How do I get my motivation back?

MOMOFTWO29

Okay so I have been here for almost 7 months and when I first started I was really motivated, but I had a wreck on May 29, 2009 and ever since then I have been eating foods that are not the wisest food choices,stress eating, not exercising and being totally lazy. How do I get that motivation back that I had a the beginning. I have gained 7 pounds, I thank God that it isn't no more than that but I am ashamed that I have gained it back. I don't want to go back to being 292 pounds like I was when I joined mfp. How do you all stay on it to reach your goals?

cdickey

It really is a mental thing IMO to be motivated. You just have to decide it's what you want and do it. I have been struggling with my motivation so I thank God that I have my family doing this with me. They look to me to lead them as they lose weight. Last night I DID NOT want to work out but my hubby encouraged me to do it even though I didn't want to. I felt much better about myself after doing it. So I suggest you just pick a day and start all over. It will be the beginning again and as you make it through each day you will be proud of yourself for accomplishing what you have. Don't give up. Make yourself do it for a day or two and it'll all come back to you. Pick out something you want to wear and hang it up in the kitchen where you'll see it every time you head in there. I hope you get your motivation back and lose those 7 pounds and many more.

MOMOFTWO29

It really is a mental thing IMO to be motivated. You just have to decide it's what you want and do it. I have been struggling with my motivation so I thank God that I have my family doing this with me. They look to me to lead them as they lose weight. Last night I DID NOT want to work out but my hubby encouraged me to do it even though I didn't want to. I felt much better about myself after doing it. So I suggest you just pick a day and start all over. It will be the beginning again and as you make it through each day you will be proud of yourself for accomplishing what you have. Don't give up. Make yourself do it for a day or two and it'll all come back to you. Pick out something you want to wear and hang it up in the kitchen where you'll see it every time you head in there. I hope you get your motivation back and lose those 7 pounds and many more.

thanks so much, I have picked today to get back on it, I am going to do my exercise today. I want to do it.

thirtyby40

You have a couple of beautiful children by the looks of your ticker. Whenever you have trouble finding motivation think of them. Imagine how different there life would be if you had more energy to play with them. Imagine how much resentment they would have if something happened to you that is preventable because you didn't lose the weight.

I get very distraught with my mother. She has been overweight my whole life, and I think that is why I had struggled for years with weight. She is trying to lose weight now, but she still goes out for ice cream, or chinese buffet. I actually get to a point where I don't want to speak to her because I feel like she doesn't care enough about me to help herself live longer.

I am not saying this is how life is for you now. But I would venture a guess on what life will hold years down the road.

The way I look at it for myself is, I made a choice to bring 4 children into this world. It is my obligation to see my responsibility through to the end. When things get hard, I try to imagine what kind of life I want to have, and what kind of mother I want my kids to have. It is powerful motivation to say the least.

This may not be the motivation you need. The other poster was correct. It totally comes from within. Figure out what you want for your future and why, then get to it. No excuses.

Unless you doctor told you no exercise. Get off the couch, you will feel much better for it!

MOMOFTWO29

You have a couple of beautiful children by the looks of your ticker. Whenever you have trouble finding motivation think of them. Imagine how different there life would be if you had more energy to play with them. Imagine how much resentment they would have if something happened to you that is preventable because you didn't lose the weight.

I get very distraught with my mother. She has been overweight my whole life, and I think that is why I had struggled for years with weight. She is trying to lose weight now, but she still goes out for ice cream, or chinese buffet. I actually get to a point where I don't want to speak to her because I feel like she doesn't care enough about me to help herself live longer.

I am not saying this is how life is for you now. But I would venture a guess on what life will hold years down the road.

The way I look at it for myself is, I made a choice to bring 4 children into this world. It is my obligation to see my responsibility through to the end. When things get hard, I try to imagine what kind of life I want to have, and what kind of mother I want my kids to have. It is powerful motivation to say the least.

This may not be the motivation you need. The other poster was correct. It totally comes from within. Figure out what you want for your future and why, then get to it. No excuses.

