is it easiert the first time you break up when it

snw_

Completely blindsides you. the who what the fuck just happen? The crushing heartbtreat. Etc, etc

Then you decide to try again with in weeks, its there again, so #2 may, just may have to happen again.

all the same. shit. nithing new. no one was mean, just the second try! There was the hail mary and it doesnt seem to be working (althouh not quite sure of the outcome. There is a chance and if could go well, but maybe not and i could end to.

Which one is the hardest, all the first emotions but with the hope to try again

or the second, when no hope is left. its over.

which is easier for you?

sleepytexan

sorry . . . what?

neverstray

The blindside is harder.

Glowbee

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

Lift_This_

Tried it with my ex many times...we were on and off for 2 years....it wasn't easy.

WifeNMama

The second was easier, as we each moved away from the area. A fresh start with the knowledge that going back wasn't an option. There's freedom in that, even when it's painful.

76tech

Neither

ExplorinLauren

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

While this is completely appropriate for this thread :laugh: :drinker:
I wouldn't say it doesn't solve ANYTHING. lol ....

BarbWhite09

Problems?

ExplorinLauren

sorry . . . what?

And, I 2nd this notion. :laugh:

KiwiKim25

Blindside is harder at first, but doesn't prolong the emotional turmoil like the off and on and off and on...

(based on personal experience with both...)

RocketsGirl

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

I don't think that comment was called for. Rude much?

76tech

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

Um, no. That wasn't the question, was it?

CoryIda

I probably wouldn't have given him the second chance, but I would imagine the blindside would be slightly worse.


Love you, beautiful! Hope it all works out.



ETA: to the person who said "drinking doesn't help," you can just keep your mouth shut.

DieVixen

let me take a shot re read and answer........

dollipop

The blindside sucks balls. I'm stuck somewhere between option 1 & 2. This also sucks balls. FML
And *hugs* hope everything is ok?

MacInCali

They both friggin hurt like hell. The blindside has an added "shock" factor that the second chance doesn't have, but the second chance has a finality that the blindside doesn't. I'm so sorry you're having to experience the difference in the two, xoxo.

dvisser1

The blindside is harder to get over and puts all the pain from the moment it happens and afterwards. Biggest problem I have is in not knowing why. Not that there has to be a logical reason, but it would have helped me to know where I went wrong. The other option is easier to gain closure and move on, but it's a slow build of the pain and anger up to the point of ending it. Both suck. I've been on the receiving end of both and the acting end of the second. Neither is easy to deal with.

taso42

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

I don't think that comment was called for. Rude much?

Come on, it was hilarious!

taso42

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

I don't think that comment was called for. Rude much?

Come on, it was hilarious!

Instead of a :facepalm: how about an elbow to your choppers. No, it wasn't hilarious you sick piece of s**t.

U mad? It's serious when people start e-elbowing each others choppers. :laugh:

tadpole242

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

You know of course that his/her icon(avatar) is just some image snatched off the net, it is not him/her. You did know that? right... lol

supatim

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

I don't think that comment was called for. Rude much?

Come on, it was hilarious!

Instead of a :facepalm: how about an elbow to your choppers. No, it wasn't hilarious you sick piece of s**t.

U mad? It's serious when people start e-elbowing each others choppers. :laugh:

How long HAVE you lived in your Moms basement?

taso42

Your mom jokes now? Way to up the ante bro. I gotta go to bed now. Sorry, but your moms doesn't like to be kept waiting. You know how she gets...

chocolateandvodka

dafuq did i just read?

Cait_Sidhe

This whole thread confuses me.

TromaRon

I almost think the finality of the last time is easier to deal with. Yes it's over, but no more what if questions, and the day to day tension ends, mostly. Hope it doesn't come to that. Hugs!

katya73

well, drinking doesn't solve the problem, regardless.

Umm.. What !? ... I was sure it solved ALL problems !!!

rybo

An on again off again is no fun, but seems to get easier each time. The blind side is the hardest.


People need to lighten up. The drinking comment was hilarious given how the OP was typed up. It wasn't the easiest/clearest thing to read. I didn't even notice the scruffy guy drinking a beer, at first, which makes the comment even better once I did.

Shannon2714

I definitely agree that the first time..the blindside...is hardest. When it's unexpected, it's like a baseball bat to the heart. The second time, while painful, at least there is some small amount of expectation of the pain. (((HUGS)))

m60kaf

My babel fish says the answer to these random words is "yep giving it another go is generally futile"

Bobby_Clerici

It was GREAT for me...I was always the one in the relationship issuing the walking papers.:laugh:
Somehow, I was able to cope. snif snif....