Heartbroken and next day moved on. Why?

calvert6183

I agree with you I need time to heal, I believe in true love and also think that if you truly love someone that feeling never goes away no matter what happen or how hurt you. Moving on is not always the answer but sometimes helps you to accept that the other person is longer in your life. I have been hurt and missing someone for years, I loved them unconditionally but I love myself to and know that I deserve to be loved in the same fashion!

This is how I feel. I believe in true love and if I lose a special person, I just dont have the desire to even think about other women. Idk. Id rather take time for myself to concentrate on me, heal, and enjoy being free. I may be the only one but if I have to, Id rather drink some milk and rub one off if I need to instead of chasing random tail. Im too old for that crap and a one woman kind of guy.

SofaKingRad

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

onedayillbeamilf

I've never been in love or had anyone in love with me, so I doesn't know.

I have cared about people who walked out of my life, and it was tough, but my world didn't end. If they don't want to be there, I certainly don't want them there.

nas24

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

I approve this message!

littlepinkhearts

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

nas24

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

SofaKingRad

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

HA! Except I can't get strange.

littlepinkhearts

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

lol call it a work in progress

nas24

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

lol call it a work in progress

Fair enough! As long as your not saying never.

littlepinkhearts

After havin' the same for years, time for some strange! :drinker:

lol I agree with this too.....but damm I just can't seem to go there and not for lack of trying haha

Oh come on!!! Everyone needs to have some strange IMO. Nothing like it!

lol call it a work in progress

Fair enough! As long as your not saying never.

good god no!!

RMuske

I think that it is true that everyone deals with heartache in their own way at their own pace. And just because someone seems ok and is moving all with no issue by all accounts doesn't mean they aren't maybe struggling in private.

Who wants the person who broke their heart to see them cry? To see them struggling?

Sometimes the road to feeling better starts by pretending to be out in the world..

NYChick84

I agree with you I need time to heal, I believe in true love and also think that if you truly love someone that feeling never goes away no matter what happen or how hurt you. Moving on is not always the answer but sometimes helps you to accept that the other person is longer in your life. I have been hurt and missing someone for years, I loved them unconditionally but I love myself to and know that I deserve to be loved in the same fashion!

You said it beautifully!!! And I couldn't agree with you more!!

calvert6183

Agreed

weighlossforbaby

I am married but if we divorced I wouldn't move on to anyone else. He was the first guy I have ever dated and ever been with.

tom1834

Well, you can stick to the pain, and let it consume you or you can take a deep breath, swallow hard, and move on.

leanne2376

i agree with you - i got dumped last July and have only just gotten over it - and i have only just started
dating in the last two weeks. I am over him now

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

Well those people you mentioned are either too weak that they can't live a day without having a date so they grabbed somebody who they can get their hands on OR they simply don't have a heart. I feel sorry for those people who were victims of love on the rebound. Which is why when you meet someone new, you have to know his/her history first & if you constantly hear him/her talking about their exes & how much they hate them & worse you discovered that they're only been single weeks or a month well it only means that they're only up for a rebound. Not to sound judgmental here but it happens all the time.

7bel0

Well, you know the saying

The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else......

This kind of works as a distraction, fwb's but not dating. It has taken me a long time to move on after my last relationship, even now I'm not totally sure I'm ready to date again....
I do know people though that are incapable of being single - for them being with someone is a priority.

This! Everyone copes differently and some take longer to "move on" completely. FWB's are just simply a distraction. And a way of having needs met..

EDesq

Anyways, I have always never understood this and maybe someone can help me understand. It seems so many people will date someone for years, married for years, love one died, or are crazy about someone will move on the next day after the breakup or divorce. I dont understand how one can be so heartbroken and claiming how much they miss and love someone and then want to date the next day.

I see it on here all the time, people post how broken they are and crying and then next day they found a new person and are crazy about them. When I love someone and it doesnt work out, I need time to heal, focus on me, and reflect. The last thing I want to do is get back out there that soon to deal with the games that come with dating. It just seems people are so replaceable these days like an iPhone. Im sure this scares people who do believe in true love.