Unless you doctor told you no exercise. Get off the couch, you will feel much better for it!

well put and thanks so much for taking the time to post this. I don't feel good from being overweight, I do not have major health issues like diabetes or high blood pressure, or cholesterol, I am however tired ALL the time so that is why I started this lifestyle change in the beginning and my kids are also a number one reason, I don't want them to grow up without a mother. I find myself making excuses for not exercising, Oh I will do it tomorrow, oh I am too tired, oh the kids are in the way, but not any longer, I have made up mind that I do not want to look and feel like this the rest of my life and I am going to have some lunch and then I am getting on my stationary bike and I will do my exercises, no excuses, I think I have been using the wreck as a crutch to be lazy but not any more. thanks so much for your very kind and very motivating words.

sassekel

That's a tough question Laura and I wish I had the answer but I don't. All I know to say is try remind yourself that is giving up is not the answer at some point you will have to begin again and it's really hard to start at the begining again. I have been up and down too many times and it's really tough when your feeling so defeated that you begin to wonder if it's even possible. you still have a great start going for you now, it doesn't matter that you hit a little block, jump over it and keep running, you'll be glad you did and so proud of yourself not only for improving your health but for tackling the even harder part of this journey, the emotional part(self control).
I believe in you and all of us. we are worth it:flowerforyou:

MOMOFTWO29

That's a tough question Laura and I wish I had the answer but I don't. All I know to say is try remind yourself that is giving up is not the answer at some point you will have to begin again and it's really hard to start at the begining again. I have been up and down too many times and it's really tough when your feeling so defeated that you begin to wonder if it's even possible. you still have a great start going for you now, it doesn't matter that you hit a little block, jump over it and keep running, you'll be glad you did and so proud of yourself not only for improving your health but for tackling the even harder part of this journey, the emotional part(self control).
I believe in you and all of us. we are worth it:flowerforyou:
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thanks so much for the very kind words, you will proud to know that so far today I have ate great and I just done riding my stationary bike for 30 minutes, I am trying to work my way back up since I have not done any exercise in a month. I am proud of myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

czewwhat

Every time I feel my motivation slipping, I stand in front of the full length mirror, totally naked! It just comes back!

Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it works for me!

MOMOFTWO29

Every time I feel my motivation slipping, I stand in front of the full length mirror, totally naked! It just comes back!

Probably not what you wanted to hear, but it works for me!

sounds like a great idea, I will have to try that, thanks so much

drtbottom

Hey lady,

Something that motivates me is small goals. I see you have 120 as your weight goal. Bring it into a closer range like 200, 195,185, and work your way down. It works for me because it keeps your anxiety and worry at a minimum, you just set a goal, reach it, set another goal reach it. Also, B12 or B complex helps your metabolism in a natural way. The body doesn't absorb all of the vitamin, but enough to get you to the track as i always say. They sell it at walmart, really inexpensive. I hope this helps, we are always one step closer to being fine in 2009!!!!

ilike2moveit

What works for me may not work for you but I hope you find something that helps you. Here are a few of mine:
I don't want to waste my life being overweight and unhappy about it.
I want to be healthy.
Reading other people's success stories and seeing their before and after pictures.
Being a healthy example for my children-they eat what I eat.
I think about how much work it takes to lose the weight-do I really want to eat that?
Mini goals. The big picture can be discouraging.
Lifestyle change. Change the things you can live without and slowly work on the ones that you aren't willing to change at the moment.

Best wishes.

keiko

There are alot ot days that I lack the motivation. I don't want to get out of bed and exercise. But I do it! Today was a one of those days. In fact I've had a whole bunch of those days. But I keep getting up and keep on exercising. I do it on the days I feel like it and I do it on the days I don't. Don't give yourself the choice. Just get out there and do it!:flowerforyou:

foxyforce

i think motivation breeds motivation

so in the words of nike - just do it!

MOMOFTWO29

Hey lady,

Something that motivates me is small goals. I see you have 120 as your weight goal. Bring it into a closer range like 200, 195,185, and work your way down. It works for me because it keeps your anxiety and worry at a minimum, you just set a goal, reach it, set another goal reach it. Also, B12 or B complex helps your metabolism in a natural way. The body doesn't absorb all of the vitamin, but enough to get you to the track as i always say. They sell it at walmart, really inexpensive. I hope this helps, we are always one step closer to being fine in 2009!!!!

thanks, I like to keep my ultimate goal on my signature b/c it reminds me that when I get to my goal I will be 120 pounds, I do have mini goals on my profile and those help me so much. I iwl have to try the vitamin B12. thanks for the very kind words.

MOMOFTWO29

What works for me may not work for you but I hope you find something that helps you. Here are a few of mine:
I don't want to waste my life being overweight and unhappy about it.
I want to be healthy.
Reading other people's success stories and seeing their before and after pictures.
Being a healthy example for my children-they eat what I eat.
I think about how much work it takes to lose the weight-do I really want to eat that?
Mini goals. The big picture can be discouraging.
Lifestyle change. Change the things you can live without and slowly work on the ones that you aren't willing to change at the moment.

