Stand out or fit in?

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  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    I want to stand out in my man's eyes and my own eyes!

    I'm pretty sure you already do, Ms. Superlady.
  • DonttrythatwithME
    DonttrythatwithME Posts: 214 Member
    I am naturally the clown the joker in the pack, i do not actively seek to stand out it just happens,

    I care not either way what people think of me i can be taken the wrong way due to my very dry and occasionally bizarre sense of humor.
  • Foxypoo61287
    Foxypoo61287 Posts: 638 Member
    Ignored. Just let me do my thing please. :P
  • Phrak
    Phrak Posts: 353 Member
    I chose to stand out both in stature, and to be able to back my stature up with the strength. I dont want to be some average statistic. Get big or die trying.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    To whatever degree that your fitness relates to other people, would you rather stand out or fit in?

    I would like to blend in with other people who think health and fitness are important, and eventually be someone that other people would know they could come to for advice. I don't really need to stand out or be the center of attention, but I do like to tell people to feel my biceps. :smile: I have ADD, so I might not be understanding the question right, but that's my answer. Hmmmm, anewattitude's answer is better than mine!
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    While it's nice to be noticed, I don't go out of my way to stand out.
  • Legs_McGee
    Legs_McGee Posts: 845 Member
    I'm not a loud person but I've always made friends easily. I guess when I'm with my friends and family I'm pretty outgoing, I think I'm fun to be with and people seem to enjoy my company, but I don't really feel the need to be the center of attention. Can't say I've ever really felt ignored - and certainly not ostracized. So I guess I'm okay with either fitting in or standing out .... however it all works out.
  • gpstrucker
    gpstrucker Posts: 930 Member
    I want to fit in with those who stand out.

    That is exactly what I was going to answer LOL.
  • bulbadoof
    bulbadoof Posts: 1,058 Member
    I'm not really concerned with whether or not I stand out. I want to live my life. I suppose it would be easier to do my own thing if I were ignored, but I don't feel I'd be doing my own thing if I were actively attempting to fit in. I just don't think about how other people see me.
  • gatecityradio
    gatecityradio Posts: 401
    I'd rather stand out....idk why.
  • Jferg69
    Jferg69 Posts: 241 Member
    forget all three.

    Be you. If you go out of your way to please others you live your life to their standards.

    If you live your life the way you want to, you don't have to impress anyone.

    So, be you, if others don't accept this, they were never meant to be your friends....

    BE YOU.......
  • love22step
    love22step Posts: 1,103 Member
    I seem to have a competitive nature, so I guess I want to stand out. I try hard, and I like to succeed.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I like to stand... apart. Not so much stand out and be the center of attention. I'm introverted and a lone wolf, but I like to excel at whatever I do.
  • BillyC96
    BillyC96 Posts: 7,560 Member
    When I look in the mirror I want to respect the man I see. Nothing else matters.
  • markymarrkk
    markymarrkk Posts: 495 Member
    Stand out for Yourself! Do things because you want to, exercise and eat the way you feel comfortable with, listen to your body, listen to your brain and your heart! Make yourself happy...Standing out is (in my opinion) the only way to fully live your life and enjoy yourself and others! Who cares if someone else goes to the gym 7 days a week, or only 2...if 4 or 5 works for you then so be it. Don't get down on yourself for working out too much or too little....don't let others tell you what is best for you! Unless you have hired them to do that or they are your doctor because then you would have done that for yourself!

    Just Stay True To Yourself! If you fit in, then great and if not, then oh well! :)


    Fcck Yes... Im Here to Fcck **** up! I don't give a shtt what anyone thinks about how I talk or walk, just do what I love, and learn from what sounds Legit.
  • CallieM15
    CallieM15 Posts: 910 Member
    I was never ignored... then slipped into "hermit" mode, and realized life went on around me.... I want to stand out and matter to people again! And I did that by being active, social, CONFIDENT.
  • k8ermarie
    k8ermarie Posts: 204
    Stand out for Yourself! Do things because you want to, exercise and eat the way you feel comfortable with, listen to your body, listen to your brain and your heart! Make yourself happy...Standing out is (in my opinion) the only way to fully live your life and enjoy yourself and others! Who cares if someone else goes to the gym 7 days a week, or only 2...if 4 or 5 works for you then so be it. Don't get down on yourself for working out too much or too little....don't let others tell you what is best for you! Unless you have hired them to do that or they are your doctor because then you would have done that for yourself!

