People who can't help themselves

secretlobster

...From making comments

A few weeks ago I was at Whole Foods picking up some dinner to go, after a workout. I handed my closed box of food to the cashier who weighs it and says "wow you must be REALLY hungry! That's a ton of food!"
I ask, "Are you really making a judgment about how much I'm eating?"
She says, "I guess so, yeah?"
I say, "Okay, thanks for the comment"

If she had looked inside, she would have seen one chicken breast (with bones) and a bunch of broccoli.

I've been recovered from an ED that I lived with for two years. Within the past couple of months I've been trying to eat a decent amount of food to keep up with my active lifestyle, and it's comments like this that made me want to crawl into a hole and starve myself in the first place.

I hate people.

lady_in_weighting

forget what a stupid cashier thinks, you and i both know that what we are eating is appropriate for our bodies in terms of the amount of exercise and weights you do. she is another one of these obnoxious people who doesnt know that you should normally to maintain weight! x

umachanxo

People don't have the right to judge how much food you're buying.

YOU know what you're putting in your body. YOU know it was only chicken breast and brocolli. Her opinion shouldn't matter at all (I know, and I understand, that it hurt you).

She probably looked at you, was jealous that you are damn fine, and wanted to shoot you down.

MJ7910

i know what you mean. i think a lot of this comes from hearing stupid comments my whole life from my family. if i took too much food "well i guess your eyes were bigger than your stomach" or other crap like that... always have to comment on what i'm eating and how much. it grew into an ED for me and i'm still facing some of the thoughts i have due to that... it's people who have to say that stuff that i want to scream at. but really when i think about it they don't knwo what i went through or what i'm going through. but it still bothers me

Mrsthickner

I hope you told her supervisor. I'm certain that Whole Foods doesn't conduct business that way and would not want their cashiers do so either.
People are generally not nice and don't have a clue as to what they speak about. I wouldn't pay her no mind honey. Just keep working on you and your eating habits and let it roll off your back.

MsMargie1116

Don't let the ignorance of others de-rail your efforts. I probably would have opened the box up and showed her the "TON OF FOOD" and reminded her not to judge. You can't judge a book by it's cover nor a meal by it's weight.

ZugTheMegasaurus

I don't think she meant anything by it. The box was heavy; that's what she said. It's her job to talk to you. She didn't call you fat or say you were overeating or make any assumptions about you, negative or otherwise. You could have said anything in response, "Broccoli weighs a lot, doesn't it?" or something. You jumped to the conclusion that she's judging you instead.

NMJosephs

I once had a cashier question me on the amount of produce I was buying. It was something along the lines of "Wow - are you a rabbit? You didn't get anything from the rest of the store!"

Apparently he doesn't know how to eat healthy!

xAdrianax

This happened to my mum before in a supermarket
Another customer commented on her overflowing trolley
My mum said 'I'm having a family gathering of 10 people round tonight IS THAT OK WITH YOU?'

kristen6022

I would have told her "Yeah, I'm really hungry because I just did an hour of Crossfit. What did you do today?"

hbrittingham

I think it was more likely that she looked at you and how in shape you are and was surprised at the weight of the food in your box. I really don't think she meant any harm. Probably blurted it out without thinking.

Amy_Lynn74

I had a cashier tell me this weekend that I shouldn't eat tuna because it was high in Mercury. I told her, "Well, I don't think 2 cans a week is excessive and I'm not pregnant so I'm not hurting anyone else. Plus when I was in school we put our fingers right in a beaker of Mercury. If that didn't kill me I'm sure the tuna won't." and walked out. People can be so lame sometimes!!!:flowerforyou:

secretlobster

Thanks guys. Yeah I realize that she is ignorant and it shouldn't bother me, but none of us are completely invulnerable to other peoples' comments and even though we know we should shrug it off, it's hard not to take it to heart. Little comments like that as MJ says are tiny pushes toward an ED. They add up. I'm not going to blame anyone else for my ED but I wasn't confident and secure enough to let people's remarks bounce off of me, and it fed my self-doubt. Making comments about peoples' food is so unnecessary, especially when you should be proffessional about someone's groceries. I really wanted to punch her in the face for that.

PuggleLover

I get comments like this all the time... You must be hungry... do you have a lot of people to feed.... guess you are stocking up for a month... you won't go hungry this week. Makes me wonder what kind of comments people get who come through with two carts of food or a flat bed of stuff from Costco. People can be retarded.

I was at Chic Fil A with a friend who is Chinese and the cashier said to her... wow... you don't look like you would be able to speak English like that. (She speaks perfect English). Dork.

misticache

I don't think she meant anything by it. The box was heavy; that's what she said. It's her job to talk to you. She didn't call you fat or say you were overeating or make any assumptions about you, negative or otherwise. You could have said anything in response, "Broccoli weighs a lot, doesn't it?" or something. You jumped to the conclusion that she's judging you instead.

