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happy0912

Hi all.

I am a momma of 2, my youngest is 2 months. Since he's been born I've been cleaning up my eating habits a lot and trying to make better choices daily. I want to be healthy for myself, husband and my kids. Yesterday I had a setback, but I think it's turning into a motivator. I went into a local dept store because I really needed a pair of shorts. My maternity clothes are too big, but my regulars are too small. I had to size into an 18. I've never been this big. I am 240, and it REALLY shocked me that this is where I "allowed" myself to get. I cried right there in the dressing room, staring into all 4 huge mirrors. I feel like a failure I guess.

If you have any tips to share with my I'd greatly appreciate it. What do you do when you feel like you're losing motivation, or don't "want" to exercise? How do you get yourself to take in enough water?

Thank you.

kgprice11

Don't get down on youself you can do it. You seem to have the motivation and want to lose weight so have at it!!! Patience is a must when losing weight, but wanting it is even more of a must. Take a now picture and hang it up next to your bed and you will look at it every morning to keep you motivated. you can do it:flowerforyou:

JoeD1968

put up lots of mirrors

Presley0381

I have to agree with kgprice11...You're here and you're taking that first step in making a change. I have about 100 to lose also and the journey has been hard but it's been worth it.. I didn't gain weight until my 2nd pregnancy and by the 3rd one I just didn't care. I have been so caught up in my daughter's lives that I kinda forgot about mine. Now they exercise with me and love watching me change. They are biggest supporters, not to mention the incredible support I've gained from this site! Feel free to add me. And there are ton of amazing people on my page who I just could not be without on this journey! :flowerforyou:

KathShum2012

I know what it's like. My son is 2 and I realized that I weighed more than when I had him 2 years ago. I have lost about 30 lbs, but have had a rough and emotional 2 weeks of eating and not choosing healthy foods. I have put back on a few lbs and feel quite depressed. So instead of just putting back everything I lost I am going to put that behind me and just get back into the healthy lifestyle that made me feel better physically and emotionally. You can do it!! I am here for ya. add me if you like. :flowerforyou:

lisapr123

Aw, hang in there girl! You've hit your breaking point, and that can be a really good thing!

I love to exercise...but I didn't always enjoy it. It took finding an activity that I love (cycling) for me to really take control of my health. Now I see food as fuel to make me a better athlete, and I see weight training and running as cross training for cycling (which, oddly enough, I no longer see as exercise...it's more of a hobby).

My point is, find something you enjoy. Zumba, walking, kickboxing... Once you find it, you'll feel empowered by your success and no matter what your weight is, you'll feel better about your body and yourself. You're in the right place!

amy1612

When I dont 'want' to I go anway, because I know I'll feel better afterwards and be glad I did. I also remind myself that nothing worth having is easy, and if I want to change my body Ive got to change my behaviour too. You just have to suck it up and go for it!x

angeltg

We've all been there those mirrors and the lighting are horrible. Keep that memory and use it as motivation. I agree with having a photo tacked by the fridge or a bathroom mirror. Get most of your water in the am so less struggle in the afternoon. Bring your water bottle around with you. You can do it!

erikkasusann

You already did the first part, sometimes the hardest part, you decided to do it! I'm pretty new to this game, and I'm still struggling, but this is a great place to find motivation & help keep you accountable. My best advice to get started is just to really think about everyday choices (take the stairs instead of the elevator, have a veggie burger instead of a cheeseburger) and let yourself be proud of every little one. The more you start to make healthy choices, the easier it seems to get. No more tears mama, you've GOT THIS!!!

happy0912

wow, thank you all for the support and advice.

rides4sanity

I've cried in many a dressing room....Don't get down about, just get serious about the changes you need to make. I've used every excuse in the book, and tried every quick fix there is, btu the truth is we have to make conscious choices all day everyday to live/eat well. Sometimes I may choose a cupcake (typically only if I have the calories or plan on earning them from working out), but most of the time I just skip it. After seeing how many calories are in treats, I usually feel they aren't worth it, I'd rather have a nice steak or some pasta at dinner than eat a candy bar now. That being said, none of us are perfect (see diary), but we are learning and changing. Good Luck!

legnarevocrednu

I stare at myself naked in the mirror for about 5 minutes. That usually kicks my motivation right up. :-/ Sad but sooo true!

