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  • chellebubblz
    chellebubblz Posts: 84 Member
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    I don't think porn is right OR wrong. I think we all have different feelings about porn and must all come to compromises in our relationships about these feelings. My ex husband had a porn addiction. Like a serious, needed therapy/lost jobs because of it, addiction. This is why he is my ex husband. I never had anything against porn and was never insecure about myself or my relationship and use to enjoy porn myself but an experience like that turned me away from it. My fiance is very understanding of it and doesn't watch it. It wouldn't bother me if he did as I know he's not my ex, but out of respect for my past he just chooses not to.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
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    I would be the first to put my hand up to admit to feeling massively insecure about my looks.

    Why?? You're a cutie!!
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
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    I like watching the Twilight Zone. That doesn't mean I think my imaginary girlfriend is any less creepy.
  • DrowningMermaid
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    Quite possibly the best response ever.

    I know the request was for men in relationships and I'm lacking a specific part of that, but I watch it occasionally. It doesn't mean I'm no longer interested in my own man simply because I'm looking at a different one.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,669 Member
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    Married and look at porn daily. Not dissatisfied with my wife or our sex life. I also work as a PT and see and work with hot females everyday. Would never cheat on her because it would ruin us and I like us. Why look? I like boobs.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
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    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
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    I have 2 awesome motorcycles, but I still like to look at, listen to, touch, and smell ones that don't belong to me....
  • bluebird321
    bluebird321 Posts: 733 Member
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    I want to say the answer is "all the above". I think it really depends on the people in the relationship.
  • DrowningMermaid
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    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    Really? Have you never enjoyed the perfectly wonderful eye candy that walks around the mall/beach/store/etc? Because I have. I love my husband and he loves me but we both get a huge kick out of ogling other people. If he misses a hottie walking by because he's too busy gazing into my baby blues, I'll point her out and note the absolutely fabulous condition of her boobs/butt/legs. He doesn't mind when I look at other guys either. It's just harmless fun. So is pornography (for some -- understandably some people do have an actual problem with it). It's people-watching to the highest degree. You can look but you can't touch (though you can touch yourself) and at the very least you could watch it together and use it as foreplay to get your motors running.
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
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    For those of you in happy relationships and who would never contemplate cheating, would you consider watching porn to be a sign you are not satisfied with your partner? (Yes I know women watch it too but this is a question to the males out there)

    I'm not a man....however, as a woman....I enjoy porn and it doesn't mean I am dissatisfied at all. Hell, it only makes things hotter.
  • DPernet
    DPernet Posts: 481 Member
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    Men are pigs :laugh: The following always makes me laugh. Diary of a viagra housewife. Moral of the story...be careful what you wish for :wink:

    Day 1:

    Just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary with not much to celebrate. When it came time to re-enact our wedding night, he locked himself in the bathroom and cried.

    Day 2:

    Today, he says he has a big secret to tell me. He's impotent, he says, and he wants me to be the first to know. Why doesn't he tell me something I don't know! I mean, he actually thinks I haven't noticed.

    Day 3:

    This marriage is in trouble. A woman has needs. Yesterday, I saw a picture of Nelson's Column and burst into tears.

    Day 4:

    A miracle has happened! There's a new drug on the market that will fix his 'problem'. It's called Viagra. I told him that if he takes Viagra, things will be just like they were on our wedding night. I think this will work. I replaced his Prozac with the Viagra, hoping to lift something other than his mood.

    Day 5:

    What absolute bliss!!

    Day 6 :

    Isn't life wonderful but it's difficult to write while he's doing that.

    Day 7:

    This Viagra thing has gone to his head. No pun intended! Yesterday, at Burger King, the manager asked me if I'd like a Whopper. He thought they were talking about him. But, have to admit it's very nice - I don't think
    I've ever been so happy.

    Day 8:

    I think he took too many over the weekend. Yesterday, instead of mowing the lawn, he was using his new friend as a weed wacker. I'm also getting a bit sore down there.

    Day 9:

    No time to write. He might catch me.

    Day 10:

    Okay, I admit it. I'm hiding. I mean, a girl can only take so much.
    And to make matters worse, he's washing the Viagra down with neat whisky!
    What am I going to do? I feel tacky all over....

    Day 11:

    I'm basically being screwed to death. It's like living with a Black and Decker drill. I woke up this morning hot-glued to the bed. Even my armpits hurt. He's a complete pig.

    Day 12:

    I wish he was gay. I've stopped wearing make-up, cleaning my teeth or even washing but he still keeps coming after me! Even yawning has become dangerous...

    Day 13:

    Every time I shut my eyes, there's a sneak attack! It's like going to bed with a scud missile. I can hardly walk and if he tries that "Oops, sorry" thing again I'll kill the *kitten*

    Day 14:

    I've done everything to turn him off. Nothing is working. I even started dressing like a nun but this just seems to make him hornier.
    Help me!

    Day 15:

    I think I'll have to kill him. I'm starting to stick to everything I sit on. The cat and dog won't go near him and our friends don't come over any more. Last night I told him to go and **** himself and he did.

    Day 16:

    The *kitten* has started to complain about headaches. I hope the bloody thing explodes. I did suggest he might try stopping the Viagra and going back on Prozac.

    Day 17:

    Switched the pills but it doesn't seem to have made any difference...Christ! Here he comes again!

    Day 18:

    He's back on Prozac. The lazy sod just sits there in front of the TV all day with that remote control in his hand and expects me to do everything for him. What absolute bliss!
  • SilkyHotspur
    SilkyHotspur Posts: 233 Member
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    In the end, it all comes down to Men, and Women, and how we are genetically programmed. This could the the 20th, 21st, or 22nd Century, still the same....

