I need help please

todd6977

im losing my motivation i dont see results so im getting really down right now someone please help me..

jvansyckel

Hi Todd! Don't give up, this is a journey and sometimes there are roadblocks and detours. How long have you been doing MFP? Have you had any success but are now at a plateau?

CaraColleen

Don't give up, Todd! Keep at it, the results will come eventually!

jenlarz

There are so many good reasons to keep it up! Find your reasons and stick to it!

dynamicwon

Hang in there Toddy!!!Looks like you just joined. You can do this! A good start would be to share your diary so that if you need help people can give you advice.

belgerian

Looks like you just joined this site in May you did not gain all your weight over night and you will not loose it overnight. Take small gradual changes such as cut out fast food. Then a while later cut something else. Walk around the block if you cant do that walk to your mailbox till you can walk around the block. There are a few ppl here that have lost 200 or more. Replace you processed foods with whole foods. Replace your surgary snacks with healthy snacks apples, bannannas, nuts, strawberries, raspberriesm whatever just one step at a time.

mariacolumbus

Keep your chin up...you can do this. the hardest step was to get started!!!
Its not always easy for anyone, but you will feel motivated and fulfilled when you have pushed through each time you want to give up.
What are the reasons you got started on MFP? Keep your goals in front of you for motivation. this is not a sprint...its a marathon and a lifestyle change process - not a DIE it so to speak
Maybe keeping a "thoughts" journal as well as a food journal would help...get it all out of your system by writing it down - maybe???
or beat this feeling by doing a really tough work out...show this thing who's boss!!!
good luck!

groomchick

Can't give up now sweetie... your just geting started!! You can do this, one day at a time...I know it's hard... anything worth having is worth working for> Friend me and hop on the motivation train!

missywill1

Hi Todd, I just started this week---this is after I have been through every diet known to man....I have finally come to the realization that it is simple math...more calories out than in.

I have been frustrated too...I had 1/2 of my thyroid removed 8 years ago and have had a weight problem ever since. For a long time it was my excuse but that didn't get me anywhere except up---2 dress sizes.

I am having a hard time with the 1200 calories, but it is working---stick to that...your body will adjust within a short period of time.

Stick with it with me!

Cyngen

Todd, don't give up. Look back at what started you on this fantastic journey, see it in your mind, remind yourself why it was important to you... feel free to add me as a friend for the motivational factor. Believe me, I can use all the ones I can get too

truss08

Hey Todd,
You know you can do this right!!?? It is a big step for everyone trying to lose weight, but you do not want to give up!! Let me help you out!! Message me on here sometime and we can talk :-)

AliciaNorris81

Don't give up! I didn't see a change in the scale/wait for the first 2 weeks or so! Then I joined MFP and after about another week things started changing.

When you switch to a healthier lifestyle it takes time for the body to adjust and "reset" as my dietitian says. You will get there! And if you need a friend, feel free to add me. I will encourage you in any way I can!

helenmc40

Hi Todd, please don't give up!! Stay strong, this journey takes time and dedication. I am in the same boat as you. My weight has not moved in over 3 weeks!! I am eating well, exercising and still the scale has not moved. I am not going to give up. I have though shed some tears (frustration) and will continue on MFP.

You can do this, hardwork and dedication will get you there!!

Ralphrabbit

It is really hard to get going when you have a lot to lose but when you do you will notice it really well. Work out why you want to do this & set sensible goals that you know you can achieve. Add as many friends who are in a similar situation to you as you can & some who are a little further ahead than you too!!
Not sure if you inclined but I am convinced that the power of prayer helps too!
God bless you on your journey.
Add me if you would like to!

CampinGal34

Keep your chin up Todd!! This is not easy!! All of us have been discouraged! Add some friends (feel free to add me) to help keep your attitude and motivation up---it makes a world of a difference. MFP has great people, tools and motivation!! Keep it up!!!

TheTallMan

Hey man, you got this. Just take it one day at a time and keep working hard. If you need tips on food or exercise, ask anybody on here, there's some good information out there if you're struggling, keep at it!

hennyben

Hang in there! It will take time (probably years) so you need to decide this is what you want and be patient! This website is so great for inspiration. Look up some of the success stories, and you'll see there are so many people trying to do the same thing. We are all here for a reason, just remember it is a lifestyle not a quick fix.

Snoopy108

You can do this. Just keep trying! We all struggle. I have tried several times to do this. Just keep your head up and smile and know that you are worth it! Baby steps! Friend me and we can motivate each other to make our lives the best they can be...

lala11975

There is no giving up, this is your life now, there is no going back!! You only live once, so make it count. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will start coming off.

DakotaKeogh

Don't give up. That's not an option. It's going to take a while to see change. And a very long time to meet your goal. But, along the way you'll change in so many ways you'll reach a point you know you can never turn back. Build up your friends list and get some support. This may become your greatest resource.

