Would you have said something...

bm99

I would have said something.

Next time try to agree ahead of time not to bring kids. I'm sure the kid was horribly embarassed, but also you people sound like terrible role models for young almost teens. Not that you shouldn't do whatever you like when you're by yourself, but I know I wouldn't want my sons to witness a bunch of adults drink until they're out of control.

Poor kid. No one deserves a mother like that.

bm99

It's not your child, and not your business.

Ridiculous.

I reserve the right to judge any drunken idiot mother I ever come across, and to make sure she knows I think she's trash.

beccas27

IDK.. If saying something would have helped or done any good anyways.. Just think what the kid can see at home!

I'm very mouthy, So I would have called her a trashy ***** or something.. For doing that in front of here kid!

DieVixen

ehhh they are just boobs who cares

TheRoadDog

Nope. I wouldn't have said anything. As long as the 12 yr old wasn't in harm's way. Bad parenting isn't illegal.

Grimmerick

ehhh they are just boobs who cares

I would normally agree with this statement except that they were his moms boobs and that makes my skin crawl

Maude_Lewbowski

I'm not sure how this is the GF's fault if the father brough his daughter along, was warned about how rowdy things were going to be and HE didn't look out for the best interest of his daughter. I'm not a fan of blaming the significant other b/c the parent is not parenting. Or did I totally read this post wrong?

MNguerita

I'm appauled to think that any parent would act that way around their young child...I know I wouldn't...there is a time and a place, and a thing called baby sitters...I guess I don't know what I would say if anything as I am not the childs parent, but I would be hoping that the kid flashed a photo and posted it on facebook so the mom could feel a little bit of embarrassment for her actions around her child? Tough situation.

TNTwedell

I think I would have said something to the friend that brought the partying girlfriend. As his guest he is responsible for what happens with/to her. she was totally wrong to have her child there and to be behaving like that. I'm not a prude, but there is a time and place for everything and that wasn't the right place or time.

agree!

Grimmerick

All I know is I am glad you don't boat around where I do. You people appear to be the kind that eventually run into a family and kill someone because everyone is drunk and think that because it is a boat and not a car it is ok.

you have a point but you made an error here..........and that was in your judgement
tsk tsk you know what happens when you assume...................

Audddua

I'm not going to lie... I'm opinionated and I tend to have a big mouth after a few drinks... so I probably would have said something (and regretted it later). My sober brain thinks its best to keep your mouth shut 100%. However, I think you have EVERY right to ensure child does not come along the adult boating trip again. If she insists upon bringing the child again then she's just opened herself up for the chat you politely avoided the first time.

(Oh and she's clearly trash, but pointing that out just makes you look petty. Don't lower yourself to her level because she'll just beat you with experience trust me)

*** [I had to add this after I posted it because I was still pondering.] If she does try to bring the child along again I would recommend that you apologize and say, "I'm sorry, but I'm uncomfortable having a child around while we're drinking this much". DO NOT say anything that judges her or she'll get defensive. Hold your ground and stay polite. Good luck! ***

osualex

Nope. I think it's pretty horrible and disgusting to parent like that, but as long as it's not actual proven abuse or neglect, I would stay out of it. I would tell my friend EXACTLY what I thought of his girlfriend though.

suzikay12

I'm not sure how this is the GF's fault if the father brough his daughter along, was warned about how rowdy things were going to be and HE didn't look out for the best interest of his daughter. I'm not a fan of blaming the significant other b/c the parent is not parenting. Or did I totally read this post wrong?

Haha, totally read it wrong. It was the girlfriends kid. Sometimes it's hard to remember the original post after reading through all the answers!

semeyer

It's worth mentioning if its bothering you. She might have already realized that she made herself look foolish in front of her kid, or she may tell you to blow it out your A. Either way, if it makes YOU feel uncomfortable, then speak your mind.

oneIT

So you think if you said something it would have done something? You only would have said something for your own peace of mind. This is prob normal for her and won't stop. Nothing you can do.

mamnboston

I would have told her that unless she was going to breast feed him... to put them away.

LOL, I see you read the Time Magazine...

WhittRak

It's not your child, and not your business.

Ridiculous.

I reserve the right to judge any drunken idiot mother I ever come across, and to make sure she knows I think she's trash.

THIS!!! SO THIS!!!!

impyimpyaj

No, I would not have said anything. Yes, you were right to be bothered. But you don't know her, so whatever you say is not going to get through to her, and it's only going to cause tension, and depending on the kind of person she is, it might cause more problems for her son. You can say something to your friend though, and let him know that you thought it was extremely inappropriate behavior, and that you would appreciate it if she would control herself if she's going to bring her child to hang out with you guys.

mamnboston

Nope. I think it's pretty horrible and disgusting to parent like that, but as long as it's not actual proven abuse or neglect, I would stay out of it. I would tell my friend EXACTLY what I thought of his girlfriend though.