Best wishes.

thanks so much, these help alot. I was good all day, I stayed within my calories and I did my exercise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so proud of myself. and I drank my water, I have been slack in that area too and I drank it all today!!!!!!!

MOMOFTWO29

i think motivation breeds motivation

so in the words of nike - just do it!

good one, I love Nike, thanks so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:flowerforyou: :drinker:

ilike2moveit

i think motivation breeds motivation

so in the words of nike - just do it!

I like that! It's sooo true.:flowerforyou:

RoxieFoston

The stress of an accident is the setback. You have done too well to slip back. Start to exercise and the eating will follow. Exercise heals the frustration which is why most people overeat.

butterfliblu

Make progress pictures- it really inspires you to halt the bad choices you may be making now because you realize you never, ever want to go back. Mine have just slapped me in the face- I already see that old physiqe coming back from teh "before" pictures, and that is enough to snap me out of thinking about Taco Time for dinner!

I'm in the same boat- lost 40, but have slipped back into old habits and have gained 16, so at least you're stopping TODAY!

I alos agree with the motivation of thinking of your kids- besides doing it for yourself and your health, there's no better reason than to be alive and vibrant for your kids, and their kids

Good luck- you are not alone!

MOMOFTWO29

The stress of an accident is the setback. You have done too well to slip back. Start to exercise and the eating will follow. Exercise heals the frustration which is why most people overeat.

as of today I am eating right and exercising again, Now just to take it one day at a time. :flowerforyou:

MOMOFTWO29

Make progress pictures- it really inspires you to halt the bad choices you may be making now because you realize you never, ever want to go back. Mine have just slapped me in the face- I already see that old physiqe coming back from teh "before" pictures, and that is enough to snap me out of thinking about Taco Time for dinner!

I'm in the same boat- lost 40, but have slipped back into old habits and have gained 16, so at least you're stopping TODAY!

I alos agree with the motivation of thinking of your kids- besides doing it for yourself and your health, there's no better reason than to be alive and vibrant for your kids, and their kids

Good luck- you are not alone!

thanks so much. I have a pic of me when I started on mfp, so I go back and look at it.

applepie

I heard this a long time ago and it has always stuck with me:

"You don't have to lose 100 pounds all at once, you just need to lose ONE pound a hundred times."

I don't know..for some reason that just made it seem more do-able to me. When I think about how losing one pound at a time compared to 100 pounds at once sounded...hmmm..one tiny measley little pound...yeah..we can do this.

Keep going!

foxyforce

I heard this a long time ago and it has always stuck with me:

"You don't have to lose 100 pounds all at once, you just need to lose ONE pound a hundred times."

I don't know..for some reason that just made it seem more do-able to me. When I think about how losing one pound at a time compared to 100 pounds at once sounded...hmmm..one tiny measley little pound...yeah..we can do this.

Keep going!

omg...i love that quote!

MOMOFTWO29

I heard this a long time ago and it has always stuck with me:

"You don't have to lose 100 pounds all at once, you just need to lose ONE pound a hundred times."

I don't know..for some reason that just made it seem more do-able to me. When I think about how losing one pound at a time compared to 100 pounds at once sounded...hmmm..one tiny measley little pound...yeah..we can do this.

Keep going!

that is very great advice, thanks so much for this, it helps me alot :flowerforyou:

injuneer81

It really is a mental thing IMO to be motivated. You just have to decide it's what you want and do it. I have been struggling with my motivation so I thank God that I have my family doing this with me. They look to me to lead them as they lose weight. Last night I DID NOT want to work out but my hubby encouraged me to do it even though I didn't want to. I felt much better about myself after doing it. So I suggest you just pick a day and start all over. It will be the beginning again and as you make it through each day you will be proud of yourself for accomplishing what you have. Don't give up. Make yourself do it for a day or two and it'll all come back to you. Pick out something you want to wear and hang it up in the kitchen where you'll see it every time you head in there. I hope you get your motivation back and lose those 7 pounds and many more.

can't change the past. the hardest part for me was overcoming that i was not 25 years old anymore. I kept trying to workout like i used to and kept hurting myself. I finally accepted that my body could not handle the punishment. i started walking easy relaxed. i still don't workout hard just easy and steady.

get back into it easy. the more you do the more you will want to do...here is the hard part and the hardest part for me.....YOU and only you can turn that switch on to get back into.


here is the motivation part.....

ready....

