How can I find out if he's single?!

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  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    A tricky-sneaky way: End up talking about apartments somehow and ask about his roommates. That is pretty safe, and then if he has a significant other living with him, he'll tell you. (e.g. "Oh, no, I live with my girlfriend, Cindy...blah blah blah")
    Oooh, I kinda like this idea. This is something I can work with :)

    This is the best thing I've seen!
  • atjays
    atjays Posts: 797 Member

    Tee hee, yes we are. Ok, done that; no apparent relatives. I bet he has a girlfriend, sigh. They always do. I should just drop it now.

    That is more than often not the case, or at the very least we are not with someone we do not plan on replacing at some point. Flirt with the guy and see where it goes. If you two are friends in the slightest then asking about his relationship status is not off base.
  • 12ecoiL
    12ecoiL Posts: 12
    Hire me.
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Ask him what he for up to on the wekekend if he doesn't give the game away, like says "just went camping, had a good weekend" then ask him if he went with friends or something... Perfectly legit questions, without giving anything away. I can usually find out this stuff about a girl in a short conversation.
  • Doreen_Murray
    Doreen_Murray Posts: 396 Member
    I don't think you should stalk him! Holy moly...moly, moly, moly...

    Go for the note Teena! Then flash a cute little smile with your sexy new haircut and you'll be golden girl! You're a hot momma! Worst case, he'll be flattered if he's taken. Best case, you have a sexy new lunch partner! :smokin:

    You know you'll have to keep us posted on this one. Just sayin! :wink:
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
    I'm quite scared how many people's first answer was a list of sites you can stalk him on... :/

    Makes me feel more normal for not adding girls on fb for the first few months.

    Just chat to him about general chit chat and it will come out sooner or later. Don't just walk up and ask him, that ruins the whole mystery and the messing about, which is one of the fun bits.
  • ImNotThatBob
    ImNotThatBob Posts: 371 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....

    For starters... change your profile photo. The poor guy is probably going crazy hoping you are single and interested and when he looks you up on facebook and mfp all he sees are pictures of you with some other dude! LOL

    4863441_2703.jpg

    See what I mean??? Who's this scary dude?
    ^^^
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....

    For starters... change your profile photo. The poor guy is probably going crazy hoping you are single and interested and when he looks you up on facebook and mfp all he sees are pictures of you with some other dude! LOL

    4863441_2703.jpg

    See what I mean??? Who's this scary dude?
    ^^^

    What if that's him?! That would definitely put me off! lol
  • LeggyKettleBabe
    LeggyKettleBabe Posts: 300 Member
    I don't know what country you're in...if you're in the US, you can use whitepages.org and put in his name, city, etc. It should give you an address if he's on public record. If someone lives with him at that address, then it will also show up.


    Let the record show that ladies are damn good at this whole Internet research thing. Brahs beware.

    WOMEN ARE NATURAL STALKERS
  • ImNotThatBob
    ImNotThatBob Posts: 371 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....

    For starters... change your profile photo. The poor guy is probably going crazy hoping you are single and interested and when he looks you up on facebook and mfp all he sees are pictures of you with some other dude! LOL

    4863441_2703.jpg

    See what I mean??? Who's this scary dude?
    ^^^

    What if that's him?! That would definitely put me off! lol

    If that was HIM she wouldn't be posing the question.
  • ImNotThatBob
    ImNotThatBob Posts: 371 Member
    Just be yourself. Ask if he'd like to join you for lunch. He'll have to talk to you about something then let the conversation take it's natural course.
  • Stephie_J
    Stephie_J Posts: 260 Member
    You could always ask how his weekend was, what he got up to and if he spent it with his girlfriend>? - Oh, you don't have one?! ... :D
  • lchovet
    lchovet Posts: 68
    Avoid workplace relationships. If anything avoid dating the intern, the IT guy and most importantly your boss.

    Urrrggh. He is one of these.

    I guess we'll change the subject, then and talk about thigh gaps and eating back my exercise calories.

    If he's the IT guy, subtle will never work.
  • lchovet
    lchovet Posts: 68
    1. go up to person you like
    2. do you have a boyfriend/wife?
    3. Yes i do! (look like this -_- ) No (proceed to ask if he will be free one day) set up date.