I second that, your friend's girlfriend is completely reckless and clearly doesn't care about her child...why would anyone want to be with her?

taunto

Just because your kids are at home, doesn't give you the license to flash. I don't know if you personally get this wild and flash everybody but if you do, kids or no kids, you got no room to judge. If you don't, then change the company because the person that does this kind of action in front of her own kids won't think twice about doing it in front of your kids.

meshashesha2012

as long as the boat captain wasnt drunk i dont get what the big deal is.

if people called social services for kids being around drunk adults when i was growing up, noone would have been raised with their ral family

bighouse51

I think you should re-read your own post and then determine if you should take yourself seriously. What a joke.

Audddua

I think you should re-read your own post and then determine if you should take yourself seriously. What a joke.

Are you talking about the OP or meshashesha20??

betrayalunknown

Yup, that's a toughie.... it's the good person inside of you who just wants to come out and scream "BE A GOOD MOTHER, FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!!!!!!" We all have those moments where we want to be good people by "advising" others on how to be better people. ie, not flashing your boobs in front of children.... or in public where someone/anyone could be offended. We all know about common courtesy, however we all slip up sometimes. After all, we are only human. It is easy to judge someone from a distance. Now with that said, I think that maybe the alcohol played a big part in what she did. I mean, I hope so. Not that it should be used as an excuse in ANY way... but some people honestly have different personalities that come out when intoxicated. So I'm sure she didn't mean to do that in front of her child... (Again, I hope).

So anyway, I think it is perfectly normal that you cannot seem to get past this. In fact, it really shows that you're a great person who genuinely cares about the well-being of a child of whom you have absolutely no connection to.

All in all, I don't think you should have said anything. It's not going to change who she is. You're comment might set her off and she might have taken it the wrong way. Afterall.... what is the "right" way to take someone's suggestion on how to act in front of a child, right?

Just take a deep breath and know that you're just a better person than she is... No one is perfect! We have to forgive people for their mistakes. The best thing that we can do is just learn from their shortcomings and just make OURSELVES better people:)

P.S. Karma is a *****, ya know

becoming_a_new_me

I too am an R (sometimes more) rated person, and I have a 12-year old daughter. There is no way in heck that I would subject her to seeing her mother act like a drunken idiot (as I sometimes do from time to time). Something definitely should be said, and I probably would have intervened at the sand bar too. Poor kid should never have been exposed to that behavior.

opus649

There are two kinds of mothers in this world: the kind who would get completely trashed and start flashing her boobies in front of her 12-year old son and the kind that wouldn't.

Do you honestly think anything you say can change one into the other?

vaderandbill

as long as the boat captain wasnt drunk i dont get what the big deal is.

if people called social services for kids being around drunk adults when i was growing up, noone would have been raised with their ral family

People call social services for everything these days. Also, you're about my age and the "system" wasn't what it is now. If you are deemed to be to under the influence and you are the immediate caretaker of child, they will investigate you and possibly remove your child for a short time. I'm not saying that I agree with how the system is set up but it is a reality

suzikay12

Yup, that's a toughie.... it's the good person inside of you who just wants to come out and scream "BE A GOOD MOTHER, FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!!!!!!!" We all have those moments where we want to be good people by "advising" others on how to be better people. ie, not flashing your boobs in front of children.... or in public where someone/anyone could be offended. We all know about common courtesy, however we all slip up sometimes. After all, we are only human. It is easy to judge someone from a distance. Now with that said, I think that maybe the alcohol played a big part in what she did. I mean, I hope so. Not that it should be used as an excuse in ANY way... but some people honestly have different personalities that come out when intoxicated. So I'm sure she didn't mean to do that in front of her child... (Again, I hope).

So anyway, I think it is perfectly normal that you cannot seem to get past this. In fact, it really shows that you're a great person who genuinely cares about the well-being of a child of whom you have absolutely no connection to.

All in all, I don't think you should have said anything. It's not going to change who she is. You're comment might set her off and she might have taken it the wrong way. Afterall.... what is the "right" way to take someone's suggestion on how to act in front of a child, right?

Just take a deep breath and know that you're just a better person than she is... No one is perfect! We have to forgive people for their mistakes. The best thing that we can do is just learn from their shortcomings and just make OURSELVES better people:)

P.S. Karma is a *****, ya know

Thank you for this post.

JeepBaja

You need a license to,

Drive a car,
Ride a bike,
Own a dog,
Run a business,
Cut somebody's hair,
Sell a house,
Go fishing,
Go hunting,
Walk in the woods,
Sell a gun,
Buy a gun,
To beg for money (Raleigh, NC)
Babysitting (New Jersey)
Sell lemonade on the corner
Have a garage sale

BUT ANYONE CAN HAVE CHILDREN, NO QUESTIONS ASKED?

BelleHeart

You should talk to the mom!! The child is 12! It's not like he is gonna forget this but they can prevent this from happening again... Some people just shouldn't be parents.....