Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

BazAbroad
BazAbroad Posts: 248
Hi all,
Truth be known,
would you really want a member of the opposite sex to start speaking to you in the Gym,
or would you think they were trying to chat you up.

( they might just be being friendly and have no designs on you at all )

Be honest.
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  • kymillion
    kymillion Posts: 791 Member
    Hi all,
    Truth be known,
    would you really want a member of the opposite sex to start speaking to you in the Gym,
    or would you think they were trying to chat you up.

    ( they might just be being friendly and have no designs on you at all )

    Be honest.

    I think you can generally tell if someones interested in more than your looks.. its all in the approach ... I personally , am a serious people person.. so I will talk/hang... with anyone. unless they get creepy.. or too touchy .. but I am okay with speaking my mind..

    I dont have a problem letting someone know they are crossing the line.


    overall why not..
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Hi all,
    Truth be known,
    would you really want a member of the opposite sex to start speaking to you in the Gym,
    or would you think they were trying to chat you up.

    ( they might just be being friendly and have no designs on you at all )

    Be honest.

    As long as he's not holding his junk...chat away!!
  • You can easily tell by the way they act and talk.
  • crazy8ts
    crazy8ts Posts: 360
    Hi all,
    Truth be known,
    would you really want a member of the opposite sex to start speaking to you in the Gym,
    or would you think they were trying to chat you up.

    ( they might just be being friendly and have no designs on you at all )

    Be honest.

    As long as he's not holding his junk...chat away!!

    Damnit! That's what I keep doing wrong! Release THEN hello.... release then hello... Ok... I think I got it this time...
  • BazAbroad
    BazAbroad Posts: 248
    release and hello,, funny as.
  • Kara_xxx
    Kara_xxx Posts: 635 Member
    I'll happily talk to anyone in the gym regardless of gender.
  • Liquid741
    Liquid741 Posts: 292 Member
    since i go to the gym 5 to 6 days a week...i see a lot of the same people. i talk to numerous individuals, most happen to be women.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper
  • amyy902
    amyy902 Posts: 290 Member
    i work in a gym as a PT so i dont have a choice in it. but when im working out i prefer to keep myself to myself.
  • penmosha
    penmosha Posts: 132 Member
    Hi all,
    Truth be known,
    would you really want a member of the opposite sex to start speaking to you in the Gym,
    or would you think they were trying to chat you up.

    ( they might just be being friendly and have no designs on you at all )

    Be honest.

    As long as he's not holding his junk...chat away!!

    Damnit! That's what I keep doing wrong! Release THEN hello.... release then hello... Ok... I think I got it this time...

    PMSL :bigsmile:
  • Donnacoach
    Donnacoach Posts: 540 Member
    I wouldn't call him a perv. I hope it would be a casual conversation.
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    No I wouldn't think they were hitting on me. I'm the only girl who goes to my gym, everyone who talks to me is a guy, and seeing as I've been going there a long while, people do say hi / ask how training's going / offer to spot me etc.

    You can tell when people are trying to chat you up just by the way they look at you, and the things they say. I've never had that in the gym.
  • MonkeyBars
    MonkeyBars Posts: 266 Member
    If I saw bad form, I may run over to a member of staff and send them over. I probably wouldn't want anyone to talk to me and I wouldn't bother with them. My workouts are about me, not anyone else.

    If someone came over, I'd probably grunt and then just got on with things!

    Nowaways I avoid the globo-gym and do my chaotic caveman circuits in my home gym!

    Summary: The eyes will show you if they're perving!
  • Elleinnz
    Elleinnz Posts: 1,661 Member
    I work out at a smaller gym, and many times I am the only girl there, so it will be a pretty lonely place if our boys didn't talk to me.

    We have a bunch of regulars, and when you pass someone you will at least acknowledge them - and a smile.....

    We all work out pretty damn hard - so there is not a massive amount of chit chat - but we all acknowledge when someone puts in some massive effort, or achieve something special.

    The gym also has a facebook page - we most probably "socialise" more there than we do in the gym....

