"Don't Get Too Skinny"

eig6

I only get these comments from my Mom (who weighs like 100lbs), she also tells me to not lift to many weights our I'll start to look manly :laugh:

andymf85

Some people are just afraid of change. I grew out a beard a year ago, trimmed and well-kept mind you, and got similar reactions.

Some people are jealous.

Some people, especially in the US, simply don't know what an objectively healthy weight or fitness level is. We're increasingly grading on a curve, so to speak.

Carolyn_79

I'm certainly not sweating it. I feel the best I've ever felt in a long time. It's nice to have my confidence back.

weighlossforbaby

It depends on your body built. My sister got down to 150 lbs and she is 5'6 when she looked very thin. She is gaining a little bit at a time which is good. I am 5'7 and 175 lbs and my goal is 160.

tasiamere

My boyfriend would prefer it if I stayed at my current weight...and never lost another pound! He'll try to grab my belly and see that he can't grip anything anymore and get all pissy lol. He gives me the "don't get too skinny and hot because you'll leave me stranded for some buff dude with a 6pack" speech...I assume he's joking but God knows :laugh:

...Glad it's not just mine. smh He said just yesterday when I said I had 32 more lbs to go that 140 will make my head look too big for my body -_-:indifferent:

kayleesays

Since I wasn't very overweight to begin with, most people roll their eyes at my weight loss, saying I "didn't need to." I've gotten the "don't lose too much weight" and the "don't lose any more." It can be very frustrating to be talked down to when you haven't asked their opinions.

msmith2020

I get that a lot and I just tell them - I am not where I want to be, but I will be sure to send a memo to you when I get there.

Lol I love this!! :laugh:

Honestly I know it makes your all mad to hear that, and I know it will me when it happens, but I REALLY want it to happen!! :drinker: LOL Guess I gotta start losing the weight first huh...

msmith2020

My boyfriend would prefer it if I stayed at my current weight...and never lost another pound! He'll try to grab my belly and see that he can't grip anything anymore and get all pissy lol. He gives me the "don't get too skinny and hot because you'll leave me stranded for some buff dude with a 6pack" speech...I assume he's joking but God knows :laugh:

hahah! My boyfriend says the same thing.. if I get skinny then that means I'll leave him for someone with a "hotter" body.. I'm like geeze get a grip! Lol

weighlossforbaby

It's not exactly a "don't get too skinny" comment, but a conversation I had with my sister (she's my roommate) yesterday left me pretty flabbergasted. It was her turn to do the dishes, and she was mad that I'd used a few more bowls and pans than usual that night. She told me that no matter how far I had come, I was still fat and I was always going to be fat, and to just give up and stop making life hard for my roommates for something I was never going to accomplish.

:noway: This is a family member saying this to me!

Misery loves company, I guess. I was just shocked that she'd go that far over having to do a few extra dishes. Guess it's time to move! :laugh:

My husband I lived with my older sister and it was the worst couple months so I stayed with my parents til my husband found us a place and he found one in a month. She never said anything about my weight but she basically called me lazy til I went to stay with my parents. We get a long great now and have fun when we hang out because we don't have to live together.

jennfeustel123

I don't get those comments but I do refrain from telling people how much I want to loose. I HAVEN'T lost weight before because they always say, "You don't look big, you must have thick bones or just be really muscular to weigh so much." LOL I choose to believe that they are well meaning but I realize now that it's not realyl about wether or not I LOOK big or small but more about being at a healthy weight and being comfortable with me.

snowbab

Yes all the time. Just yesterday my mum and her partner had a big rant at me saying I was going back to my ED ways. They can't seem ti tell the difference between that and healthy weight loss -_- I got told i had no butt and my boobs never came back after my ED so they won't now, and my mum keeps saying 'gain weight and they will come back' as if it matters. I say I've accepted that about me and she frowns and repeats the same thing.

It actually really hurt my feelings as I'm self conscious already about my body, and just as i'm beginning to accept these parts of me I get these comments

obolton756

literally everyone is telling me this at the moment... my mum and boyfriend... so it can't be a case of jealousy.. i am 5'6 120 pounds... kinda wish people would leave me to it a bit..

hanahlai

Yes, people are afraid when they see people successful at achieving their weight goals! It's intimidating.

mg720

i get those comments ALL THE TIME from my fiance's family and my mom and grandmother. I am 5 ft 2 inches and currently 127 pounds, my starting weight was 208 pounds. I think a lot of the time people have that reaction after a major weight loss because they simply are not used to seeing you at that size. I struggled with my weight my whole life and was always obese. So now seeing me a lot smaller than what I was I think just shocks people.

