Issues...

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  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I'm impatient, high strung and a bit of a control freak. I'm working on all those things but there are some areas where I really struggle.

    I'm a little bit flighty too. I joke that I'm always obsessed with something (I am!) and my husband teases me that I have ADOS (Attention Deficit ....OOOH Shiny!)

    I'm a "git'er dun" type of person and have no problem taking charge. The problem arises when others don't want me to and I haven't noticed. :blushing: So I'm trying to be more laid back and listen/watch before I jump in. It's especially important at home so I don't make my husband feel like I think he's an idiot or make my teens feel like I think they're babies. I have to step back, take my hands off and allow people to make mistakes. And then I have to stay that way and give them time to figure out what they want to do about it instead of trying to jump in and fix it!

    I am sensitive and easily offended but you'll never know it because I keep it to myself and try to work through it. I've got issues with trusting people too.

    I've got a whole lotta issues! :tongue: (But at least they all tie together in one nice package!)
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
    If someone compliments me I feel the driving need to punch them on the arm and run away. :/
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I believe that as soon as I admit that I have emotional attachment to someone, they will throw me away because Im not perfect.

    First it happened with my best friend
    then my parents
    then the rest of my blood
    then every friendly face in my world

    then I started a new life

    and i was all by myself. And Im so scared of it happening again, that I have tried to stay alone for a very very long time. Because Im happy and whole and unbroken and if it happens again I wont be. So I created a million rules for myself to keep it from happening as best I can.

    I like having nothing to lose. It feels safe.
  • mamamudbug
    mamamudbug Posts: 572 Member
    I stress out about everything and if someone else is stressing... well, I just take theirs on, too. I do the inappropriate laughing too, loud and long. My worst issue is probably seeing the best in everyone... doesn't sound like it would be bad but it is...


    Eta: can I just go back through all of your posts and pick this and that?
  • cm1458
    cm1458 Posts: 742 Member
    I'm WAY too emotional and take things to heart; I'm easily hurt. I really hate it too. lol
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    If someone compliments me I feel the driving need to punch them on the arm and run away. :/
    I am several hours away from you, so I feel confident that I can tell you that you are gorgeous, strong, brilliant, and amazing --- and you can't punch me OR run away, because this comment isn't going anywhere.

    You're a very special, wonderful person, Allie.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    I can't say, I can't be honest about it, and I can't tell anyone. So, it will just continue to torture me forever.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    anxiety in a major way! no one should ever ask me "what's the worst that can happen" unless they really want me to tell them 20 things that "could" happen. 99% of them will be completely irrational.
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    Because of my family history and my sentimental history I don't believe I am lovable
  • MissTattoo
    MissTattoo Posts: 1,203 Member
    I have control issues. I have no problem with relaxing and letting someone else be in control when I feel like they aren't going to nose dive us into the ground. My last two relationships I've had problems because both *kitten* quit their jobs and were content on letting me take care of things. I make a decent amount of money. I make enough to take care of myself and my daughter. I get stressed with money becomes an issue and a lot of guys don't like that and that's fine. I become supreme auditor when stuff like that has happened and I can find ways to pinch a penny for days.
    I don't want these issues in my next relationship so no more douche bags who don't want to work.
  • SpydrMnky27
    SpydrMnky27 Posts: 381 Member
    anxiety in a major way! no one should ever ask me "what's the worst that can happen" unless they really want me to tell them 20 things that "could" happen. 99% of them will be completely irrational.

    This is me too.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    I dont have issues...you just have misinterpretations.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    Because of my family history and my sentimental history I don't believe I am lovable

    this.

    Im so very sorry that anyone else has to feel thi pain as well.
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    If someone compliments me I feel the driving need to punch them on the arm and run away. :/

    I'll take it like the man I am, because you are amazing!!!!!!
  • rammsteinsoldier
    rammsteinsoldier Posts: 1,552 Member
    Too soft spoken and shy
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    I am always right...but i don't think that is an issue.
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    Because of my family history and my sentimental history I don't believe I am lovable

    yep exactly....**huggles you**
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    Because of my family history and my sentimental history I don't believe I am lovable
    Believe it or not, my dear, you are one of the most lovable people I've ever had the privilege of knowing (even if it is only on here) - funny, smart, BEAUTIFUL, and sooooo strong!

    I t doesn't matter if you believe it or not, because it's true.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    I am always right...but i don't think that is an issue.

    youre right
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    I'm laid back to a fault, I procrastinate until it's an emergency, and a little bit flakey.

    BUT, I'm really fun, don't take anything too seriously, and pretty much always have a smile on my face, so fruck it.


    I don't consider them issues, but what Kort described is pretty close for me.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I swing between delusions of grandeur and insecurity, but on the bright side, I'm good if I'm in the middle.
  • chantalb20
    chantalb20 Posts: 132
    my issues would take up an essay. :|
  • TK266
    TK266 Posts: 3,638 Member
    I have a tendency to be overly pedantic at time and not realize it until it is too late.
  • katejenkins1
    katejenkins1 Posts: 210 Member
    I may overreact a little bit and go overboard with the solution or stress over the lack there of
  • Ekoria
    Ekoria Posts: 262 Member
    I cry at the drop of a hat, I don't like being shouted at and I shake when I get into fights!
  • chubby_checkers
    chubby_checkers Posts: 2,352 Member
    I'm unforgiving, easily irritated, impatient, and I avoid confrontation like the plague. I can be incredibly mean; if I said half the things that I think, I'd have no friends.
  • p0pr0cksnc0ke
    p0pr0cksnc0ke Posts: 1,283 Member
    I have issues as do all... but I am learning to focus on my positive attributes more. Now I realize that my "issues" actually make me all that much more awesome
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I have issues as do all... but I am learning to focus on my positive attributes more. Now I realize that my "issues" actually make me all that much more awesome

    This is true! I :heart: you!
  • catherine4211
    catherine4211 Posts: 944 Member
    Too many to list. Biggest one would be having no patience.
  • supermom2002
    supermom2002 Posts: 180 Member
    I put on a good act. People always tell me how strong I am and blah blah blah...but what really goes on in my head scares the living *kitten* out of me.
    *never good enough (thanks mom)
    *short b*tch switch
    *have been hurt so many times I shut out anybody that tries to get close. I'm destined to be a crazy cat lady and i hate cats.
    *zero patience
    *control freak with a slight case of OCD

    and that's just the start of it.

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