    So - no - I don't see a guy talking to me in the gym as inappropriate - as long as he appreciates I am there to work hard - and I am not going to interrupt my workout to chit chat...
  • Minoesh
    Minoesh Posts: 105 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper

    I find this comment super insensitive and shallow :ohwell:
  • NannersBalletLegs
    NannersBalletLegs Posts: 207 Member
    I had a gym membership once at this place where every time a woman (including me, out of shape as I was) would walk past the weight-lifting area, all the men would start staring and whistling. It was horrible. I tried to cancel my membership after several days of that and the gym battled me over my contract for a year. I will never join another corporate-owned gym because of this. I stick with the YMCA or the facilities at my university now and am much happier.

    That said, I will always talk to men or women who are just being friendly or helpful when it seems sincere. I always appreciate any advice or help on how to operate the machines or improve my form so that I don't hurt myself. I wouldn't want to get asked out on a date in this context though, not unless I had gotten to know the person for a long time and already felt comfortable around them. That's just me, though.
  • PJ64
    PJ64 Posts: 866 Member
    i work in a gym as a PT so i dont have a choice in it. but when im working out i prefer to keep myself to myself.



    THIS:smile:
  • staps065
    staps065 Posts: 837 Member
    I would think you can tell if the guy is trying to pick you up versus just being friendly. For me, I'm there to workout and normally just say "Hi", "Good Bye", "Have a Great Day", "Good Morning", etc... and don't spend a lot of time chit chatting. I sometimes feel like I'm rude because I don't know many people's names but see them outside the gym and wave, smile and then get the look from my wife and "who was that?" She now realizes I may know the nice lady, gentlmen or couple but never really know them more than from the gym and maybe if they do more weights or cardio.

    So I'm guessing I'm wierd, but I try not to get all up in people's faces, especially young ladies as I never want to be though of as a creeper! Just MHO.
  • I've been at the gym for almost 2 months and no one has really spoken to me there. I wish someone would chat to me so I could make new friends, but I'm super shy so I just get on with it. Plus, I look like a sweaty beetroot so I don't blame them haha.

    Did have this one pervy guy say something to me as I was going to the changing rooms though! He was old enough to be my father, ick.
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  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper

    As bad as this sounds theres a degree of truth there...if theres a mutual attraction a perv can be viewed as friendly and if there isnt a genuinely friendly person can creep you out
  • Impy84
    Impy84 Posts: 430
    depends on the approach. I rarely have this concern though since I'm aware of the hot mess I look in the gym. But overall I don't mind a chat just come correct.
  • Allie_71
    Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
    I've had men talk to me in the gym, but I'm not super chatty there because I honestly don't want do disturb other peoples' workouts. I'm hyper aware that a lot of people are there to focus on their workouts and don't like distractions. If it's in the lobby area or the cafe, I don't mind and I'll happily chat back, but I tend to be very short with my replies in the gym environment....
  • skinyZ
    skinyZ Posts: 89 Member
    I'm quite friendly and i always make the mistake of thinking guys are just being friendly like me when they are actually chatting me up! doh!
  • Fieldsy
    Fieldsy Posts: 1,105 Member
    The object of the gym for me is to get in and get out. I don't want to lose focus so I will wear my headphones the whole time.
  • MikeM53082
    MikeM53082 Posts: 1,199 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper

    ^^ Sad, but true.
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    A small upside of being 62 is that I'm pretty sure that if someone speaks to me at the gym that they aren't hitting on me.
    Other than my husband and his trainer, only two men have spoken to me in the gym in the two years I've gone there.
    One guy said to me, "I hate this song", and I agreed.
    The other fellow I speak to pretty regularly because he is a fellow Mini Cooper owner and he's about my son's age.
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    It's been my experience that (hetero) men will rarely speak to a woman they are not attracted to...and if you say hello or whatever back to them they will take that as an invitation that you are also interested in them. Heaven forbid you smile at them! LOL. I try to be courteous to everyone and I will say hello back but I make sure to position my hand so they can't fail to see my WEDDING ring.
  • BROscience_PHD
    BROscience_PHD Posts: 215 Member
    You could be jessica biel doing squats in leggings and wife beater, I wont talk to you. I have 40 minutes in the gym and those 40 minutes are for *kitten* kicking, and *kitten* kicking only. after my session by the shake bar, I might look your way but nothing more than that because were all sweaty and stinky so its not really an attractive environment.
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Whats friendly and whats a Gym perv ?

    If the person is good looking/cute then he/she is friendly

    If an ugo, then perv/creeper

    I find this comment super insensitive and shallow :ohwell:

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