KimertRuns13_1

Hang in there. Take it day by day and make small changes. Eventually those little changes will pay off and become routine for you!

cornlady

Aw, hang in there girl! You've hit your breaking point, and that can be a really good thing!

I love to exercise...but I didn't always enjoy it. It took finding an activity that I love (cycling) for me to really take control of my health. Now I see food as fuel to make me a better athlete, and I see weight training and running as cross training for cycling (which, oddly enough, I no longer see as exercise...it's more of a hobby).

My point is, find something you enjoy. Zumba, walking, kickboxing... Once you find it, you'll feel empowered by your success and no matter what your weight is, you'll feel better about your body and yourself. You're in the right place!

I agree with Lisa, hang in there. Crying helps release the stress, get it out of your system and move on. YOU CAN DO THIS. Dont buy any food that shouldnt be in your diet and while doing this you are teaching your kids to eat healthy too. Just keep moving forward!! Hugs!!

tinana_RN

Your baby is 2 months, so he/she eats pretty frequently, right? Everytime you have to feed your LO, make yourself drink a cup of water.

You're only 2 months post-partum and things in your body are thinking and feeling crazy things. I know it's not easy being the largest you've ever been, but it took time to get there and it will take some time to get it off. Trust me, I know. Give yourself some credit for coming here and hop right in. There's lots of supportive people that can help and look at some other people's diaries to get an idea of the things they eat-- it might help you along the way.

Good luck on your journey!

chachita7

Hmmm... not everyone is a jlo or a beyonce that 2 weeks after having babies look as if nothing. Do not be so hard on yourself, look at where you want to be, set daily goals rather than huge ones and simply don't give up.

You will do just fine...

almom23

Oh honey, don't cry! You know the changes you have to make and you are headed in the right direction.

I have a 2 month old too! I'm in a 16/18...and i hate it! i look about 5months preggo still. Let's do this together!

My motivator to work out when I don't want to is knowing that I will feel good when I'm done. So I take it 10 min at a time...I'll say ok I do this for 10 min, next thing I know 10 min are done and I'll say ok I can do 10 more. Then those are done, and I'll say 10 more minutes won't kill me, lol, so on and so on. When my workout is done, I feel amazing and proud of myself!

I don't have a problem with my water intake because when I was pregnant, I had low amniotic fluid so I HAD to drink 6 bottles of water a day for the health of my baby. I've kept it up because I've mentally associated it with having a healthy baby...and I am breastfeeding.

Good luck!

_Tara_R

Hang in there!! Don't get down on yourself!! You can do this! So glad you are here!!

lbigham1

I look to my friends and loved ones for support (especially those who are or have been there). :flowerforyou: Please feel free to add me as a friend (and a part of your support team).

Daymia

We all have those moments, and sometimes they can really help us! You know what you have to do, so just take baby steps!

I never did it, but really wanted to print off and hang up some motivational images/quotes around the house. I also wanted to use a chalkboard/dry erase board to track how much my husband and I had lost and update it every weigh in. Just little things scattered throughout the house to keep me motivated.

You can do it! Just take everything day by day!

headqrtrs

Let your tears be your motivation! I have bad knees and started by using an exercise bike, that helped build up the muscles around my knees and now I walk 30 to 40 min dailey and water jog. Put this day behind you and take it a day at the time and you will not only meet daily goals but go beyond them. Have encourageing friends to help you with this process!

sapphiretyger

I have been there, trust me! I remember contemplating going from a size 24 to a size 26 and thinking "I just can't do this anymore!"

TRISTAR

Please don't cry. This site is fantastic, and we can all TOGETHER, kiss goodbye to our start weights. It may take some time, but we will do it.

