Don't Be So Rude

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  • Merrilies
    Merrilies Posts: 32 Member
    Hey Ben, very good luck to you in the future, sounds like you are doing well, hope it continues.

    I don't like being rude but I like your attitude. The next time I get a 'you need to eat more' I may pluck up the courage to say back, 'and you need to eat less'. I bet that will shut them up :)
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Great job for losing those 20 kilos or 42 pounds. I hear you, you're not alone. I'm also in the same situation, when I reached my goal weight, people start saying that I look boney skinny now but in reality my body fat percentage is still at 20-21% & not to mention that my BMI is 22. I want to lower my body fat to 17%.

    Probably it is jealousy because mostly those same people dieted & failed which is why they can't take it that you're succeeding.
  • sarahmoo12
    sarahmoo12 Posts: 756 Member
    well done on reaching your goal! I would say its concern because they have always been used to the bigger you, im sure its really annoying maybe you should have a wee chat with them and just explain how they are making you feel ?
  • louised88
    louised88 Posts: 159
    Too right. People need to stop commenting on other peoples' bodies full stop. Unless they're asked for their opinion of course,
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    yeah don't worry you are not alone here, this time last year i was 225lbs and dianosed with a rare blood cancer and told i would be dead within a year if i kept living like i was, if i improved my life and stopped drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes it would probably range from 7-15 years, since then i was on 4 months chemo that didn't work and layed around waiting to die for about 3 months,i finally got out of my depression and in the past 5 months i have lost 65lbs and most of my body fat,i stay active and last week was told by my doctor that if i continue my life the way i am now (excercise and eating healthy,which keep in mind i eat 3,000 calories a day) then his best guess is i will probably die of old age before my cancer kills me because everything i have been doing is keeping my blood levels where they need to be....no medication....now i tell you this story because my mom has been with me during every one of my 100+ doctor visits and she knows how much i eat (which is 12 times a day - about 250 calories each) and she STILL said to me "make sure you don't over do it" (talking about excercise) and "how much more weight are you going to lose,you look too skinny" so i really think it is just that people have a mental image of how you are "supposed to look" because thats what you have looked like for so long,as well as an article i read a while back saying how most people (americans more so than others) when asked what is a healthy weight range for yourself, most picled a number in the obese category, i think the number was something like almost 80% of people, so i think over time we all just got so comfortable being obese that anything other than that seems wrong,and when we lose weight and feel great (and think we look great too) no one else is on that same page with us and it still looks so wrong to them...also on a side note i generally don't care what people think so i started making it a game for me,when someone says something negitive about my weight,i'll say something about thiers :D for example when my mom told me "don't over do it" my immediate reply to her was "don't under do it" followed by a smile and walking away :)


    WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Kudos to you. I'm speechless. :flowerforyou:
  • Kebby83
    Kebby83 Posts: 232 Member
    The truth is - I have said to someone that they need to eat more. This girl is perfect weight wise and well toned and she DOES eat - she is 23 and has the metabolism of a I don't know what - snacks on candy all day, eats cheeseburgers and guzzles sugary drinks and doesn't gain a pound. And I told her she needs to eat more. Because I am a big jealous girl!

    Rude? Meh, maybe a tiny bit. She laughed.

    People tell me to eat more - and I do need to eat more healthy things but I eat plenty and I am not skinny - 155lbs, 6"5. But people aren't used to seeing me at 155 - infact I moved countries when I was 19 so NONE of the people in my present life have seen me under 185lbs at least and most have seen me at 230lbs. They think I am looking skinnier - they worry. Even at 230 they saw me rushing around and active.

    I think people are over sensitive and slow to forgive too though. Don't worry so much about what people say. Don't you ever say something without thinking and it might offend another? I would hope the other person would realize you are human and humans do that **** constantly.

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