It also seems thats the answer people give when they have friends who just got their heart destroyed is to date someone else immediately. Maybe im old or just out of touch with how things work these days. IDK. Sorry for this, just always wanted to know.

OHH Dude...If I weren't a Lesbian I'd be all over you! Truer stuff was never spoken. And that is in the "straight" world; come into My world where U-Haul relationships and games and the WORD Love are 2 for a Penny! Fo Real

EDesq

I don't get that either. I was in a very unhealthy relationship for 3 1/2 years, and broke up with her the same day I started my weight loss journey. For a while, focusing on fitness & my diet seemed to take away from obsessing about her, but that seems to be lessening. Now I keep thinking about wanting her to see how much better I look.

I do believe meeting someone else helps, but can't imagine how people do that right away. At the end of it all, it's time passing that gives us perspective and the ability to really move on. Someone jumping right into a rebound relationship and thinking that will help is just fooling himself/herself.

I have often wondered if having a high Emotional Intelligence is a cause for more grief. In the end maybe no one is right or wrong because let's say that I am able to take being alone and thinking through the situation, but My ex-partner needs are different and s/he knows that they may become mentally or emotionally "unstable" if they don't get with someone soon, they may be doing what is best. They may know who they are and what they need and they get that need taken care of. Does that then make them also have a high EQ? This relationship thing is very difficult to figure out. Heck, I am just now getting that you may Love someone but NOT be able to Live with them or have a good relationship with them. Momma said there would be "days," but she did not explain all the "stuff." LOL

littlepinkhearts

To each their own...do what works for you and try to be happy.

calvert6183

I don't get that either. I was in a very unhealthy relationship for 3 1/2 years, and broke up with her the same day I started my weight loss journey. For a while, focusing on fitness & my diet seemed to take away from obsessing about her, but that seems to be lessening. Now I keep thinking about wanting her to see how much better I look.

I do believe meeting someone else helps, but can't imagine how people do that right away. At the end of it all, it's time passing that gives us perspective and the ability to really move on. Someone jumping right into a rebound relationship and thinking that will help is just fooling himself/herself.

I have often wondered if having a high Emotional Intelligence is a cause for more grief. In the end maybe no one is right or wrong because let's say that I am able to take being alone and thinking through the situation, but My ex-partner needs are different and s/he knows that they may become mentally or emotionally "unstable" if they don't get with someone soon, they may be doing what is best. They may know who they are and what they need and they get that need taken care of. Does that then make them also have a high EQ? This relationship thing is very difficult to figure out. Heck, I am just now getting that you may Love someone but NOT be able to Live with them or have a good relationship with them. Momma said there would be "days," but she did not explain all the "stuff." LOL

I agree with you in many ways.

honeybfly002

It's much easier to rebound and take the "easy" way out...but the pain remains. yes some move on quicker than others but unresolved issues remain present no matter how fast you find a replacement...which is usually a temporary fix. I'd rather process the emotions...there's always a grieving period then move on. I broke up with my ex after 5 years - he got married less than 6 months later.
He went from losing his home to living with me to living with his parents now he moved in to his wife's condo (they started dating shortly after her divorce was finalized). Some people just can't be alone. She can take care of him now :happy:

In_The_Moment

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OSC_ESD

~ Sometimes when a heart is broken into a million pieces .... you never really get them all back. But, life goes on and one day you realize that " broken " is only a word ... love is reality. Just because somebody is moving on ... doesn't necessarily mean they have healed from a previous broken heart ... it just means they are trying to " live " again.

Although ... for me, I need space and time ... to find myself again. I can't begin to think about finding love again until I come to terms with what I lost. For some people they can ignore those terms and act like it never happened to begin with. But then again ... that isn't really true love then is it ?????

Call me crazy .... or just a hopeless romantic .... but when your heart get shattered from the one true love you ever thought existed ... only time can heal that ... not a " replacement ".

Somehow ... barely breathing and just existing will begin to fade ... and just as the sun comes up every day, you will begin to see the light ... I can only hope it shines brighter than the one before.

~ Sigh

oregonzoo

sometimes a person is over something far before it actually ends.