    Men view sex on a physical level
    Women view sex on an emotional level

    This is not to say women don't enjoy porn, however, for men, it is tied into a physical satisfaction that is part of being a man.
    This is not to say all men watch porn....they don't, doesn't make them less of a man, and if they do, it doesn't make them more of a man...

    If you are concerned about your relationship....consider this. "it doesn't matter where you get your appetite, so long as you come home to eat." Maybe there's something more exciting in the movies that are not happening at home...not saying you need to be a circus performer, or that it is your fault, maybe the chemistry between the two of you is a bit stale....jobs, stress, kids...it all has an effect. Look at it from the outside, and see what you could change, then see what your partner could change.
  • mustgetmuscles1
    mustgetmuscles1 Posts: 3,346 Member
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    All those married women that read smut novels are cheaters too. : ) If he is turning you down for sex then maybe you should be worried. If not I wouldnt worry about it. Porn is just fun sometimes.
  • beach_please
    beach_please Posts: 533 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him? It might make him feel less like he has to be sneaky about it.

    That being said, I don't see a problem with a guy viewing porn alone, either. It doesn't mean he's unhappy with you or your sex life. Its no different than all these women who read '50 Shades of Grey', get all horny and then attack their husbands.
  • emmab0902
    emmab0902 Posts: 2,337 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together
  • Noki1024
    Noki1024 Posts: 302
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    I watch porn more than he does lol. My husband and I have a very hot, steamy sex life even after 12 years. Porn is not a form of cheating - I watch it to get ideas :wink:
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
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    I find porn incredibly dull. With that said I (usually) get enough *attention* from my girlfriend and I can imagine I'd be more inclined to porn if I didn't. Men physically NEED relief after a set period of time.

    So long as he's not turning you away, I don't see how it can be a problem.
  • ShareeMorty
    ShareeMorty Posts: 324 Member
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    Men are pigs :laugh: The following always makes me laugh. Diary of a viagra housewife. Moral of the story...be careful what you wish for :wink:

    Day 1:

    Just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary with not much to celebrate. When it came time to re-enact our wedding night, he locked himself in the bathroom and cried.

    Day 2:

    Today, he says he has a big secret to tell me. He's impotent, he says, and he wants me to be the first to know. Why doesn't he tell me something I don't know! I mean, he actually thinks I haven't noticed.

    Day 3:

    This marriage is in trouble. A woman has needs. Yesterday, I saw a picture of Nelson's Column and burst into tears.

    Day 4:

    A miracle has happened! There's a new drug on the market that will fix his 'problem'. It's called Viagra. I told him that if he takes Viagra, things will be just like they were on our wedding night. I think this will work. I replaced his Prozac with the Viagra, hoping to lift something other than his mood.

    Day 5:

    What absolute bliss!!

    Day 6 :

    Isn't life wonderful but it's difficult to write while he's doing that.

    Day 7:

    This Viagra thing has gone to his head. No pun intended! Yesterday, at Burger King, the manager asked me if I'd like a Whopper. He thought they were talking about him. But, have to admit it's very nice - I don't think
    I've ever been so happy.

    Day 8:

    I think he took too many over the weekend. Yesterday, instead of mowing the lawn, he was using his new friend as a weed wacker. I'm also getting a bit sore down there.

    Day 9:

    No time to write. He might catch me.

    Day 10:

    Okay, I admit it. I'm hiding. I mean, a girl can only take so much.
    And to make matters worse, he's washing the Viagra down with neat whisky!
    What am I going to do? I feel tacky all over....

    Day 11:

    I'm basically being screwed to death. It's like living with a Black and Decker drill. I woke up this morning hot-glued to the bed. Even my armpits hurt. He's a complete pig.

    Day 12:

    I wish he was gay. I've stopped wearing make-up, cleaning my teeth or even washing but he still keeps coming after me! Even yawning has become dangerous...

    Day 13:

    Every time I shut my eyes, there's a sneak attack! It's like going to bed with a scud missile. I can hardly walk and if he tries that "Oops, sorry" thing again I'll kill the *kitten*

    Day 14:

    I've done everything to turn him off. Nothing is working. I even started dressing like a nun but this just seems to make him hornier.
    Help me!

    Day 15:

    I think I'll have to kill him. I'm starting to stick to everything I sit on. The cat and dog won't go near him and our friends don't come over any more. Last night I told him to go and **** himself and he did.

    Day 16:

    The *kitten* has started to complain about headaches. I hope the bloody thing explodes. I did suggest he might try stopping the Viagra and going back on Prozac.

    Day 17:

    Switched the pills but it doesn't seem to have made any difference...Christ! Here he comes again!

    Day 18:

    He's back on Prozac. The lazy sod just sits there in front of the TV all day with that remote control in his hand and expects me to do everything for him. What absolute bliss!

    Bahaha!!!
  • EricNCSU
    EricNCSU Posts: 699 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
  • munkey418
    munkey418 Posts: 139
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    I watch porn more than he does lol. My husband and I have a very hot, steamy sex life even after 12 years. Porn is not a form of cheating - I watch it to get ideas :wink:

    THIS, but seriously, mine flips thru cause hes bored and isnt that what most TV/movies are these days anyway? and as long as he doesnt pic the porn over the actual act i dont see the issue :/
  • heidiberr
    heidiberr Posts: 643 Member
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    This made me laugh so hard I have to quote it. And it's true--porn is no different than smutty novels. Hell the guy I'm seeing and I call out attractive people together. We all have needs--we're all going to be attracted to a lot of different people--and as long as I'm not being turned away, I could care less what he does.