It came off as judgemental. She should've kept her mouth shut if she didn't have anything positive to say. I talk to my cahsiers all the time but normally they will say ooh that looks good have you tried it before? But to come out and say that weighs alot you must be hungry IS HER JUDGING. Next time look at her name badge and report her. She probably won't lose her job but should at least get a lesson in customer service.

niftyafterfifty

I am so sorry that happened to you; some people are so rude! I can't imagine saying that to anyone; much less a stranger. I applaud your composure, and the way you handled it. Please don't let it cause you to go back to an unhealthy relationship with food. Hang in there!

Kissybiz

That happened to me once. I had a frozen pizza, a bottle of wine, and big bar of chocolate (this of course was before MFP), and the cashier made a similar comment... "are you going to eat all that?" I just looked at her like.. WTF business is that of yours? Totally pissed me off. Don't let it derail you though.. "I see stupid people"

kansasbelle

You could have also spoken to her manager about being rude. She is in customer service and that is not the kind of person the store probably wants representing them.

beautifulbrat

I have dealt with friends having/recovering from ed and I'm a cashier as well. I won't say anything about people's groceries, but sometimes if its something that catches my eye, I'll check out the nutrition label and ask them what is it like. But some people can be flat out rude and I'm sorry that the lady was that way

MonolithTMA

At work we have a salad bar where they charge by the pound. Once I get done pilling on all the greens and veggies it gets pretty heavy, which of course has zero bearing on how healthy it is. People can be real idiots sometimes.

meg7399

Having worked in a retail situation before, I know I said tons of probably really sumb things to people. When you just check people out all day you look for ways to start conversations. It was probably harmless.

Ralphrabbit

and it could have been for 2 people to share!! Opinions are not required unless asked for. I suspect someone keeps commenting on her food & so she thinks everyone can do it........
You know yourself better than that. Ignore & move on!

beautifulbrat

That happened to me once. I had a frozen pizza, a bottle of wine, and big bar of chocolate (this of course was before MFP), and the cashier made a similar comment... "are you going to eat all that?" I just looked at her like.. WTF business is that of yours? Totally pissed me off. Don't let it derail you though.. "I see stupid people"

i've had people come through my line with that and i just say it looks like you're gonna have a good night or ask them what the wine is like, since i dont drink a whole lot

jackpotclown

".....right in the face....that's where it's goin" would be my first initial thought \m/

jennifer52484

lol

AmyW4225

I think it was more likely that she looked at you and how in shape you are and was surprised at the weight of the food in your box. I really don't think she meant any harm. Probably blurted it out without thinking.

This was my thought!

secretlobster

"I see stupid people"

Haha... Turns out I was dead the whole time!!

dirtbikegirl5

Yep, people are rude sometimes. My recovery made me strong. I would have probably said "do you practice being this rude or does it just come naturally?".

thetrishwarp

I was a grocery cashier. I tried very hard not to comment on what people were buying, unless it was obviously on sale or non-food related. Example: cat litter was on sale, these 10lb containers of it. So when people would come through with like, 6 of them, I'd joke "stocking up, eh?" Hopefully non-offensive.

However, I didn't care to make small talk about the quanitity of food people bought, unless they brought it up. Some people would automatically justify their 3 carts full - "I'm throwing a dinner party!" "I'm a Girl Guide leader, these are for a camping trip!" I always just smiled and said "that's great" even though I really don't care if you consume $400 of groceries in a week.

Anyway, I think my point is that, having done the job, I don't get how people even care enough to make a comment about someone else's purchases.

juliaamilee

Huh you are in a grocery store what else would you buy but food? Most of us dont run there daily, well at least I dont. I buy for my family and if I am buying preapred food I am buying for more than likely lunch the next day as well. The only thing a cashier has ever said to me. With me cart over flowing... "Will this be food stamps today" I said "I WISH" this 300 $ comes from my pocket. I'll be gald to have some food stamps, give me a break for a change. LOL

MJ7910

Thanks guys. Yeah I realize that she is ignorant and it shouldn't bother me, but none of us are completely invulnerable to other peoples' comments and even though we know we should shrug it off, it's hard not to take it to heart. Little comments like that as MJ says are tiny pushes toward an ED. They add up. I'm not going to blame anyone else for my ED but I wasn't confident and secure enough to let people's remarks bounce off of me, and it fed my self-doubt. Making comments about peoples' food is so unnecessary, especially when you should be proffessional about someone's groceries. I really wanted to punch her in the face for that.

ED's start from little comments from different people taht build up over time and affect our body image. we don't always know what started an ED but we know what contributed to it. so yes, i will never blame anyone else for my past ED,but i will say taht if our society was less focused on commenting on each others food and how it's "too much" or "too little" there would probably be less people with EDs. i know mine was a result of feeling controlled by my family, but those comments don't help. sure she probably didn't mean anythign malicious by it. but it still was hurtful to OP so it was hurtful... our feelings are our feelings. i've never liked when people try to convince someone else to not feel their feelings. it leads to bad things. feel your feelings, express them, and be heard... and there would be less problems if we all did that.