyfriend more often than they do me. I love it!
  • whitehandlady
    whitehandlady Posts: 459 Member
    Yes, it is very possible! I have been "just friends" with many women over the years (and still am). I have secretly wanted to bang quite a few of them but managed not to act on it for one reason or another and remained friends. True story......:wink:

    this is kinda what i meant....i can do it....but i secretly think otherwise and have EXCELLENT self control
  • FloraSin
    FloraSin Posts: 188 Member
    Oh, and my boyfriend has two best friends. One is a girl. They've never been involved (she actually never dated the other guy either) and they all still hang out. No bangs and no plans for it. lol
  • kcdrake
    kcdrake Posts: 512
    The sex always gets in the way. Just ask Harry and Sally. Or watch this guy interviewing college kids.


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA



    That being said, I have way more guy friends than girl friends. :laugh: So much less drama and easier to hang around with.
  • capriciousmoon
    capriciousmoon Posts: 1,263 Member
    Just like two women can be friends or two men can be friends.

    Women can be friends with other women? o.O I can only seem to be friends with men.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    One of my best friends is a married man. I'm really good friends with his wife also. No animosity there or any reason to be jealous. Many of my friends are male. Many are female too. All I really care about is whether they are good people whose personality meshes with mine or not.
  • nammer79
    nammer79 Posts: 664 Member
    I have plenty of female friends most of them are just guys with softer parts anyways some mind set most the time but that's why we get along

    Life would be boring with only guy friends
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    "No man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive."
  • Sp1nGoddess
    Sp1nGoddess Posts: 1,134 Member
    to q point gut no3.
  • Hickyvikki69
    Hickyvikki69 Posts: 371 Member
    i have tons guy friends n there is no benefits....
  • LeanerBeef
    LeanerBeef Posts: 1,432 Member
    i have tons guy friends n there is no benefits....

    That's what you think........ever hear of a spank bank????
  • BAHBOOK2012
    BAHBOOK2012 Posts: 11
    This is one of the funniest post I've read in a while. The vast majority of men and women clearly think different. That is a fact! It is interesting one person pointed out guys don't ask this question. One woman cheekily asked "don't you want to be my friend?" Which made me smile as I'm sure 90% of men would say yes lol. In reversing the tables slightly, as the question was posed by a woman, if a woman was married or in serious relationship and her partner had several female friends that he went out boozing with regularly as guys would with the guys would most women get concerned? Put another spin on it, if a guy went out with the guys regular most women would either be happy for their own time or pissed by being left out, but introduce female friends, attractive ones or not into the frame then it isn't really a matter of having friends but the class of friend and the type of friendship. Thus you can have male/female friends but once in a relationship things change for most couples. Some may argue you should take me as you found me, and some may crave the attention of female friends at the risk of pissing of their girlfriend or wife which is simply a matter of balance and respect for a partner. But if single there is no harm in having 100 male friends or female friends but once in a relationship as with any friend male or female it is a matter of balance and respect for your partner.
  • SP2Bfit
    SP2Bfit Posts: 114
    I think that typically in a heterosexual female-male friendship one of the people would really lke to be more than friends...unless both are in committed, happy relationships...and even then I think the thought of the relationship becoming more flits in and out of at least one persons mind periodically. At least that has been my experience.
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
    This is one of the funniest post I've read in a while. The vast majority of men and women clearly think different. That is a fact! It is interesting one person pointed out guys don't ask this question. One woman cheekily asked "don't you want to be my friend?" Which made me smile as I'm sure 90% of men would say yes lol. In reversing the tables slightly, as the question was posed by a woman, if a woman was married or in serious relationship and her partner had several female friends that he went out boozing with regularly as guys would with the guys would most women get concerned? Put another spin on it, if a guy went out with the guys regular most women would either be happy for their own time or pissed by being left out, but introduce female friends, attractive ones or not into the frame then it isn't really a matter of having friends but the class of friend and the type of friendship. Thus you can have male/female friends but once in a relationship things change for most couples. Some may argue you should take me as you found me, and some may crave the attention of female friends at the risk of pissing of their girlfriend or wife which is simply a matter of balance and respect for a partner. But if single there is no harm in having 100 male friends or female friends but once in a relationship as with any friend male or female it is a matter of balance and respect for your partner.

    i thought guys were all about 'bros before hos'...
  • torygirl79
    torygirl79 Posts: 307 Member
    I have lots of platonic male friends and always have.
  • LoveMy3Boys
    LoveMy3Boys Posts: 562 Member
    my long term male friends are gay :) So yes!

    My other male friends, when I used to have a bunch eventually turned and always made a move at some point... or admitted at one point they were interested in me... so IDK... I wonder if they try to be friends initially to hook up and when that doesn't happen they reside to the friend zone.

    Now my male friends are also married and friends with my husband so... idk I'm sure a lot of guys and girls can just be friends with no chance of being a couple.
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    Of course. There are variables that can come into play to change that answer of course... like if there is sexual attraction on either end of the relationship, then I would have to say no. Eventually, someone gets hurt. But, if there is no attraction on either end, and the two get along well, why not? :)
  • Sixalicious
    Sixalicious Posts: 283 Member
    I believe 100% men and women can be just friends. It doesnt matter if one thinks the other is attractive or if they both think each other is attractive. Friends are friends and thats that. It doesnt have to go beyond that.

    ^^THIS^^

    I have several close male friends that I've known for years. My husband doesn't trip on us and neither do their wives. To see us interact you would know that friends is all we've ever been and all we'll ever be.
  • DaughterOfTheMostHighKing
    DaughterOfTheMostHighKing Posts: 1,436 Member
    can.
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member
    Nope.


    One or the other eventually feels something more. I'm done with those games. No female friends that I'd consider "effable" in the bedroom.
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