THE (Trying Hard Everyday) Team - Week 23

cyndeebee

Good morning...
prayerfulmom...I think you ARE sleepy...Today is only Thursday. Isn't it? Or did I lose a day?
I'm so confused!

I spent yesterday in my pj's. Sat on the couch. Knitted. Burned NO calories worth mentioning. But I'll try to get in a walk today. The post office, maybe. I'm sort of recovering from a shopping trip, plus saving my strength for tomorrow (Friday), when I work half a day at the store.

My daughter's hair turned out well. Personally, I don't see a lot of difference in the style, but there's about 3 inches off the bottom. But she thinks it's a big difference, so I go along with it...

I had a long talk with a woman about fibromyalgia, and she stated that she hated the label. She thinks that once you put a label on it, people wallow in self-pity. She also thinks that you can heal virtually ANY disease, simply by changing your way of thinking.
Wow...Did I ever light into her!
It's not a label. It's a diagnosis! And in my case, it was a RELIEF to hear a name for the many, many things that seemed to be going wrong with my body. Until I was diagnosed, I was running up to Emerg 2 or 3 times a month. I can't count the number of mornings I spent hooked up to heart monitors, getting X-rays...
Got put into physical therapy (which, incidentally, just about killed me...)
Took treatments for sciatica, arthritis, inflammatories, anti-depressants, antibiotics...)
So label?
I'd always taken good health for granted. Two years of thinking I had some terrible disease, or my heart was weak, or maybe I had cancer...
I don't know if I engage in self-pity. I've always tried to be an optimist. So I try to see fibromyalgia as God's way of telling me that it's okay if I slow down, and pursue a much quieter-paced lifestyle. If it had been left up to me, I NEVER would have given myself permission to stop working too many hours...flat out...
So while I have a lot of "sick days," I also try to make the most of them. I can't get dressed and go out to work, but I can sit on the couch and create...
Is that a form of self-pity? I don't know...
I do know that some people with fibromyalgia take to their bed...and don't get up. A lot of people with the diagnosis ARE on anti-depressants, but I suspect it's because they refuse to come to grips with the idea of changing their life. Because life isn't over...it's just different...

Anyway, that's my rant of the day. Guess I'm making up for not posting yesterday...:laugh:

nitag

Well more bad news for my family! My Uncle died yesterday morning. He is my Dad's only brother and we are very close with him.. I think I must have cried for hrs... It's just enough.. I didn't go to work yesterday, instead I went to Reno to be with my Father and I spent the day with him. I took him to lunch and we talked and cried... My Dads 73 and my uncle was in his late 60's.. We didn't expect this and he died in his sleep... I will be off to Oregon next week for his memorial service...

Hopefully in the next few day's things will get better. We will be having a lot of people flying into Reno for the services so I will be pretty busy.. But for now I have to just keep it together.. Mostly I am scared for my parents, scared of losing them.. I'll check in later.. I need to go to work..I'm sure my boss is pissed but I don't care, maybe now he'll fire me ....

Later...

Anita

prayerfulmom

Good morning...
prayerfulmom...I think you ARE sleepy...Today is only Thursday. Isn't it? Or did I lose a day?
I'm so confused!

rofl:laugh: I still have one more day till weigh in. drat. I better get more sleep.

Cyndee- I'm with you. My doctor wanted to label me depressed and I insisted on some renal testing. Come to find out I was correct and she was not. Made all the difference in the world to me to know I wasn't thinking this stuff up. I may have a diagnosis but that doesn't define me. I think we live outside our diagnosis .

Anita- sorry about your loss. Its been a tough year for you girl. Hang in there.

cyndeebee

So sorry, Anita, for what you're going through. Know that we're all here for you, thinking about you and praying for you and your family.