I am only about 2 pounds away from goal weight and I have been losing a TON of inches recently thanks to p90x. Whenever my family says things such as "you better stop losing weight" or "you are fading away" I just say "I am the healthiest I have ever been in my 25 years of living, and I am focusing on toning up, this is not about getting skinny it is about being the healthiest i can be."

beaner1st

Same thing has happened to me. I have been on maintenance for over 4 months at 5'2" and ~110. My sister told me this morning I needed to gain ten pounds and I'd look better. I feel great at this weight. I have lost inches and toned up in the last 4 months due to doing Insanity and recently starting to lift. My body likes this weight and I enjoy this weight and body size and feel the best I have in years both physcially and emotionally.

samasche1

I think the people who make these comments are usually the ones who have been struggling themselves with weight loss or their own body image.

I get these comments too, and from people who mean well, but they don't know it stings to hear.

I usually respond by telling them about MFP and how I make SURE I am eating enough calories to lose the weight in a HEALTHY way. And if they still disagree, I kindly agree to disagree

NOT their business anyhow!

skinnybearlyndsay

I had a conversation with a friend I hadn't seen in a while that went something like this: "Wow, you look great! Seriously though... You're done right? Cuz you're good... Don't lose anymore." Really?

I've gotten this, too. From someone super, duper skinny. A little annoying, but I know she means well.

Ekoria

Yup I get it all the time. I find it a little offensive to be honest. It's not like I go up to some one and say "so is this your maintenance weight is it?...You could stand to loose/put on a few pounds!"
I have come to the conclusion that upsettingly I must have been pretty over weight before for people to think that what I am now is under weight. I think it is definitely best not to give a number of pounds you have left to go, it's rude to ask some one weight so why should it be any different to asking how much weight some one has to loose?

mandi_plus_jack

My father in law made the same comment to me when he heard how much I want to lose. Just let it go in one ear and out the other! What is most important is that you feel good about yourself! Keep it up!

cwelch2677

I want to know why people think it's ok to say anything at all besides "you look good". You wouldn't be making comments to me if I were packing ON 10 pounds as opposed to losing them.....
I'm working really hard and it's not easy. Good for me and GOOD FOR ALL OF YOU, TOO!!!


AMEN!!

cwelch2677

I don't know how to post on this thing. My other comment was a "Quote" from someone else. Oops

Sharmender

I get this too. It's like theyre saying I don't eat enough (thats definately not true) Pretty annoying.
I just like to think that people want to say these things is because they feel bad about themselves otherwise. Those people are mostly thin, but not extremely fit.

casiescorey

I get the same thing. If you look at my profile my slogan next to my picture is "Healthy Habits". People tend to think that just because someone looks to be in great shape already that they should just sit in the couch and eat chips and not have a care in the world. Well, at 32 years old I can tell you that the weight goes on quicker, it takes longer to get it off, and if you want to be healthy you should have a target weight and tone to reach and maintain and keep healthy habits up. I think some of the poeple just don't want you to end up looking better than them. AND, it makes them feel guilty because you're doing something to be healthy and get in shape when maybe they're not. I would do what you said, don't give those people your goal numbers anymore. Just tell them you're trying to be healthy, and when they watch you change, becoming healthier and more fit, then they may be inspired to follow your lead and ask you for tips.

Be Well.

CoderGal

I've also been told I'm 'scary' skinny and sickly looking. My best friend from away deleted me from facebook because I told her I found it insulting that she called me scary looking in front of everyone. Meanwhile, when I last visited her I was the same weight and we were both trying to loose and she didn't seem to have a problem with that? Ignore them, it's not even worth the effort to think about it.

deadstarsunburn

I think those people mean it as a compliment. It's more of a jokey persons compliment lol.
I usually just laugh and say oh that won't happen.
=]

ZombieChaser

Today was a good one In one breath, I was asked if I was allowed to eat that doughnut b/c of my "diet" (damn right it was good!), and right after, she said: "I hope you don't plan on losing any more weight... you're going to waste away!" So which is it? No doughnut, or eat more? I was pleasantly confused.

FitnessGirl11mfp

Been getting those comments a lot lately. I am no where near being "too skinny" lol. Even my son's father keeps saying he's worried about me. I weigh 163 lbs. The high range of a normal bmi for me is 140 lbs so I think I'm safe lol. Ugh people can be annoying.

ObsidianMist

yep, I get it all the time from my boyfriend's mom. I just try to smile, as I'm sure she means well. I'm not even quite at the weight I was at my whole life before the weight gain, so I'm certainly not TOO skinny!

musicfan68

I also think they make these comments because people just don't know what a healthy weight person looks like. So many people are overweight, even if it's 15 lbs over, that overweight looks normal.

tomteboda

I get them from my family, but I understand they come from a place of love.. and experience with me. I had really disordered eating as a teenager, and they don't want to see me go back to that very bad place.