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  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
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    I am very satisfied with my wife and have no desire to go else where,or look elsewhere. It's been the way for 11 years.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
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    Men are visual (as are some women). Unless its getting in the way of you physically being together- I wouldn't worry about it.

    We watch together but I am sure when I am out with my friends and he's home and bored- he probably watches sometimes. I don't worry about it. He's never chosen the computer/tv and his hand over me.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    I'm not very often in a "relationship" and when I am in one then I do not cheat or anything but I watch porn and even goto strip clubs. However, at strip clubs when I'm in a relationship I donot get close to the girls, its just like watching porn for me except theres the environment and I know most of the girls by their real names (buddy of mine owns most of the strip clubs in the area so I hangout with him often there).

    That being said, if the girl I'm with objects to me going to the strip club, I would happily do so. Porn on the other hand, I mean she would have to be a very VERY sexual person and available all the time to be able to tell me no to porn. Porn is honestly just means to get rid of stress. We're men. We like to eat and look at boobs. Thats our thing
  • TracyAnn90
    TracyAnn90 Posts: 20
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    To me, the original question is like asking if women who are in realtionships who watch romantic comedies are unhappy in their relationships. Think about it, not many men act the way the male leads do in romantic comedies & not many women act the way the female lead does in porn, and if they do neither are going to admit it. : ) They are both fantasy worlds tailored to a very specific demographic.
  • emmab0902
    emmab0902 Posts: 2,337 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    To me, the original question is like asking if women who are in realtionships who watch romantic comedies are unhappy in their relationships. Think about it, not many men act the way the male leads do in romantic comedies & not many women act the way the female lead does in porn, and if they do neither are going to admit it. : ) They are both fantasy worlds tailored to a very specific demographic.

    I had to checkout your profile to make sure you were a woman lol. This is so very true!!
  • TracyAnn90
    TracyAnn90 Posts: 20
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    To me, the original question is like asking if women who are in realtionships who watch romantic comedies are unhappy in their relationships. Think about it, not many men act the way the male leads do in romantic comedies & not many women act the way the female lead does in porn, and if they do neither are going to admit it. : ) They are both fantasy worlds tailored to a very specific demographic.

    I had to checkout your profile to make sure you were a woman lol. This is so very true!!
    LOL
    I get some strange looks from other chicks when I explain my take on porn but I am a realist. Another thing I think most women do not even take a minute to consider, is that for most men, porn was their first sexual experience and chances are, most consistent. Who am I to ask them to stop?
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???
    Relax, for the love of all that is holy. He has needs to be met, you're not there, he's watching porn to relieve himself. It's really very simple. Would you prefer he sought to satisfy those urges some other way?
  • ShareeMorty
    ShareeMorty Posts: 324 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???

    As long as he is naked with you he ain't thinking about anyone else.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???

    Every man. And I mean EVERY MAN have watched porn and still likes watching porn. Whether you like it or not, this is just how it is. You trying to stop him would just make things worst.

    I watch porn almost religiously, whether I'm in a relation or not. I have yet to fantasize about another woman while I was wiht a girl. If that ever happens, I would have to seriously reconsider my relationship. I have watch porn with the girl, I have watched porn WHILE were...you know (with her consent, we were trying new things and it was rather hot). I have thought of other women while I was watching porn or "cleaning the gun" by myself but that doesn't mean anything. Atleast not to me
  • shaynak112
    shaynak112 Posts: 751 Member
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    My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship.
    We both watch porn. Individually, sometimes together.
    Porn is awesome :D
  • CoffeeAndBarbells
    CoffeeAndBarbells Posts: 12 Member
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    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???

    I think we've found the problem right here... You are insecure, and actually think he would prefer those girls over you?!

    Talk to him about your insecurities, so he can tell you that it's not even close to being the case. But he can reassure you and try and make you see the truth of the matter, but none of that will make you feel better until YOU work on your self esteem and understand that porn is not something to be ashamed of and nor is it a threat in stable healthy relationships.

    Good luck!
  • CoffeeAndBarbells
    CoffeeAndBarbells Posts: 12 Member
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    My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship.
    We both watch porn. Individually, sometimes together.
    Porn is awesome :D

    Amen!
  • BigAlfrn
    BigAlfrn Posts: 173 Member
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.
    well said sir.
  • fiveferrels
    fiveferrels Posts: 397 Member
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    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    I guess your man watches porn and you dont approve? And you two are happy?
  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
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    SOMEONE SAY BOOBS?
  • raindance_maggie
    raindance_maggie Posts: 150
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    best.answer.ever.

    i also dont think it's a "need" thing. it doesnt matter if you two are having sex daily, guys like to look at porn. hell, *I* watch porn. i know it's a touchy subject with people and so it's to each their own way of feeling. if you dont like him watching it, you just dont like him watching it, BUT it doesnt mean that he's not satisfied with his girlfriend/wife.
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
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    Ok soup and pizza aside (very clever) why would a man need porn if he is satisfied with his woman?

    could it be thats its 3 am and shes to tired to scratch his ich?
  • BigAlfrn
    BigAlfrn Posts: 173 Member
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    I'm not a guy of course, but does he do this on his own? If so, why not watch porn WITH him?

    We dont live together

    THIS IS THE ANSWER TO THE QUESTION.... MYSTERY SOLVED.
    I don't think it's that simple. And doesn't this mean he's going to start thinking about those fake women when he IS with me???
    Relax, for the love of all that is holy. He has needs to be met, you're not there, he's watching porn to relieve himself. It's really very simple. Would you prefer he sought to satisfy those urges some other way?
    preach brother, preach!
  • MrsORourke
    MrsORourke Posts: 315 Member
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    Having soup is not an indication that I am no longer fond of pizza.

    Well said! I personally don't understand why so many women are intimidated or threatened by their SO watching porn. *shrug*

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