Question for the men in relationships

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  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    This is a pretty easy answer.
    IF it makes the SO uncomfortable, then it's cheating.
    Simple as that.
    If watching two (or three, or four) strangers humping on a screen is causing problems in the relationship, then the answer SHOULD be pretty simple.
    If the answer is NOT that simple, then it is called "addiction" and someone should seek help.
  • DavetheHYNIC
    DavetheHYNIC Posts: 318 Member
    This is a pretty easy answer.
    IF it makes the SO uncomfortable, then it's cheating.
    Simple as that.
    If watching two (or three, or four) strangers humping on a screen is causing problems in the relationship, then the answer SHOULD be pretty simple.
    If the answer is NOT that simple, then it is called "addiction" and someone should seek help.

    Hello! Your testicles called they would like to be let out of your wife's purse.

    Cheating is vaginal penetration or oral copulation. Look it up its in the dictionary!
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    It's all dependent on your relationship. What boundaries have you set?
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    This is a pretty easy answer.
    IF it makes the SO uncomfortable, then it's cheating.
    Simple as that.
    If watching two (or three, or four) strangers humping on a screen is causing problems in the relationship, then the answer SHOULD be pretty simple.
    If the answer is NOT that simple, then it is called "addiction" and someone should seek help.

    Hello! Your testicles called they would like to be let out of your wife's purse.

    Cheating is vaginal penetration or oral copulation. Look it up its in the dictionary!
    Well, I would quote the Bible on what cheating is but, I doubt it would matter much to you.
  • plbrown81
    plbrown81 Posts: 32 Member
    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    Well said! I personally don't understand why so many women are intimidated or threatened by their SO watching porn. *shrug*

    I totally agree with this. When he decides to get naked so long as it's with me, I don't really care. Go to a strip club, watch porn, watch two people get it on. Don't care, so long as his body parts aren't touching some other girl's body parts.

    To be honest, I'd be more worried if the guy thought porn was "naughty" and off limits. It's all about fantasy. So long as that's where it stays, don't really care.
  • Nasheikh
    Nasheikh Posts: 2
    if i may. yes it depends on the boundaries, but some watch it for entertainment, some watch it to try new tricks. some watch it because maybe in the past they used to get alot of sex and then for some reason it stopped so now its not as much. so they watch it so they can *kitten*( if i can say that) and feel complete satisfaction. Not that they have to watch in order for them to go cheat, i never knew what Porn was until my wife showed it to me, and no i dont watch all the time, infact not so much.

    But i know everyone says men are dogs, and yes we are but not to an extent to cheat because your spouse doesnt want it.

    Sometimes sex is not everything , so yes back to the question, what boundaries have you set for yourself?

    Good one EM CARROLL.:smile:
  • hdroddy
    hdroddy Posts: 122
    This is a pretty easy answer.
    IF it makes the SO uncomfortable, then it's cheating.
    Simple as that.
    If watching two (or three, or four) strangers humping on a screen is causing problems in the relationship, then the answer SHOULD be pretty simple.
    If the answer is NOT that simple, then it is called "addiction" and someone should seek help.

    Actually, I agree with this. In a committed relationship, each party compromises on things. Is giving up porn that difficult a compromise? I would not think so, not for a grown man. It's about respect. And when a man or a woman respect their SO enough to make that kind of compromise, I think it makes them MORE, not less. It's not about not having balls. It's about having the balls to BE a man and make a choice for something more significant than momentary gratification.

    A dictionary cannot define a relationship. The definition in Webster's may describe the physical act, but cheating isn't really about sex. There are emotional and psychological aspects all rolled into it.

    If a couple agree it is no big deal, then great. But if one or the other has a serious issue with it then I think that their wishes should be respected. Both parties should give one another that consideration and respect. Its about commitment.
  • Nasheikh
    Nasheikh Posts: 2
    Yes , that makes sense too. true true indeed.

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