How come no one ever thinks they're the BAD one?

McKayMachina

How come no one ever thinks they're one of the bad ones?

Everyone ELSE is always "lazy" or "stupid" or "selfish" or "mean" or "wrong" or "hurtful" or whatever else. So, tell me...why aren't YOU ever the one who effed up? Or continuously effs up?

"Most people" claim that "most people" are ___insert negative adjective here___ and assume a position of superiority. I've never heard someone say, "Hey, my boyfriend and I broke up. Why? Because I'm a lazy, immature dirtbag who doesn't give a *kitten* about other people. Also, I'm a big-time moron. We're talking SUPER dumb."

I'm willing to bet that most people who think they're in the right, be it in personal or professional matters, are as much a part of the problem as, or more than, the person they're vilifying when they retell the story to their pitchfork and torch-weilding bandwagoneer friends.

I've certainly grown a lot in the last decade (I'm 27...so that sort of makes sense) but there have been plenty of times where I was the jack@ss in the equation. I'm sure there will be times like that in the future, even.

So...tell me, MFPals...when were YOU the bad guy?

McKayMachina

I know. It's probably too early for this *kitten*. lol I'm just procrastinating getting in the shower. ;p

rachaelgifford

I stuff up all the time, and I am a scarcastic cow. I know this. People can still be horrid though.

netchik

I'm regularly wrong, and lazy. It takes all my will power to just get out of bed in the morning. Workouts are something I love, but I have to talk myself into them every day.

And I'm the first to admit it.

Maybe you need to surround yourself with some new people!!! My MFP Pals are freakin' awesome!

Baybbee123

I actually turn to myself to analyze myself quite a bit. I've lost a few great friends whom I feel aren't really great people and end up not caring or saying extremely hurtful things in the end that tears a friendship up, but you can only lose so many great friends until you ask yourself what you're doing wrong. I hold people to too high of a standard, and I am WAY WAY WAY too emotional - I know this. I need to work on these things. I just *wish* people were as thoughtful, kind, and respectful as I try to be - but the world is a different place. When it comes to me, I need to accept this and adapt - but the change is very hard. The smallest thing can set me off. One person can throw their hands up in the air at me because they are in a funk and someone else ticked them off (happened last Thursday) and it literally makes me upset for 5 hours! Geez....I need to let these things go!

McKayMachina

I'm surrounded by awesome people! Just commenting on all the random stuff I see in the threads here and on random friends-of-friends profiles on facebook. I, personally, am really lucky to know mostly stellar human beings.

ickybella

1. Denial 2. Hypocrisy

If someone is an a-hole to me, that's because people are rude, selfish *kitten*. If I'm an a-hole to someone, it's because that person was being a rude, selfish *kitten* and that is a freaking tragedy.

I was raised Baptist, though, so I learned at a very young age that pretty much everything is my fault.

Seriously, though, my marriage has had a lot of problems, because I'm a crazy person and my husband is an a-hole. I think, though, that we want to be the good ones. You don't want to think you're a bad person. That would totally suck.

McKayMachina

LOL you're so right, Bee. Denial and hypocrisy pretty much sum it up. ;p

Also, I wonder if the stupid ones are too stupid to know they're the stupid ones?

...gasps...

...brings hand to mouth...

...am I too stupid to know I'm stupid?

DUNNING-KRUGER! NOoooOOoOooooOOOooooooo!

LorinaLynn

I might verbalize my complaints about others more, but I'm a lot more critical of myself than anyone else. :ohwell:

FrostyFour

I read an article about this on Cracked. There's science behind this, man.

http://www.cracked.com/article_19468_5-logical-fallacies-that-make-you-wrong-more-than-you-think_p2.html

ickybella

I read an article about this on Cracked. There's science behind this, man.

http://www.cracked.com/article_19468_5-logical-fallacies-that-make-you-wrong-more-than-you-think_p2.html

I can't ever read anything on Cracked! Why is this?

MysticMaiden22

I'm almost always anxious or moody, and I rarely smile. I'm also terrible at sticking to my committments and am a professional procrastinat....or.

Nerple

I'm proud that I'm as stubborn as they come, jaded and an *kitten*. The sarcastic bit of me, I'm not so proud of, it's just too easy and petty to be proud of.

Carl01

I have been wrong before...1981 I think it was.

SnookiBaby92

Im screwed up, moody and very arguementative - il argue black is white x

ElementalEscapee

Lol I think that. There's a difference between admitting that you're wrong (or being the 'bad guy' in a certain situation), and constantly bringing yourself down, always blaming yourself. It takes quite a toll on you.

hennyben

I can be a ***** who just says it like it is at times. I've upset a few people thru the years.

But I HATE to admit that I'm wrong. Even when I'm wrong, I'm right.

BAMFMeredith

1. Denial 2. Hypocrisy

If someone is an a-hole to me, that's because people are rude, selfish *kitten*. If I'm an a-hole to someone, it's because that person was being a rude, selfish *kitten* and that is a freaking tragedy.

I was raised Baptist, though, so I learned at a very young age that pretty much everything is my fault.

Seriously, though, my marriage has had a lot of problems, because I'm a crazy person and my husband is an a-hole. I think, though, that we want to be the good ones. You don't want to think you're a bad person. That would totally suck.

Hahaha try being raised Catholic, the guilt is instilled in you at birth!

But really, I'm pretty good at admitting when I'm wrong like in a relationship fight or something like that. Of course, I haven't always been that way, but that's just what comes with getting older. The one thing I will say is I RARELY engage in an argument unless I'm totally sure I'm right about something, so the times that I've actually been wrong it's more been because I did something stupid (pro-tip: if you go through your significant other's phone, you're wrong. You're just always wrong. Don't do it. Lesson learned.) Being able to admit "I did something stupid, I messed up, my fault." definitely helps to resolve a fight MUCH faster than trying to justify your bad actions. Swallowing your pride sucks, but it's totally worth it in the end

juicy011

I do stupid *kitten* all the time, it's just admitting it is the problem...... :laugh:

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

if anyone can ever say "I did NOTHING wrong" with a straight face at the end of a relationship, they deserve an award, because there is almost NO way a break up/split/divorce is 100% any one person's fault. It's just as much about the reaction as it is the action. This is not to say one person can't be more to blame, but certainly cannot be the only to blame. I've certainly had my fairshare of screw-ups and I'm sure there will be plenty more to come.

wickedcricket

I would gladly admit to being wrong if it ever happens