GET YOUR *kitten* UP OFF THE COUCH AND GET TO IT GIRL!!!!!!!!!GO GO GO GO!!!! YEAH!!!


are you up yet???

injuneer81

Okay so I have been here for almost 7 months and when I first started I was really motivated, but I had a wreck on May 29, 2009 and ever since then I have been eating foods that are not the wisest food choices,stress eating, not exercising and being totally lazy. How do I get that motivation back that I had a the beginning. I have gained 7 pounds, I thank God that it isn't no more than that but I am ashamed that I have gained it back. I don't want to go back to being 292 pounds like I was when I joined mfp. How do you all stay on it to reach your goals?

somebody else on here said small goals is the thing to do. I agree. I have a giant goal to lose a lot of weight. but my main goal is a daily goal. don't exceed my calories. and exercise a little

MOMOFTWO29

Okay so I have been here for almost 7 months and when I first started I was really motivated, but I had a wreck on May 29, 2009 and ever since then I have been eating foods that are not the wisest food choices,stress eating, not exercising and being totally lazy. How do I get that motivation back that I had a the beginning. I have gained 7 pounds, I thank God that it isn't no more than that but I am ashamed that I have gained it back. I don't want to go back to being 292 pounds like I was when I joined mfp. How do you all stay on it to reach your goals?

somebody else on here said small goals is the thing to do. I agree. I have a giant goal to lose a lot of weight. but my main goal is a daily goal. don't exceed my calories. and exercise a little

I like the idea of a daily goal, don't exceed my calories and exercise, thank you so very much for this idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:flowerforyou:

MOMOFTWO29

It really is a mental thing IMO to be motivated. You just have to decide it's what you want and do it. I have been struggling with my motivation so I thank God that I have my family doing this with me. They look to me to lead them as they lose weight. Last night I DID NOT want to work out but my hubby encouraged me to do it even though I didn't want to. I felt much better about myself after doing it. So I suggest you just pick a day and start all over. It will be the beginning again and as you make it through each day you will be proud of yourself for accomplishing what you have. Don't give up. Make yourself do it for a day or two and it'll all come back to you. Pick out something you want to wear and hang it up in the kitchen where you'll see it every time you head in there. I hope you get your motivation back and lose those 7 pounds and many more.

can't change the past. the hardest part for me was overcoming that i was not 25 years old anymore. I kept trying to workout like i used to and kept hurting myself. I finally accepted that my body could not handle the punishment. i started walking easy relaxed. i still don't workout hard just easy and steady.

get back into it easy. the more you do the more you will want to do...here is the hard part and the hardest part for me.....YOU and only you can turn that switch on to get back into.


here is the motivation part.....

ready....

GET YOUR *kitten* UP OFF THE COUCH AND GET TO IT GIRL!!!!!!!!!GO GO GO GO!!!! YEAH!!!


are you up yet???

this is what I needed thanks!!!!!!!!!!!

heather0mc

hey laura! :flowerforyou:

you have come so far this year! you are a doll and are so supportive of everyone :flowerforyou:! the set back you had is in the past now and you are doing the right thing by reaching out to MFP. you know you got this, take it day by day!

i had a 3 month set back and gained my weight back + 5lbs! :noway: i know for me, i never ever want to do that again.

like i said, one day at a time! you could get a calendar and put an X thru each day at the end of the day to close it off and reflect that you did it. then, in a month you can look at what you accomplished. you could even write your self a note about how you were feeling each day and at the end of the month read everything and think about goals for the next month. imagine how cool it would be to have a whole calendar filled up with big X's!!!

i write myself notes on my food log. started it on 7/18, when i got back on track. its helping me.

anyways - get up and move girl! you got this!!! :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

czewwhat

Two choices, get up, get moving start over or I would pick start over if I were you! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

don't get all hostile either, I am trying to make her laugh!

MOMOFTWO29

hey laura! :flowerforyou:

you have come so far this year! you are a doll and are so supportive of everyone :flowerforyou:! the set back you had is in the past now and you are doing the right thing by reaching out to MFP. you know you got this, take it day by day!

i had a 3 month set back and gained my weight back + 5lbs! :noway: i know for me, i never ever want to do that again.

like i said, one day at a time! you could get a calendar and put an X thru each day at the end of the day to close it off and reflect that you did it. then, in a month you can look at what you accomplished. you could even write your self a note about how you were feeling each day and at the end of the month read everything and think about goals for the next month. imagine how cool it would be to have a whole calendar filled up with big X's!!!

i write myself notes on my food log. started it on 7/18, when i got back on track. its helping me.

anyways - get up and move girl! you got this!!! :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

thanks Heather, I really appreciate all the support. I really need it at this time. I do the calender thing but not really in that respect but I will try it.