Told my mum i'm thinking of loosing weight...

Minnie92x
Minnie92x Posts: 107
in Food and Nutrition
She went out and brought this, supportive :grumble: !

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  • TheSlimWithin
    TheSlimWithin Posts: 82
    Lowercase the IMG, and it should work. :)
  • Minnie92x
    Minnie92x Posts: 107
    Lowercase the IMG, and it should work. :)

    You babe! Thanks :D xx
  • TheSlimWithin
    TheSlimWithin Posts: 82
    No problem! :bigsmile:

    And what is that all about, I thought I was struggling with a load of tiny peanut butter cups in the fridge. D: But that's just unfair!
  • Minnie92x
    Minnie92x Posts: 107
    Tell me about it! No one else eats it, so it just stares at me.
  • lmelangley
    lmelangley Posts: 1,039 Member
    I think that parents sometimes get scared when their children want to lose weight. I'm not sure why - it's just an overall impression from reading the forums. If she's not going to eat it, stick it in the freezer and tell her you don't want it handy, lying about. If it's in the freezer, it minimally has to thaw before you can eat it. Maybe that will help you abstain and get the point across.
  • PShep17
    PShep17 Posts: 221 Member
    Aww poor show Mother! That's tough. How much will-power have you got?
  • pg3ibew
    pg3ibew Posts: 1,026 Member
    Here is a novel idea. Buy your own food.
  • audreygonzy
    audreygonzy Posts: 161 Member
    HATE when that happens. My boy and the women I work with are the biggest culprits! I now have a Big Texas Cinnamon Roll staring at me as my 'reward' for good grades. :grumble:
  • Minnie92x
    Minnie92x Posts: 107
    Here is a novel idea. Buy your own food.

    Thanks for your novel idea, very useful to me.
  • pg3ibew
    pg3ibew Posts: 1,026 Member
    Here is a novel idea. Buy your own food.

    Thanks for your novel idea, very useful to me.

    No one is going to help you but you.
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    Your mom probably feels threatened by your wanting to be fit. If I were you I wouldn't even mention it to her again, just quietly mind your diet and quietly go about your exercise. When she offers you/buys you junk, just say No thank you and leave it at that.
  • nattielove
    nattielove Posts: 17 Member
    People on the forums can help with legitimate advice, Pg3lbew.
  • clairyfairy247
    clairyfairy247 Posts: 425 Member
    I feel your pain completely!! My mum is exactly the same. And I may have reached a breakthrough in the situation!
    My mum is a bit of a health freak but like everybody she falls off the wagon now and again.
    Today she brought out a big pack of biscuits and everytime she ate one, she tried to make me eat one.
    When I asked her why she was trying to forcefeed me she said "if you overeat, it makes me feel less guilty when I overeat".

    She doesn't want to feel like a failure.
  • hooperkay
    hooperkay Posts: 463 Member
    take it back to store get money back on it. Save money up to give back to your mom later. Or throw it away. No one really needs it. If she asks then say I ate it.
  • Wonderob
    Wonderob Posts: 1,372 Member
    Your mom probably feels threatened by your wanting to be fit.

    Yeah why is that? My mum loves me to bits and couldn't do enough for me...... but HATES it when I go to the gym, gets cross when I refuse a cream cake and positively refuses to listen to my 'healthy weight' goals???
  • pg3ibew
    pg3ibew Posts: 1,026 Member
    People on the forums can help with legitimate advice, Pg3lbew.

    ???
  • morkiemama
    morkiemama Posts: 894 Member
    Did anyone just think maybe she wants to grumble a bit about her mum not being supportive? I'm sure she can make her own decisions about what she is going to eat and if she wants to go buy her own groceries, etc. :)

    I'm sorry OP that your mum is not being supportive. :( That really sucks.

    Someone mentioned that parents freak when their children want to lose weight. I think it has to do with the fact that most parents do not like their children to feel badly about themselves and think that the motivation to lose weight comes from an unhappy place. I know that my parents tend to feel guilty if they think that something they did in raising me, or they contributed to, makes me feel poorly later on.

    She just might be trying to reinforce that you are perfect the way you are and are free to love yourself (and thus can eat whatever you want), and not really trying to sabotage if that makes sense? Maybe you can sit her down and explain that you are not unhappy with how you are, but you'd like to improve your health and wellness. :) That might help ease her fears if that is where they are coming from.

    Luckily, my mum and dad are very supportive and buy me my own groceries separate from the family, if they are the ones that go shopping (I often go myself). They ask me if I am low on any of my healthy staples and my dad even reads labels and tries to bring me new stuff home. :) I don't know how I would handle them if they were doing the opposite of that :/ It must be hard.
  • wantstolooseweight
    wantstolooseweight Posts: 166 Member
    Try having a chat to her, ask her if she minds you putting the cake in the freezer so it doesnt go off and you can enjoy it slice at a time, or take it to share with mates so you don't end up binging on it. .... if the worst comes to the worst ask her for a shelf in the fridge and to give you an allowance every week for food, then do your own cooking and meals. Its hard but it might make her realise that your more in control than she realises :( good luck and hope you manage to resist all the temptation she is giving!
  • Minnie92x
    Minnie92x Posts: 107
    Thanks for all the positive responses. Yes, I should be extremely grateful that my parents buy me food however I can't afford to buy my own. So I have to eat what they buy me, so thats not an option.

