Is It Wrong That I Want Attention?

Rhea30

I know the title sounds extremely conceited but here is what I mean. I have been overweight my entire life, or as long as I can remember. Being an adult now I have never gotten attention from men. I don't go out often much anymore but when I used to go out to clubs and bars with my friends I would never get hit on or get any kind of flirts from men. I'm also an observer and I notice this at work too. There are a couple of really cute girls at work and they are always getting hit on. I know I am not ugly but I am also not thin and it's really annoying when I am talking asking a question or making a statement and get blatantly ignored. Today I was working and I had to ask a question and the only person that was over in my department that would know the answer was an attractive guy. He played it off like he didn't hear me when in fact I know he did because he looked at me and I was talking loud. I said to him "Excuse me, I know you heard what I asked so please tell me what I need to know." I was super pissed off. I know that if I were thinner he wouldn't have ignored me like that. This isn't the first instance something has happened like that but it just makes me so angry!

Just make sure you are losing the weight for you and not to get the attention. Nothing wrong with wanting the attention but if you lose weight for that you might get disappointed if you find yourself still not getting the attention since weight isn't always the issue of why a person may not be getting hit on or ignored, it has a lot to do with how you present yourself. You might come off standoffish or just toss out some vibe that you don't want the attention that you may not be aware of.

irishcanadianwoman

How do you know for sure he was ignoring you specifically because of your weight, and not 1 of 1000 other reasons?
Yes, it does happen, but maybe you shouldn't jump to that conclusion. Maybe he was just a jerk on principle, and had nothing to do with you at all.




Agree!

UsedToBeHusky

What a douche! I think that it is only wrong that you want a douche's attention. Seriously, if we are talking about flirting, then who would want to flirt with someone with such a bad attitude... (the superiority mentality is a complete turn-off for me) but if we are talking just simple professional courtesy... it shouldn't matter what you weigh. How do you know it is your weight that causes him to treat you this way? This is an HR issue and I would suggest that you speak to your manager or someone in HR about his sorry behavior towards you. That is just no way to act in a professional setting.