Isn't annoying how people "judge" you based on your diet?

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  • Skeebee
    Skeebee Posts: 740 Member
    Don't let them get to you :)

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    ^THIS. lol
  • luke1437
    luke1437 Posts: 8
    I have to track this. I realized by tracking that I eat WAYYYYYY too much sugar every day. That is how I went from 190 to 210. YIKES. Hang in there. Luke
  • desert_rhino
    desert_rhino Posts: 104 Member
    Yep. All of the above. But then I show them how EASY it is with the droid app, and how much weight I've already lost... So far, it has shut them up every time. Of course, I owe my consistent loss and positive attitude to those around me, including here, who offer real caring and support.

    As for "it won't stick!" Well, you just need to show them you CAN make it stick. Set your "oh crap, I have let myself fall off the wagon" weight/fitness level VERY close to your optimum, and EVERY time you see it slide past that, FIX IT. It should become easier and easier as time goes on. Pretty soon, it should just not be an issue any more.

    I? plan to keep close tabs on my calories forever. It's just too easy to do, to throw away that important metric that tells me that I need to get to the gym or out on a long walk or run. That way, I can enjoy the "excesses" that I enjoy, and still keep my "books" straight. :)

    Haters gonna hate. Don't sweat it.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    I always see someone's "diet" as a work in progress. No judging here.
  • wackyfunster
    wackyfunster Posts: 944 Member
    Crab mentality
    From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    Crab mentality, sometimes referred to as crabs in the bucket, describes a way of thinking best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you." The metaphor refers to a pot of crabs. Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless "king of the hill" competition (or sabotage) which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise.[1][2] The analogy in human behavior is that of a group that will attempt to "pull down" (negate or diminish the importance of) any member who achieves success beyond the others, out of envy,[3] conspiracy or competitive feelings.
    This term is broadly associated with short-sighted, non-constructive thinking rather than a unified, long-term, constructive mentality.
  • microburst20
    microburst20 Posts: 130
    I've had a few sceptical people try to rain on my MFP parade recently, they were all easily silenced by 1 small comment

    'I've lost a stone (14lb) so far'

    Nothing shuts people up faster than proving what your doing works, good luck on your journey and ignore the critics


    now I know what a stone is 14lbs. I have wondered. Thanks
  • jmax68
    jmax68 Posts: 11
    He probably doesn't mean any harm by it. Sometimes us parents can say things not realizing that maybe we should activate another brain cell or two before we speak. We don't realize how we are really making our loved one feel. But honestly ignore it and do what you have to do. All great things have been accomplished despite criticism and lack of support. I think this applies to creating a new and improved us as well. Maybe he is just a little jealous ;) Good luck and keep up the AWWWESOOOME work!
  • smartandtrim
    smartandtrim Posts: 123 Member
    Don't feel bad, I went out to dinner with a friend I haven't seen in about a year. I told her I was counting calories, she rolled her eyes and said "oh Lord, that won't help ya" then she laughed at me.


    I've heard that same type of reaction, but calorie counting is the only way I've ever had success.

    Exactly... weight loss is math.
  • desert_rhino
    desert_rhino Posts: 104 Member
    Exactly... weight loss is math.

    Yep, but Barbie says math is tough. I disagree, of course. :)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NO0cvqT1tAE "Math class is tough!"
  • RenjisGurl
    RenjisGurl Posts: 12 Member
    Some of my 'friends' tried to actually pressure me into eating more!!! It was unbelievable! 27 pounds later and a few of them have asked me what i've been doing, even though I told them what I was doing when I started. So, my advice is to just ignore them. Just keep going with the motivation that one day, you'll prove everyone wrong. That you CAN do it. :)
  • monalissanne
    monalissanne Posts: 159 Member
    People are dumb. I have a relative who complains bout how she's gained weight, but when she sees me logging my food at work(we work together) she says 'i'm not so fat that i need to count calories, that doesn't work, i'll just exercise'. Annoying!

    People who say that doesn't work are probably making half *kitten* efforts and not really measuring properly because they think they can eyeball everything and have no idea how skewed their idea of a portion size is. If you are being consistent, accurate and honest with yourself, it's the only thing that will work in the long term without eliminating important food groups. It's simple math!

    And to the OP, I'm sorry to hear that. Stories like yours and others I see on here make me thankful that for the most part everyone is really supportive of what I am doing. I just go about my business measuring stuff, and I try not to talk about it unless someone asks me something. I don't want people to think that's the only thing I'm about, and I also want to serve as the example that it's not that big of a deal. The time and effort it takes to measure and log becomes second nature and easier over time. My concern is that when people talk to me about it at work, the other people listening think I am fishing for compliments. That's why I try not to say anything unless someone asks.
  • Leimaro
    Leimaro Posts: 148 Member
    It's amazing how friends and family can be the most critical, unsupportive and sometimes hurtful when losing weight.
  • harrietlg
    harrietlg Posts: 239
    I have the opposite, my parents criticise everything I eat, they go mad if i get some chips after a night out! I don't think they realise you don't have to cut everything out completely. My dad for one should know! my mum put him on a diet once and he would go to sainsburys for lunch everyday because he didn't want to get stuck eating my mums salads ! my mum used to give me 150 cal salads for lunch and that was all i was allowed! no wonder I got fat at uni haha
    I suppose at least i've learnt how to eat moderately now and make better choices when I go out now! I guess i'm lucky for the support I have in my friends and my friends on here too
  • sasssurf
    sasssurf Posts: 58 Member
    A very good point. Sadly people are so judgemental sometimes. Let's all keep it up. This site obviously works as so many are succeeding. Dancing -ballet. Jazz. Modern- Horton technique. Most of my life. I never thought about my weight. 10 + I stopped and now I am bigger that I like. Clinical depression ...... I will be happy to befriend folk who don't judge what it takes to rise up. :)
  • womanathewell
    womanathewell Posts: 26 Member
    YES,it really bugs me!!I really think people who think its funny will one day wished they ate healthier.

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