Do you look before commenting?

clarkeje1

I do.

KaleidoscopeEyes1056

I always read them so I can give more specific comments. I feel like that's more helpful than just "good job"

As for my diary, I appreciate both the general and specific comments.

carld256

No, I don't look at diaries at all. I'm assuming the people I'm talking to are adults and capable of handling their own diets without my advice. But, I'll be happy to comment if asked.

Also, thinking about it, I don't have "xxx completed his diary" etc. in my newsfeed, and I don't normally comment on those. I comment on weight loss, exercise, and assorted odds and ends.

jazziesaj11

Sooo, out of curiosity... xD Who here actually looks at people's diaries before they comment? Like, really looks? I do for each of my friends. I try to make suggestions if I see something (I hope you all don't take it personally I'm just trying to be helpful) ;D and I'm open and honest about my diary. I log every ice cream sammich and cookie lol. I enjoy the feedback as well, harsh or not. But I am constantly seeing comments on people's daily diary submissions with a "WTG", or "awesome job" etc when the person is barely eating. Not all the time, but quite a lot.

Personally, if I see one of my pals only netting 200 cals, I don't say "wtg", I say, "try and get those cals up", "your body needs more fuel for a workout like that," "you can do it!" etc. I especially see a lot of people not even hitting the 1200 cal mark PLUS burning a crazy 900+ cals the same day. I think this could actually damage someones mentality if you say "awesome job", I mean, you're basically congratulating them for barely eating, so they could take that as, "oh okay, eating less is good," you know? It's not healthy at all in my eyes so I try and make suggestions. My feelings are this, I actually care about my friends and want to see them achieve their goals as much as I want to see my own success. I love this site more than others around the web because of the great community support, and I feel I should try and be as helpful and supportive as I can be, since I want that in return. But regardless of my opinion, I'm curious to hear other peoples views on this, so... who else actually looks over their pals diaries before just reading "___was under his/her calorie goal" and saying WTG! xD

There are times when I just comment WTG on a friend's diary without looking at it... HOWEVER, these are people whose diaries I have reviewed and I pretty much know what they are doing. I try to not just blanket "WTGs" on people who I don't know what they are doing... You bring out great points here.

I'll also say, there are many who will try to give advice on "how to lose weight" when people say "I have hit a plateau and can't lose this last 10 lbs, or some such thing"... Then I look at their profile and find that they are at a BMI of 16 or 17 and they are still trying to lose weight... happens a lot with young females. It does pay to do a bit of investigation before making suggestions or even encouragements...

Exactly, After a few bad experiences I'm more cautious of everything. I read my friends profiles now to get to know them and their goals, and to make sure Its not a case like you said. I dont know, I just feel this is more personal then say facebook simply because of the fact that we're all here for the same goal to be healthier and fit so I like to actual know my friends to a degree, not just accept a billion random people. xD Although it hard not to with all the awesome peeps here.

OnMyWeigh464

I look! I'm curious how all my friends are eating.

I have one friend who doesn't seem to eat breakfast so I always ask "how come no breakfast?" it's such sh important start to the day!

StrawberrySt

I do look at diaries and I expect people to look at mine!

I'm not judgemental about it and I'm not perfect either.

I won't comment if the net is really low for the day but if it's a consistent thing, I will comment with a friendly suggestion.

I like people commenting on my sodium intake or how I fit a treat into my daily goal, it keeps me accountable!

ednabnana

I look at my friend's diaries at least the ones I comment on. I like food ideas

eta: Unless I am on my cell phone. The android app does not allow me to view the diaries.

wbgolden

i never comment on diaries because i never look at diaries.

This comforts me... :-P

Oh it's on now!

jazziesaj11

i never comment on diaries because i never look at diaries.

This comforts me... :-P

Oh it's on now!

:laugh: LOL Now now, let's settle down. xD hahaha

WifeNMama

i never comment on diaries because i never look at diaries.

This comforts me... :-P

Oh it's on now!

*hides chocolate and butter* nothing to see here. Move along.

MaraDiaz

I comment on exercise and on comments made by people but not on food because I don't look at diaries most times and I don't want to tell someone they did a great job, then later find out all they had to eat that day was four twinkies and a diet coke.