    If yes: To bad, I have a friend that would be perfect for you.
    Always come in with an exit strategy.
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    If he's the IT guy, ask him how he likes Diablo III. Then ask if his girlfriend is getting sick of him playing it all the time.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,985 Member
    I have a wee mini crush on someone I work with. I don't know if he's married, or in a relationship, or single and available. I'd like to know so that I can (appropriately and subtly) flirt with him, or NOT flirt with him and therefore not make a fool of myself.

    So how can I find out without asking him, or asking anyone else (making it obvious I'm interested in him)? Tact is needed. Help! x
    Ask him where he last took his SO (if he has one) on their last date out. Tell him your looking for ideas where to go.

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  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Did you try just asking?
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    I have a wee mini crush on someone I work with. I don't know if he's married, or in a relationship, or single and available. I'd like to know so that I can (appropriately and subtly) flirt with him, or NOT flirt with him and therefore not make a fool of myself.

    So how can I find out without asking him, or asking anyone else (making it obvious I'm interested in him)? Tact is needed. Help! x

    are...you...seeing...anybody?
  • _Ben
    _Ben Posts: 1,608 Member
    Facebook?
  • TeenaMarina
    TeenaMarina Posts: 420 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....

    For starters... change your profile photo. The poor guy is probably going crazy hoping you are single and interested and when he looks you up on facebook and mfp all he sees are pictures of you with some other dude! LOL

    4863441_2703.jpg

    See what I mean??? Who's this scary dude?
    ^^^

    Hahahaha you guys are all hilarious. This is me with my drunken BROTHER at Beerfest last summer!
  • TeenaMarina
    TeenaMarina Posts: 420 Member
    Facebook?

    He's not on Facebook. I can't ask him, I just can't. I must just suffer in silence until either:
    A. He sweeps me off my feet, or
    B. His girlfriend shows up at work one day to get car keys or something.
  • seventwenty
    seventwenty Posts: 565 Member
    This thread is STILL around w/ no conclusion? OP, you're doin' it wrong!
  • TeenaMarina
    TeenaMarina Posts: 420 Member
    This thread is STILL around w/ no conclusion? OP, you're doin' it wrong!
    Look, buddy, I'm not doing the note. You wanna phone him and ask him for me?!
  • chrishgt4
    chrishgt4 Posts: 1,222 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....

    For starters... change your profile photo. The poor guy is probably going crazy hoping you are single and interested and when he looks you up on facebook and mfp all he sees are pictures of you with some other dude! LOL

    4863441_2703.jpg

    See what I mean??? Who's this scary dude?
    ^^^

    What if that's him?! That would definitely put me off! lol

    If that was HIM she wouldn't be posing the question.

    dude, it was a joke. and it could be him - don't you have pictures with friends of the opposite sex?
  • coconutbuNZ
    coconutbuNZ Posts: 578 Member
    Contacts. Talk to colleagues you can trust. Get them to find out! Good luck to you :wink:
  • Alma_Sana
    Alma_Sana Posts: 453 Member
    I would just do some innocent flirting and see how he responds. . .go from there.
  • Mina133842
    Mina133842 Posts: 1,573 Member
    I still think you should try and see if everyone is up for drinks on friday after work sometime - OR.....ask what he's planning to do for Memorial weekend? that would be a great clue- just seeing where is a fun place to go for a picnic or BBQ? get some advice on that or something.. perfect opportunity - besides, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    If he's the IT guy, ask him how he likes Diablo III. Then ask if his girlfriend is getting sick of him playing it all the time.

    Lol, yes, do this.
  • bethmakesmusic
    bethmakesmusic Posts: 164 Member
    There's some good suggestions on here! I hope it works out for you!!! Keep us posted okay? BTW, I totally feel you. I always got super shy around cute guys, plus, the workplace makes it extra difficult.
  • AmericanExpat
    AmericanExpat Posts: 158 Member
    I'm not going to just ask him. Why can't guys just sense that I'm single and I like them?! Ugh, guys....


    Pfft b/c your passive aggressiveness is our fault ;-)

    Strike up a conversation, srsly. What's he going to do? Not like you? BFD!

    I agree... I generally just tell a guy I am interested..

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