AmyVC123

I'll tell you what I told a coworker just a few minutes ago - The only way to loose at this is to QUIT. As long as you keep making ANY effort, you still have the upper hand. Take small steps on the hard days and big steps on the easy days. You're still making progress!!!

Don't quit, Todd!!!!

WaimanaloMan

Don't lose heart man, you can kick this things butt!

Leah_T

Hang in there. If the "big" goal seems impossible, make small goals for yourself. If the number on the scale is frustrating you make your goals behavior related. Make goals like....i will walk 1 mile a day 5 days a week or i will cut back on eating ____ . I will eat a piece of fruit every day. If it helps you be more accountable, post your goals once a week (and make them challenging but reasonable). The last thing you need to do is make goals that you will never be able to achieve and then feel like a failure. Each week you need to make sure that you do at least as much as you did the week before, and maybe add a little. When you are tempted to quit, just think that each day you stick with it is one more day you are closer to your goal. Each day you put off, is one more day you have to work towards your goal. (and if you put it off forever you will never get there...."tomorrow never comes:). I never believed those people that would say that exercise makes them have energy. I was always tired, however i have finally experienced what they meant. Stick with it.

beachlover317

Every day that you eat healthier, do a little more moving around, and tell yourself that YOU ARE WORTH IT are adding years and a better future to your life! We all have challenges and we all get down, but the main thing is to keep going forward. When you have a bad day - start again the minute you recognize where you're going. We all know it's hard on MFP. Otherwise we wouldn't be here. None of us gained it overnight and none of us will lose it overnight. Be strong!!!!

thriftycupl

Don't give up hope. So many that have replied are correct -- you didn't get here overnight, you can't change it overnight. This is a journey and not a destination and there will be bumps along the road. We've all been there. Lean on the support here within MFP and reach out when frustrated. There are lots of people who use this site and are willing to provide the necessary support and assistance to help you be successful.

Do this for yourself because YOU CAN!

rprussell2004

Hey there fellow 42yo caucasian male!

I've hung around this site long enough (baha 5 months) to have seen plenty of peoples' experiences - and the fact of the matter is that a person's body is a stubborn *kitten*.

Example: I went up 2.5 lbs from yesterday morning to today. Not a plateau, mind you, but TWO AND A HALF POUNDS IN ONE FREAKING DAY.

A while back, I would have probably hung it up at that point - but I hear from other folks' experiences that this (a) is not unusual, and (b) nothing to worry about. And actually, I've come to really believe that.

The path we've all chosen is not a short-term quick fix. It's a journey for the rest of our lives, and it's not possible for every single day to be an "upper." I've learned to shrug at the flatlines and give setbacks a smack in the head. They're just temporary, after all - and I have many, many moons to leave them in the dust.

Good luck - and keep on fighting the good fight. You're worth it!

rprussell2004

OH and also, scales are evil.

I get a whole lot more satisfaction when I realize that I just climbed a flight of stairs and can still breathe, or I survived yet another Jillian Michaels workout.

The side bonuses are more encouraging to me than the semi-random number I see in the morning on this devilish little device, because they reflect real and tangible progress - not some fleeting thing that might not be there tomorrow.

bakatare2k

Todd, believe me yes starting was the hardest thing to do. But little changes help (change in diet, change in exercise change in thinking). Brother its just going to take some time. Little goals always help also.

I just started on March 1 2012 and have lost 33 Lbs. as of yesterday, just watching what I eat and doing my elliptical for at least 30 min.

Keep up with it and you will see results. Also remember you have all of us out here for support!

kecarlto

Todd!!! Don't give up!!! The quest to being healthier is hard. I've lost 53 lbs, sure, but it's taken me over 2 years to do it and I still have a long way to go. And, yes, I've given up myself and then kicked my own @$$ and got back on it. It takes time but you will start to feel better. You can do it!! :happy:

Pollywog39

Hi Todd:

JUST THE FACT that you're HERE is a step in the right direction!!! You must have been thinking about your health, and losing weight, and wondering what the heck to do about that! We all want an EASY way, a quick route..........but, you have to know that anything GOOD takes time and effort.

As most others have said: take baby steps. Make reasonable goals. Don't kick yourself when you stumble - just get back up and keep on moving.

An interesting thing I heard recently. I love frogs. My family calls me pollywog, and frogs are cool.........and this person pointed out to me, "did you know that frogs CANNOT move backwards? They can only move forward!!" And I thought.......I WANT to be like that frog. I want to move forward, to NOT look back, to see the glimmer on the horizon.

You can do this, Todd. You KNOW inside that you can........but it's locked up in fear and failure and sadness. Break out of the box, and move FORWARD.

We're all behind you. Take care...........

Polly :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

oceanviewdream

Hey Todd, Hang in there, I have been on here for awhile and I loose and then I gain back and then start over but I keep pushing myself for the end result.... I have taken baby steps gave up soda then went for more healthy choices, fruits veggies. Take the time you need and try new things and take the baby steps and celebrate the small accomplishments and the rest will come in time . Friend me if you like and we can continue on our journeys with motivation from others.....