High School Reunions (The good, the bad, the ugly)

sleepytexan

I think it's funny that the people who had a good time in high school tell those of us that were miserable, picked on, mistreated, outcast and wished we were dead for those awful four years to "Get over it...high school was a long time ago. Take the chip off your shoulder. Be the bigger person." etc.

Personally you couldn't pay me enough money to go back to my 20 year reunion in 2 years. Those people were awful. While I don't have a desire for revenge, I just don't want to go back to the place that made me so miserable for those years. I would rather enjoy the life I live with my amazing family and friends, and not be reminded of a time where I was damn near suicidal because of the horrible things these people put me through.

Those people don't bring good memories, so why would I revisit that on purpose?

I loved high school (but I did not tell anyone who didn't to get over anything). However, even though I loved high school in general, there were certainly people there that weren't nice, or were downright mean.

At my 20th reunion, one of those really mean people came up to me and apologized for being mean. I figured he was on a 12-step program or something, but anyway I accepted his apology and that was it. I still have no desire to seek him out or be friends with him now, but honestly I had not thought about that guy even once in 20 years, so why would I think about him now?

I will say that I still encounter people everywhere who are obnoxious, rude, mean and hurtful. I choose not to accept their negativity, and I choose to be happy.

blessings.

gmoneycole

I think it's funny that the people who had a good time in high school tell those of us that were miserable, picked on, mistreated, outcast and wished we were dead for those awful four years to "Get over it...high school was a long time ago. Take the chip off your shoulder. Be the bigger person." etc.

Personally you couldn't pay me enough money to go back to my 20 year reunion in 2 years. Those people were awful. While I don't have a desire for revenge, I just don't want to go back to the place that made me so miserable for those years. I would rather enjoy the life I live with my amazing family and friends, and not be reminded of a time where I was damn near suicidal because of the horrible things these people put me through.

Those people don't bring good memories, so why would I revisit that on purpose?

Sorry you went through such hell. The only reason I could think that you might want to go would be to exercise demons that might still haunt you. Only you know best for sure.

jennifermcornett

I went to my 10-year after filing for divorce a week and a half before it. I ran into the guy that had taken my virginity our senior year (we hadn't talked since), and we are now dating. Been together for a year and a couple of months. He wasn't going to go (same old people doing the same old ****), but his mother made him go, saying that he could just leave if he wasn't having fun. He considered taking a random girl as a date. I went VERY HAPPILY by myself, was only one of five single people, and he went by himself, and the rest is history.

neverstray

I wouldn't say anything. Who cares. I f-ing HATED high school. I had a really good group of very close friends, some of which I am still good friends with, and the rest can just go jump off a bridge. i really don't care. Just because we went to the same school together, doesn't mean I have to care about them. Same goes for work. LOL. Some people think I'm crazy because I think that way, but I can't help it. Your proximity to me does not mean we are friends, or that I even care about your opinion on any topic.

Ha! So there.

Sissy4EverX3

My 5 year was like school all over again but people got fatter and slightly better jobs. All the cliques were in solid form. I swore I'd never go to another one. I didn't hate high school. I had a pretty decent time. I just don't like acting 17 with a bunch of old people. Some of thd behavior was okay for kids but for grown ups ... It's just lame.
Now... Ask me at goal if I'd go. I might change my mind. It would be a tiny bit fun to walk in and rock the joint.

.... WE HAD A 5 YEAR?!?!?!?!?! I went to the 10 year and I would have been okay ..... if I hadn't walked in behind Archie Stambush. BAM. Immediately 13 years old again hearing Sarah Tanner taunt "JESSICA LOVES ARCHIE" with him standing RIGHT. FREAKING. THERE. But yeah, you're right - even at the 10 year, the "cliques" were all still there. I hid behind a plate of fried chicken, my husband, and a Smirnoff for the hour (and a half?) I allowed myself to be there. I'm just glad no one said, "Oh, hey, look .It's Thunderthighs! EARRRTTTTHHHHQUUUUAAAKE!" Though, looking back, if they had, there would have been a fight. My now ex would have stepped up and planted his foot in someone's *kitten*.

But, speaking of 20 years... How'se about you and me, doll, we make a date to go together? We'll both be at goal by then.

rocklguz9

I thought it was funny how the people I felt had it all together and were on the path to success still lived at home or had never amounted to the expectations. not that I would hope they wouldn't but you realize that you were a little hard on yourself during those years. You get older, mature a little and realize you’re pretty good.

Thanks for sharing your experience! I agree )

rocklguz9

Be the bigger person and kill them with kindness. I'm sure the way you look and act will have them all very jealous!

Thanks for the feedback I will kill them with kindness!

rocklguz9

Thanks for your feedback and experience, everyone! I really enjoyed reading your comments...some were hilarious!!! I'm sure I will enjoy the reunion and will be happy just to see those that I remember or were my friends. Regardless of how they look, I am going to he happy seeing them again For all those that will be going to yours soon, have fun and forgive them---unless of course, they're still jerks!!! lol

MyFeistyEvolution

I had my ten year reunion in 2010..it was decent. No one made any comments...we just drank and danced and had a great time.

The only down side was I went to a bar with some old friends.;..and then lost them and my husband had to drive out and pick me up at a gas station at 2am. :::crickets:::

ScottyNoHotty

My 25th is this year....I've already posted somewhere on the forums about my 20th....my H.S. bully and I finally settled up....he lost.