How do I gain self esteem??
morgynsmama
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Any ideas? I still have weight to lose, but I feel fat and ugly still. Maybe that will never change no matter what I weigh.
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There isn`t a magic answer but trust me you are neither fat nor ugly. :flowerforyou:0
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I feel the same way, even though I have people tell me different. I guess maybe it's just a mental mind-set that you need to overcome, but it's hard! Even when I was a size 4/6, I still felt that way.0
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There isn`t a magic answer but trust me you are neither fat nor ugly. :flowerforyou:
Listen to Carl, he is very wise.
Hopefully putting some time and effort into taking care of yourself will help you feel better, I know it's worked for me.0 -
by doing the things that you are good at you gain enjoyment and the pleasure in knowing that you are awesome!!!0
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My friend, I wish I could tell you. I feel the same way as you. Joining this site was a step in the right direction. For me it's trying to build up what was tore down, the feeling of guilt etc. To me though you are beautiful!0
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It's hard. I have a hard time with this too. My bf reminds me on a regular basis that I'm smart and pretty and everything but I have a hard time believing it myself and I point out my flaws regularly. >.<0
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You can start by removing the negative self talk. Tell yourself everyday that you are worth it. You are worth every change you make, every step you take and every dream you have. You are beautiful and the only person who can add self esteem to you is YOU So keep moving in the right direction and remember that you have all the power!0
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McDonalds...it comes as a prize in the happy Meal.0
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McDonalds...it comes as a prize in the happy Meal.
I got mine at Victoria's Secret.0 -
Honey you are BEAUTIFUL and you should be proud of the weight you have lost! I can't tell you if your feelings for yourself will ever change! I hope they will! I hope mine will! But know that you are BEAUTIFUL!!!! Love you girl!!! Stay strong!!! You are GREAT motivation for me!!!0
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If you want self-esteem, behave like someone who already has it. Soon you will become someone with self-esteem.0
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The "Happy Meal" answer.... Our solutions can be purchased, our happiness can be acquired from pills or fast food or sex...
Wrong. It can be fun trying but wrong. Consequences aren't good with the Happy Meal strategy.
Self esteem takes a lifetime to build, and seconds to destroy. By starting the process of developing self-esteem, you gain some. It takes hard work, an investment of your time and energy, and you have to set goals. Achieving goals and developing a sense of pride in your accomplishing those goals is the time-honored way to gain self-esteem.
...or you can supersize your Bliss burger and eat until you are sad....then suffer the consequences. We've all been someplace like that.0 -
Be your own best friend. Would you ever say those negative thoughts you tell yourself on a regular basis to your friends or family? No, you wouldn't, so why say it to the most important person in the world - yourself?? Every time you start to doubt yourself, turn it around and talk to yourself as if you were your own best friend. It all starts from within, my dear!!! Focus only on the postives and forget the negatives. HUGZ!!0
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Look in the mirror and see what the rest of us see.....your gorgeous!!
Take the road your on one step at a time!! It'll come to you.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
McDonalds...it comes as a prize in the happy Meal.
I got mine at Victoria's Secret.0 -
Treat yourself with kindness. Chances are you would not tell someone else the things you tell yourself. It's always easier to believe the negative versus the postive. You have to retrain the way you think.0
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McDonalds...it comes as a prize in the happy Meal.
I got mine at Victoria's Secret.
If you like how they sound, you should see how they look...0 -
Be your own best friend. Would you ever say those negative thoughts you tell yourself on a regular basis to your friends or family? No, you wouldn't, so why say it to the most important person in the world - yourself?? Every time you start to doubt yourself, turn it around and talk to yourself as if you were your own best friend. It all starts from within, my dear!!! Focus only on the postives and forget the negatives. HUGZ!!
Beat me to it and said it so much better :flowerforyou:0 -
Smile and the world smiles with you!
Seriously, if you think positive you feel better. You have done so well so far. Focus on that. Take a good look at how far you have come and you should realise how great you look.
Don't stress about what other people think or don't think of you. It is how you feel in your own skin that is important.
You get one life, make the most of it.
All the best0 -
you are beautiful and look what you have accomplished- you are an inspiration to me!!0
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Any ideas? I still have weight to lose, but I feel fat and ugly still. Maybe that will never change no matter what I weigh.
I hope I do not repeat what others have said....
1) Love yourself first...EVERYTHING about you: The Good...The Bad...The Ugly
2) Evaluate all the good things about you..Inside and out...if you have to; write them down.....Get input from family and friends too...It's amazing the good things other people see in you that you do not see in yourself.
3) Cherish the things you have in life..Family, Friends, home, food, bed to sleep in, transportation....People who have these things are richer than 70% of the world.
4) Evaluate all flaws....The ones you can't change...say to yourself..."F%CK IT...and Love the Hell out of it."....Things you can change...or shall I say improve...WORK on it..
5) While you are in transition ....Repeat steps 1-3...DAILY...and Step 4 when you hit a wall.
6) Extra credit...don't just focus on improving your body...improve your mind and soul as well..Study a new language, do things to keep your mind busy and happy.
:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Sometimes you have to fake it! But really, you aren't fat or ugly, and if that is truly how you feel, and it affects how you live your life, it may be time to involve a professional to help you.0
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Anger, Sarcasm and wit. Use these tools. Try trolling in the forums. Maybe start a nasty post.
Also self inflate your ego. Your way better than those **** **** *****!!!!
RAR!!!0 -
Start by making a new profile picture with a smile on your face. If you like to read try "The New Earth" or "The Power of Now" Eckhart Tolle.0
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Anger, Sarcasm and wit. Use these tools. Try trolling in the forums. Maybe start a nasty post.
Also self inflate your ego. Your way better than those **** **** *****!!!!
RAR!!!0 -
you stop caring what other people MIGHT be thinking of you and start looking at the good things about yourself and not dwelling on the tiny flaws0
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I understand this - completely. It is a decision you need to make. You have a strong belief that you are fat and ugly. Until you decide you feel differently - You will always feel that way.
I have decided that I am not Fat nor Ugly. I have many many good days... but the previous beliefs are there in the shadows and now and again they show up in the forefront of my mind. Sometimes I get stuck in it and sometimes I shove it back.
It is a struggle, but you can win.0 -
Are your face and your body the only things that make you, you? I highly doubt that. I'm sure you've done many things that you can be proud of. Put your stock in those things. The rest will come.0
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Bi*****s need to stop blaming all your problems on us. Stop tellin' a n***a,"You ****ed up my self-esteem". Bi**h it's called SELF-ESTEEM! It's esteem of your motha****in' self. - Katt Williams.
OP this wasn't directed at you in any way other than to hopefully give you a laugh.0 -
Stop saying you feel fat and ugly first off, replace the negative with positive, point out the good stuff you see about your self. When you focus on the negative the positive is hidden. You are here and trying to better yourself so you are motivated! Remember you will have bad and good days but just try to move past the bad and don't dwell on them. Good luck on your journey you will do amazing!!0
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