    Next time I just won't mention the diet :D
  • Minnie92x
    Minnie92x Posts: 107
    Your mom probably feels threatened by your wanting to be fit.

    Yeah why is that? My mum loves me to bits and couldn't do enough for me...... but HATES it when I go to the gym, gets cross when I refuse a cream cake and positively refuses to listen to my 'healthy weight' goals???

    This is my mum!
  • petreebird
    petreebird Posts: 344 Member
    If no one else eats it I would kindly ask your mother for the receipt and return every item while explaining to her WHY you are returning them.

    If that doesn't work or mom gets attitude (hey, it does happen) I would promptly open each container, again WHILE explaining to her why, and dump the open container in the trash.

    Hey do what ya gotta do!
  • mcarter99
    mcarter99 Posts: 1,666 Member
    Have you asked her why, or do you already know? Maybe she actually cares about your health and feels you would be harmed by dieting? I have no idea your situation or over/underweightness but as a mother I can't imagine any other reason she'd sabotage you.
  • DiannaMoorer
    DiannaMoorer Posts: 783 Member
    That is just plain mean!
  • Athijade
    Athijade Posts: 3,300 Member
    If no one else eats it I would kindly ask your mother for the receipt and return every item while explaining to her WHY you are returning them.

    If that doesn't work or mom gets attitude (hey, it does happen) I would promptly open each container, again WHILE explaining to her why, and dump the open container in the trash.

    Hey do what ya gotta do!

    Throwing it out is just as childish as the mother buying it in the first place. In fact, it is MORE childish.

    Mom can buy whatever food she wants and have whatever food she wants in the house. If someone wants to have total control then they should get their own place and buy their own food. Otherwise, you deal.
  • cutejohnsongirl
    cutejohnsongirl Posts: 3
    Wow....I know how that feels. My family eats icecream around me all the time!! And I LOVE ICECREAM. I have the biggest sweet tooth...Not fair.
  • Natihilator
    Natihilator Posts: 1,778 Member
    Here is a novel idea. Buy your own food.

    Buying her own food wouldn't make the the temptation of those desserts lying around the house magically disappear though
  • MissMormie
    MissMormie Posts: 359 Member
    Talk with your mom. But in a useful way.

    Explain how it makes you feel when she buys you this stuff right after you said you wanted to loose some weight. Tell her you're trying to take good care of yourself, like she has taken good care of you for years (maybe not in food, but in morals, education and so on). And explain that it would help you and make you feel better if she could support you in this, or at least, not buy this type of stuff for you.

    Do not try and guess why she's doing this. Ask her instead. If she feels she's helping you in some way by buying this, perhaps you can come up with a better way to help you together. ie. if she wants you to feel good about yourself, no matter how you look ask her to give compliments about your personality rather than appearance. As that's the part of you you need to love.

    Do not blame her, do not say she's making your fail. Just say what you feel. Ie. It feels like you want me to fail, leaves the table wide open for her to explain why she's doing this. While saying you're making me fail is attacking her directly, leaving as the only defence 'No I don't".
  • senyosmom
    senyosmom Posts: 613 Member
    throw it away and tell her to stop wasting her money. :)
  • mcarter99
    mcarter99 Posts: 1,666 Member
    If no one else eats it I would kindly ask your mother for the receipt and return every item while explaining to her WHY you are returning them.

    If that doesn't work or mom gets attitude (hey, it does happen) I would promptly open each container, again WHILE explaining to her why, and dump the open container in the trash.

    Hey do what ya gotta do!

    Throwing it out is just as childish as the mother buying it in the first place. In fact, it is MORE childish.

    Mom can buy whatever food she wants and have whatever food she wants in the house. If someone wants to have total control then they should get their own place and buy their own food. Otherwise, you deal.

    I tend to agree. I have plenty of 'non-diet' food in my house because we're not all dieters and we don't all have to eat what I eat. You learn that your choices are your choices and you can leave that food sit there for the others to eat. Or to rot. It doesn't matter. We have the control over what we eat.
  • Mhaney
    Mhaney Posts: 467 Member
    My dad does this. We live in a huge house with my parents and my kids, and it is hell trying to get my kids to eat right with my parents here, all they buy is junk then complain about how bad they feel. I have finally gotten my dad to hide all his crap in his room. Every time he steps out the door he comes back with 4 boxes of donuts. Every scrap of decent food in this house, I bought. Then when I go for it, it's gone. They eat my stuff and replace it with crap!

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