Did you tell anyone?

elizabethyoungcollins

hI This is a great topic. Taking care of ourselves is certainly a good thing to share. What I believe is that we have to tell ourselves
first that we are worth living for , living longer, healthier, more energetic lives. My husband is also overweight and I stick to comments
these days that reinforce healthy behavior. He's been telling me that he's eating more salad and he wants to go back to exercising
in the mornings before work. The last time I saw him (last week) I told him that he looked like he lost weight. He said he didn't but
sometimes he doesn't give himself credit. I try to remember what it was like when I was growing up and Mom was always on me
about what I ate and how I shouldn't eat this and that and food became a guilty pleasure rather than a source of nourishment. So
it's difficult to focus only on myself but the fact is that I am not at my ideal weight yet either. I did lose 12 pounds on my health
club's "Losing Big" 8-week program and made progress afterwards in continuing to work out with weights with a buddy. Then I
had to travel for work, we both haven't been going to the club to work out now for a couple of weeks. However, I have bought
the weights and a yoga mat and right now I'm getting off the computer, laying out the mat, and doing some weight lifting and other
exercises on the mat (like the plank which was a challenge to hold for 30 seconds and the last time I could do it for three minutes.)
Will report on how long I do it this afternoon!!!

scubalynnie

My boyfriend knows and my parents know I am trying to be healthier. My other friends either don't get it or don't care so, I don't tell them. My boyfriend has been great. He keeps making sure that I am doing it for me and not for him. He is a little thrown by planning meals a few days ahead but, he will adjust!

BAMFMeredith

I've told a couple people, and most people I know are aware that I run (I post stuff about races I've done on facebook, twitter, etc), but the only people who REALLY know that I'm trying to lose a considerable amount of weight and get in shape are my mom, sister, boyfriend, and 2 best friends. The first 3 are awesome (well, my sister just gets annoyed with me because she doesn't care about health/fitness right now), and one of my 2 besties is very supportive, but doesn't have much input seeing as she bounced back to her cute little pre-baby body precisely 2 months after giving birth, has never had to count a calorie in her life, and gets all her exercise from chasing her almost 2 year old around and doing yoga a couple times a week.

My other bestie, I love her to death and would do ANYTHING for her, but she's kind of a one-upper. I have hundreds of wonderful things to say about her, but I think her only really negative quality is that if I'm losing weight, she doesn't need to lose as much (or has lost it faster) or if something awful's happened to me, something worse has happened to her (except for when it's something really legit, like when my dad died---she didn't try to one-up me on that), etc. I achieved a goal, she's already achieved it or doesn't need to. Or if it's something that I've done better than she has at, she downplays it. I love her, but I think she's just really insecure. But at the end of the day, I can call her to hit the gym with me and she is *mostly* supportive.

Other than that, I don't tell people. I just want to impress others with the finished product (like my entire graduating class from high school that I'll see at our 10 year reunion in September!)

montana_girl

I havent even told my best friend. She lives a few hours away so I dont see her often but we talk on the phone everyday. I havent wanted to tell her because she is overweight too and everytime we talk about losing weight it turns into a negative compatition and I didnt want that this time. It is just something I need to do (lose weight) not make it into a negative thing. I am actually very nervous about when I do tell her. I am scared she is going to get mad that I didnt tell her. But I felt like this is what I needed to do.

I have a friend just like that! I didn't tell her I had re-joined WW and was losing weight because she was also doing WW (we live in different states but email every day). I think I told her two or three months later and she was pissed. But I know I made the right choice because she was very competitive and once she found out I was losing weight she was constantly "comparing" our weight loss.

In the end... I stuck with it and lost 115 pounds.... she on the other hand, has gained and lost over the years, and done a half dozen different diets to end up back where she started.

She just couldn't understand that I wasn't competing with her or anyone else, that I was losing weight for me because I wanted to be healthy and have energy to enjoy life. I keep hoping something clicks and she get back on track.... :ohwell:

Treece68

I have not told anyone but my boyfriend we live together so it would be odd if he didn't notice me eating less and better and working out every day after work. I haven't told the rest of my family this has been an ongoing struggle my whole life I don't want to disappoint them or have them scold me if I eat a brownie. Also it always seems to unmotivate me when I let them know whats going on about stuff like this.

jwoww81

I TOLD MY BOSS AND HE'S LIKE "OK WHATEVER JENNY YOU'VE BEEN TELLING ME THIS FOR 4 YEARS AND MY HUSBAND IS SUPPORTIVE BUT HE JUST DOESNT SEEM TO HAVE A POSITIVE OUTLOOK PROBABLY CAUSE IVE BEEN DIETING FOR 8 YEARS! I KEEP TELLING MYSELF THIS IS REALLY IT! SO SOMETHINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID AND JUST LET PPL SEE RESULTS!

soulynyc

i didn't tell anyone until i lost 15 lbs except for 1 friend.. and then when i told everyone.. i stopped losing bummer!!!

dabomb5198

I also tried several times before losing the weight. What finally worked was everyone knowing and that held me accountable. Now I have people ask me about the weight loss and I tell them what worked for me. I have one rule. I let them bring the subject of their weight loss and I always wait for them to offer updates on their progress or lack of progress. Lots of encouragement really helped me.

hikergalrm

I told my husband, he is a very supportive guy:smooched:

emnk5308

I kind of just went for it.. I didn't really talk to any one about it till it started. My boyfriend of course knows all about it, as he is my only supporter here at the moment. I've talked to my Mom about it too... but mostly because my younger sister and brother are on the heavier side and I want them to see what's going on.

Other than that a few friends I work with know, mostly because I've had to explain why I'm not eating. I do have about 3 or so people are work that are truly interested about how its going though, so we talk.

xbekkiex

Anyone who would listen haha... seriously though - everyone I work closely with is aware, mostly because I have bootcamp at lunch on mondays, wednesdays and fridays - but I also don't want people to be offended when I don't eat their treats, or leaving cupcakes on my desk!

emnk5308

My boyfriend knows and my parents know I am trying to be healthier. My other friends either don't get it or don't care so, I don't tell them. My boyfriend has been great. He keeps making sure that I am doing it for me and not for him. He is a little thrown by planning meals a few days ahead but, he will adjust!

Mine is like that too!! He keeps asking me that, and telling me to make sure this is all for me! I can't believe how sweet he can be sometimes =p I know how you feel about people not getting it too.. 'Fad diets' and pills and all that stuff are SO common that when you say you're losing weight/ watching calories etc. people automatically assume your going with the flow and falling for a quick weight loss scam. I HATE explaining what I'm doing..