Claire x

LoreyGiblin

*big hug*

i think it's safe to say we have all been in your shoes at one point or another. Its EXTREMELY important to take a step back and remove yourself from the bigger picture. You must realize that today, is a new day. Today, you are sculpting the body that you want. Baby steps are the only sure steps to success. Some days you'll eat like a champion, some days you'll have two packs of ring dings, some days you'll beat your exercise records, some days you won't leave the house, there will be weeks you lose 4 pounds and weeks you gain a pound. This is an everyday effort that CAN and WILL be done. you are everything but a failure, you just created a life!! which, may a remind you, is pretty freakin awesome! Create a network of friends on here who will support you day in and day out. I'm happy to be here for you!

meechi53

Just walking with baby in a stroller you can burn 250 calories in 1 hour and it's good for both of you. Also, little kids LOVE to watch and do Zumba or similar with mommy ( or in my case, auntie!) It's time that wouldn't be away from your little ones and entertains them (not to mention tires them out!) You can do it! Eat grown up versions of what you'd feed your baby. Fruits, veggies, grains, and don't restrict yourself to never eat anything fun. My sister lost her baby weight kind of doing that. If she fed baby a jar of carrots, and/or cereal/milk she'd eat carrots also. with some chicken or beef, a whole grain toast or roll and a piece of cheese or some yogurt dip with the carrots if she ate them raw. She said it was easier to plan her meals that way.

angeeishere

Do get down on yourself...I was in the same boat (except for the pregnancies) and just said enough was enough. You can do it, you've found the right site here. There's lots of support when you're feeling like giving up. Keep your chin up

ladyfox1979

I know exactly how you feel. When I had my first daughter I was 180lbs from 158lbs then had my 2nd daughter and went up to 230lbs then eneded up at 215lbs.

Needless to say at the time I was ok with it cuz I could still fit into most of my clothes till one day I asked my 1st daughter now 10." Do u think mom's fat? " Bless her lil heart she said" Mom I don't want to hurt your feelings" I broke down and cried my eyes out for hours. That was my wake up call. Now I am down to 198lbs and still going. That's'my motivation. I just use the negative and turn it into a positive and my daughter is my biggest cheerleader. The other day my 3 year old said mom " Your leg is hard I can't sit on your lap" That made my day.

I won't quit and neither will you. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!

Kennkaru

It's a really good idea to drink a big glass of water right away when you wake up, before doing/eating anything else. Chugging down a first-thing glass of water is good for you, feels good, and gets 16oz or so of water out of the way immediately. I like to put a few drops of lemon juice into mine.

Maybe just make sure you drink a cup of water every time you eat?

This may sound bizarre but I also like to drink a big glass of warm/hot water before bed. Sure, you're probably going to be visiting the rest room in the middle of the night, but the hot water is soothing and helps me wind down at the end of a long day. Plus that's another several ounces accounted for.

I've found that if you're not used to drinking much water, it doesn't really seem appetizing at all and it's hard to get all you need. However, once you get in the habit of drinking it, your body will want it and it will be much easier to get it done.

CEHayes73

Don't be too hard on yourself. Your baby is still so tiny. If you're breastfeeding remember that burns calories, too! If you can get yourself out for a walk with baby that would be great exercise, and as your baby grows bigger, you'll get more resistance. Try to find a buddy to get out with. Lots of places have walking clubs for new moms or even stroller-aerobics. If you're mood continues to be really low, talk to your doctor about post-partum depression. It is very common, and very real, and totally treatable - believe me, I've been there! If it is depression, exercise especially outside, can be hugely helpful. Best of luck, and feel free to friend me if you want.

lunchlady1208

I've been there...over and over...but every day is a new day!! Hang in there and just keep at it!!! ♥HUGS

definitelyval

I have SO been there! I've got 100 pounds to lose and it seems to be going SO SLOW! But, I'm determined to make lifestyle changes, and I know the weight will come off. Truth? It's okay to cry - because you're acknowledging how you feel about who/what you are. It's when you don't own your emotions that you ignore them and keep repeating bad habits! "They" say that admitting you have a problem is the first step, and I'm on board with that. And now you're reaching out to others who can really understand what you're going through, so you are ON YOUR WAY!!! We're here for you!

I keep water with me wherever I go...in my car, at my desk, by my bed. I just drink it when I'm ready to reach for something that I know is not terribly good for me. I'm also going to do the before picture and post it up at home...cause I certainly don't want to look at my jigglyness, lol! ODAAT (on day at a time), and you will succeed. :flowerforyou: