Compliments and (Double) Standards

13»

Replies

  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    Wow!!! that was not where I was going with it.
    Sorry I misunderstood your point. :flowerforyou:
  • MystiqueASAP
    MystiqueASAP Posts: 747
    Well said!
  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    I do use my judgement from the moment I meet someone. That isn't the same as "judging" them. I'm very fortunate that my assessment doesn't stop at appearance, or I would have some aesthetically beautiful jackholes in my life.

    This is why everyone eventually finds someone willing to tolerate them, because everyone is looking for something different. That isn't a bad thing.
  • WickedGarden
    WickedGarden Posts: 944 Member
    I think that as people realize how hard it is to 'be fit', their tastes change.

    When I had low self confidence, I dated some not so appealing guys. i just wanted to be accepted by 'someone'. Anyway, after one of them treated me like s#it, I started taking care of myself, and wanted to see if better looking guys would want to date me, it felt really terrible to be treated so badly by someone whom I now would view as 'ugly' (inside and out).
    They did, and it was fun. I realized it really was more about the confidence than the looks.

    IMHO, i find someone that takes care of themselves more attractive then someone who just sits around like a blob on the couch. That person is more likely to want to take care of their possessions and surroundings, (car/house/family/friends) then the person who doesn't take care of themselves. Mainly because I know how hard it is to follow a new eating lifestyle, and how hard it is to stick to a workout program.
  • jaxandmaksmom
    jaxandmaksmom Posts: 262 Member
    I am sorry.. but i truly believe that certain people do deserve to hear that..because they were *kitten* about it... i have been treated like **** because of my weight.. and i had a guy leave a date becuase " i was too fat.." now he saw me 60 lbs lighter and started to chat me up and see if we could go anywhere.. .

    he got a huge kiss my *kitten*.....

    other than that.. i really dont put my worth on if a guy finds me acceptable to date now then or will when i reach my goal.. i put my worth on me and who i am as a person and what i am good for and what i have to offer....

    i think people have to remember often at our heaviest we are not interested in the same things.. at my heaviest i was into movies and that.. now i would much rather go for a long walk or something... so dating pool changes alot

    i dont know.. i really dont care if he likes me now or then or whenever.. as long as i like myself that is all that matters
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member

    IDK I'm single and I wouldn't date a fatty.
    And being a chick--I can get away with bein fat in the sex department... but a fat dude has way more hinderances in the bedroom... I'm just sayin cause I've been with a very overweight dude when I Was skinny and I'm not gonna say it wasn't good but I know it could have been better.

    IF I totally fell in love with a fatty, I'd def have to implement some health codes.

    Hate me but that's how I am. And its a survival mode thing--survival of the fittest. Sorry.

    ********Same thing goes with a skinny dude, though, too--I don't want his hips breaking mine!!!!!!

    Wow. Maybe your post would be taken with a bit more respect if you addressed the topic in a mature way. Just because you are heavy doesn't give you the right to call other people "fatty". And the You can get away with being fat in the sex department but a man can't?

    You need to get your head checked...

Categories