Kaylarhodes

I look, but mostly because I am looking to add something new to my diet.

sandrahermione

I do look sometimes but keep thinking. Processed, processed etc. or junk junk not particularly on friends but people posting too. I feel worried for them if they eat little but high cal food or good food but very little around a 1000. I am more of an overeater than a bad eater generally. Too much yoga and looking after your body madness in my head. However, I go through phases where I eat rubbish gain weight and feel terrible, so do not feel in the position to moan at others. I just want to hug undereaters and say 'why?' I have only ever under eaten during periods of grief so sort of feel like that towards them as if they need to be taken care of.
When I see people who seem to enjoy starving themselves I find it quite repulsive.
Either way I don't know anyone well enough to comment, There are just too many variables that I am unaware of for the individual concerned for me to judge.
I would however like to boot off obvious ED sufferers that praise their choice in imagery and word. They are not helping themselves or us. Found a few of those and considered reporting them. (under 99lbs at 5'9") Should I? What do you think? Sorry for the rant.

12by311

I only comment on people's exercise.

I don't really care about what people eat.

jazziesaj11

I do look sometimes but keep thinking. Processed, processed etc. or junk junk not particularly on friends but people posting too. I feel worried for them if they eat little but high cal food or good food but very little around a 1000. I am more of an overeater than a bad eater generally. Too much yoga and looking after your body madness in my head. However, I go through phases where I eat rubbish gain weight and feel terrible, so do not feel in the position to moan at others. I just want to hug undereaters and say 'why?' I have only ever under eaten during periods of grief so sort of feel like that towards them as if they need to be taken care of.
When I see people who seem to enjoy starving themselves I find it quite repulsive.
Either way I don't know anyone well enough to comment, There are just too many variables that I am unaware of for the individual concerned for me to judge.
I would however like to boot off obvious ED sufferers that praise their choice in imagery and word. They are not helping themselves or us. Found a few of those and considered reporting them. (under 99lbs at 5'9") Should I? What do you think? Sorry for the rant.

No rant at all, I'm loving all the opinions on this. I honestly agree fully with you and here's my take on people with ED's here, if I see, and feel they are honestly here to try and recover and become healthy again, then I try and give them as much support as possible. I think you have to get to know them or at least read their profile because their are quite a few who say "I'm in recovery and wont accept adds from people with eds" HOWEVER, I refuse to support or encourage those who are on here with ED's and are trying to lose more weight. Not only is it against everything I believe in, but I think that is the WORST kind of influence to have especially since there are a lot of young girls (18-20) on here that can be derailed and easily influenced by that type of behavior. So when I see those, I report. They don't like it? Whatchu want me to tell ya? xD lol As for the super processed diets, I agree and try to give advice or "hints" i.e. try this instead, it's super yummy too" I don't want to be mean and say, that food is crap your killing your body. xD But you know, subtle hints...

The problem is, I think because we've all been through trying to lose weight before and empathise with harsh criticism, people fear other's reading their diary because of the chance someone may criticise them, vice versa, people are afraid to comment because they don't WANT to seem critical and hurt that persons feelings. At least that's the vibe I'm getting from most of these comments. However, and again this is just my opinion, I feel the entire point of this lifestyle change and strong community base is to change bad habits and do so through help, suggestions and knowledge of others. If you never leave your diary open, how will you ever get feedback if you're getting proper nutrients, macros, etc. On the other hand, if you never leave comments how will the people know if they could/should be doing something different. Idk, just my take.

sweetpea129

I look at the diary just to get some ideas for myself. But i would never comment something negative on it. It's not my place to judge unless they have specifically asked me. I dont think making a diary public means that one has the right to comment about it. Many people (myself included) do it to give ideas to others.

78brownie_wechanged

This

I don't look at diaries. Personally, I think it's weird to comment on what someone eats unless they ask. In fact, my diary used to be public, but I didn't like it when people would comment on what I ate....so I made it private. Eh... just my two cents.

kaydensmom12

I look but normally say great day regardless. I used to say something to those that logged 800 calories, but they didn't care, and honestly who am I to judge them and tell them that they need to up their calories. I will say something once, let them know my stand if they are new and seem to be unsure, but if they continue to eat that way then I respect it because we all have different journeys and different meanings of "healthy". Some people would comment on mine and say "wow, you are cutting it close" because I would always eat my calories and they would always have at least 200 left for the day, so just because you or someone says something, it does not mean that it is correct. We all have different ideas and different ways of eating.