    Just Stay True To Yourself! If you fit in, then great and if not, then oh well! :)


    Fcck Yes... Im Here to Fcck **** up! I don't give a shtt what anyone thinks about how I talk or walk, just do what I love, and learn from what sounds Legit.

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  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    Interresting...if this is in general, then I'd say that it takes time for me to be accepted as part of a group etc. Otherwise, I keep myself to myself and let others work me out. Which means, You have to try and get to know me. Don't make judgements over something said or written. That doesn't mean I'm anti-social, quite the opposite. I'll talk and be polite to people until over time, there's a good rappour going on. But if I make all the effort and the other person or people doesn't then I just carry on regardless. Their loss! I'd rather be myself and stand out than try to blend in. Contrary to what I've just said, sometimes, I WANT to blend/fit in for the sake of being accepted in some circles....but what's the point, if you're not going to be yourself. idk. I have to say, being the typical dumb blonde that I am, I quite often laugh at myself or along with other people, for the simple reason, that it makes it easier to accept. I'm also intuitive and can tell a lot by initial impressions / reactions.

    IN all honesty, only the other day, I was sat at work and thought, actually, I know and get on with loads of people in the town where I live and at my work place with the other shop owners. It was a good feeling knowing that I can actually make friends.

    On the other hand, if we're talking MFP, then initiallIy I found I was getting on ok with people in the forums, however, sometimes, I go through phases, where I feel I'm either ignored or in some cases, taken the pee out of through sarcasm. Yes, I can laugh along too, but sometimes, it's not nice. and yes, I can read coded messages. lol!

    Outside of that, I'm just gonna be me - I'm not a great conversationalist, but I try......if you don't like me then fine. If you make and effort and get to know me through forums or PM's then Great. I'm not that bad really....and I won't bite - much! lol. Depends if you piss me off. Otherwise, I'm just a slighly shy, deep thinking, analyst who is friendly, open and honest. Take it or leave it.

    And now that I;ve read that back - I don't have drone on.....no wonder I get ignored. Oh well. :laugh:

    We all look for acceptance in one form or another.....Not one of us here is different in that regard.
  • Living4Liz2012
    Living4Liz2012 Posts: 312
    I WANT TO STAND OUT AND BE SEEN...I LLLOOOVVVEEE THE WOMAN I HAVE BECOME...If people don't like it then keep it moving:)
  • sammniamii
    sammniamii Posts: 669 Member
    What about those of us who DON'T want to stand out? I have always blended into the background, I watch things and observe, plus people always seem able to "tell me" things they wouldn't with others. I never wanted to be the center of attention, but I also never wanted to be ignored. There is a difference in wanting to stand back and watch and simply being dismissed and brushed off.

    Why? Because I've watched too many people who "shined" among others, fall and fall hard. Many people don't understate my logic, but I don't want to be the one who falls. I don't want to be the shiner either - I'll stand over here and watch you all. And wait *cue creepy music* lol
  • jmilian825
    jmilian825 Posts: 193 Member
    I fade into the background and try not to draw attention to myself.
  • chatipati1
    chatipati1 Posts: 211 Member
    I don't think I am either way. Either you like me or you don't...but know that I won't cry in my pillow either way:)
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    Just to add - relating to fitness - I already get on with a number of people on here in regards to gaining weight. I'd like to stand out, but I'd MUCH rather just be myself.
  • Sox90716
    Sox90716 Posts: 976 Member
    Run your own race.
  • gombolyu
    gombolyu Posts: 136 Member
    I have never been ostracized. And mostly I am sought out. Usually more people know me that I can even recognise. Even after I gained a lots of weight I am mostly sought out, and ignored only sometimes. (70-30) I am a little bit afraid to loose some of the ignorance part again, because It can be so relaxing sometimes.
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