I can certainly relate to what you're thinking about your own parents. Whenever we lose someone close to us, we are painfully reminded that life is not endless. I worry about my folks, too. My stepfather is 82 and my Mom is 75. They're my best friends and it scares me to think of life without either one of them. Guess all we can do is make the most of our time together, and shore up as many good memories as possible.

prayerfulmom...So glad you understand what I'm talking about. Unless you've been in our shoes, it's hard to understand how people can be "relieved" when they're given a diagnosis. But all too often, when you first get sick, people give you unasked for advice, or they compare what they're capable of doing to what you are slacking off in...
So as painful as a "label" or diagnosis is, it's nice to know WHY you've been feeling the way you do
It's about validation. Reminds me of the epitaph that reads: "See? I told you I was sick..." lol

Debbie...Take care of those arms. I'm guessing that the poor sleep is related to the pain? Can you take something to help you sleep?

Later...

CrazybeeRX

It' ok prayerful, I thought yesterday was Thursday all day long. We were ahead with our work and working on Fridays work so I thought it was Thursday. We are usually only working on the next day stuff so working on Fridays stuff really threw me off. Will make for a a light day a work today which I really need. Arms are killing me today.

I agree cyndeebee a diagnosis does help. Makes you feel like you aren't crazy. It doesn't help when you go to the doctor and they jut look at you and say "I don't see any reason for your pain, there is nothing wrong. Here is an anti-inflammatory hopefully this will help."

adopt4

morning ya'll. thank goodness one more day to weigh in, didn't do so great yesterday and didn't get all my water in! nita, i'm sorry for your loss and for your family. and cyndee, yeah, some people use an ailment as a reason to not get out of bed, and some people pretend to have an ailment to not get out of bed, but the majority of the people actually have something and just keep going as best they can. and the "your mind can fix anything wrong with your body" people tick me off, same as the "if you believe enough God will heal you" crap. Yes there is miracles and yes God might heal someone - he brought my son back to us - but it wasn't because of our faith or our minds, it was a gift.

and I LOVE what cyndee said. life isn't over, it's just different. because as we all know- sh&^ happens.

swignal

Good Afternoon Team,

been a little busy with visiting with April this week... It has been GREAT... Yesterday we took her twins and we road by the junior high school we went to when we first met.. and should them how far we had to walk to and from school!!! rain sleet or snow!!!! Aprils house was the halfway point for me!!! then we went into a local store her mother always shopped in and we found out it was going out of business she got to talk to the owners..They remembered her and her mother.. Then we stopped by my fathers so he could see her and we chatted for a little bit then we went to lunch at A&W cony Island we ate really bad food!!! Then we drove through a few parks reminiscing of the good old days!!!! Then we came home.. hubby cooked dinner last night he made curry chicken broccoli cauliflower white rice and garlic Cheddar cheese then we had some pina colada's until 3:30am!!! she was up at 6:30!!! then fell back asleep on the couch!! I didn't get up until 8:30 then I left to go on my 8 mile bike ride!!! to work off all that bad food I ate yesterday!! April went visiting today to see her brother his children and she was going to her mothers grave today.. I am just chilling for the rest of the day prob gonna get some weeding done!!!

Cm- Glad to see you still around and doing well

Kristi - Where are you Everyone is still worried about you!!!!

Li4g - congrats on hubby's new JOB...

Anita - I am really sorry about your loss of your Uncle.. my prayers are out to your family and lots of hugs...

to everyone else I forgot i am sorry keep up the good work in the weight loss stay focused and keep going....

Sheila

pawprint061

LosingIt4good- Congrads to the hubby for the new job. That's great. Good luck on your job hunt.

adopt4-It's always great to see your knees... Hopefully if they've been bothering you in the past the pain goes away... I know my knees hurt so bad when I reach a certain weight. It's hard to say if you notice changes right away or not... I know what your going through though. The other day I looked at myself in the mirror with no clothes on and I looked at my butt.. I mean I really looked at it for the first time since I started this and I can't get over how small it is now... I use to be disgusted by it but now I'm ok with it. I was able to fit into a newer pair of pants that aren't stretched out like all my old ones that I've been wearing and it felt good.. I think for me I notice it over time... my friend told me last night she can tell a big difference.

Lorann- I would go for the membership... only if you think you would use it enough though. Fishing is so much fun. You'll have to post pictures of your boat and the first catch that you get from it.

CrazybeeRX-Could it be water weight??

manda1111-way to go on losing those inches. I don't know if I could stick to the ab workouts like you do.. Do you focus on lower abs too? that's what i need to work on..

Buttonnose-your comments on the exercising... I agree with you... that's what my trainer always told me. If you think about it, it makes sense....

prayerfulmom-way to go on the 26 miles... be careful in this heat please... we don't need you getting sick or hurting yourself.

indianagranny-you were doing so good... is everything ok with you? I hope your feeling better emotionally... I worry about you.

lulubar-way to go for the work out... nice burn.

cyndeebee-you have to do what makes you happy. I don't see anything wrong with the way your thinking. I would be relieved to know what was wrong too... there's no self pitty.... your not dying... you can still do things... you take it on day at time...that's all anyone can do...

nitag-Sorry for you loss. I hope that his passing was peaceful and that he can be laid to rest. I'm sorry that your having a hard time. My prayers are with you and your family.




Well all... I've been ok with my calories. I did splurge last night and have a blizzard. I don't eat the whole thing though. It was a small... but I've never eaten the whole thing lol. But I'm seeing changes in myself. My butt is smaller. I'm losing my boobs lol. I think that's why my pants are fitting better, is because of my butt. It's always gotten in the way of getting pants that fit right. I'm doing good.

My boyfriend (Jason) and I talked yesterday and cut a long story short... we're looking at wedding rings... he hasn't asked because he wants the ring. But I have to go get my fingers measured. I'm so excited. I already have the ring picked out... I just have to find a store in the US that carries them and get the one I want in....

zano2008

Hi TEAM after reading the past few post I am glad I'm back with all you successful people. So I guess weigh in on Friday, do we have a challenge for the week? For one week, how about drinking half your weight in oz of water, daily? Glad to be back....Zano

Buttonnose

Hi everyone...feeling good here today. Just got back from a brisk walk (60 Mins) with my daughter and her dog through the beautiful park that is only about 5 mins from my place. Beach, ponds, ducks, animal farm...great place for walking. I think the dog was the one that was most beat out of the three of us...I could of kept going and so could of my daughter..but the dog was done..and he is a big dog.

Anyways, just stopping in to say "HI" and hope you are all having a great day!!!

Keep smiling.

Talk to you all tomorrow....

Button

adopt4

took my measurements this morning, hadn't recorded them since the end of march, apparently. whoo-hoo! that's a lot of inches lost! and i updated my ticker a day early because it's been the same every day all week... and i wanted to be "over" the halfway point.... cheating, i know.

zano want to come do my floors now? LOL

swignal

good evening Team

well April has been gone all day visiting with family and friends and I have been home weeding the garden that has needed it for weeks now!!!! well I got my side of the garden all done it only took me the whole damn day!!!! now i am going to soak in the hot tub cuz my body is sore as hell!!!! i wonder how many calories i burnt doing the weeding!!!! it sure was a lot and took a long long time... well I am off to the hot tub!!!!!

Sheila

lulubar

Lighter workout today, 300 cals. but I'm happy with that. I'm pledging to kick it in to high gear next week - I want to get to the 30 pound mark in the next few weeks - and then I'm going to reward myself with a new HRM! I'm sooooo excited to get one and decided I would give myself a goal to work toward before buying it! (Don't tell her, but I'm trying a new tactic to motivate lulu):bigsmile:

CM - Oh my gaaaawsh woman!!! The pics are FANTASTIC and you look mahhhhhvelous dahling! I'm uber-coveting your trip!

cmriverside

CM - Oh my gaaaawsh woman!!! The pics are FANTASTIC and you look mahhhhhvelous dahling! I'm uber-coveting your trip!

moving to FLA. ssshhh. I had so much fun.......

LosingIt4good

hey look...Its a miracle!!!.... I remembered to start the new thread tonight...

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/60357-t-h-e-trying-hard-everyday-team-week-24-welcome

now Im off to bed... LOL