Motivating a Spouse

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  • kandaceleehans
    kandaceleehans Posts: 11
    Thanks again guy and gals! I appreciate the words of wisdom. I think he is starting to get on the healthy wagon. He has join MFP and is taking more initiative when it comes to working out. He just had to find that rhythm for himself.

    I will definately try the jar and nightly work out gigs and see how that goes, could be fun. As for the male motivation, he moved down the week before we were married so he doesnt really know many guys here yet. But I think we are heading in the right direction for a health life together!

    THANKS!! :D Have a Great Weekend!
  • lizg1979
    lizg1979 Posts: 15 Member
    I sometimes struggle with keeping motivated as does my husband. We always say we will be strong for one another but in all honesty when one is having a "bad day" the other is usually "too quick" to give in and allow the "cheating" to happen with the food. It has been crazy hot in our house with the temps the last few days and all to often (in the past) we use the excuse "its too hot to cook lets order in" well we have a brand new bbq this year and so far have been doing rather well at not ordering in.

    Anyway what we "try" to do is not "force" eachother to give up the milkshake or pizza or whatever but rather question each other like....."do you really want that you have been doing soooo good why not wait till this weekends family bbq to give yourself that extra little treat" or something like that.

    Otherwise you can't and won't get him to do it unless he wants to....good luck :D
  • BigBrewski
    BigBrewski Posts: 922 Member
    With holding sex is always a good motivator, I know loads of people that do that to their partners and get their way. Something like if you don't lose any weight this week no sex next week, it's me or the milkshake or go for a jog or no sex might help, it motivates quite a few guys I go to the gym with.

    ^^^this, I seem to remember a "fun" book somewhere that was called the sex diet (you can probably google it I am at work currently and don't want that to show up in my history) where each day you complete your calorie / exercise goal you get to reward each other with specific sex acts.

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