Does the anonymity of social networks allow rudeness

mdjoubert03

i just read a few topics on the message board, and i see that people are very blunt with their comments, one girl was clearly upset by comments and wanted people to stop commenting, and people were acting rude, border line harrasment. now many say if she didnt want comments she shouldnt have posted, but is a post an invitation to harrasment, and is her comment "stop commenting" not a closure to that invitation. And is she to be held accountable for everyones word vomit.
i can bet if it was face to face communication most of the same people would not have made the comments they did, the word coward comes to mind. i would equate it to road rage, the polite, upstanding looking guy yelling out xyz, is only doing it because he can drive away in a flash, not face consequences and he will forever remain anonymous.

brittanymarie120

Very good point.... I think that if it isn't something you would say to their face, it probably isn't something you should say online.

That being said, sometimes 'meaning' gets lost when people communicate via text messages/email/posts... Sometimes understanding the intent in which something is said (written) can be difficult. Sarcasm is the worst, especially since most people on here are not close friends.

Il_DaniD_lI

I am the same in real life as I am on the internet. Nice for the most part, but I have no patience for stupidity and if someone is being a b*tch, I will be a bigger b*tch.

That being said, if someone called me a name on the internet I would forget it within a minute, but in real life it might actually hurt my feelings.

cally69

I agree that the tone of something written doesn't always translate well. You can be critical but put things over with respect.
It can put me off posting a query in case people go 'duh, stupid'
The thing is, there are loads of nice helpful people on these forums. Ignore the not so helpful ones as their comments tell you more about them than you.
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marieautumn

I am the same in real life as I am on the internet. Nice for the most part, but I have no patience for stupidity and if someone is being a b*tch, I will be a bigger b*tch.

That being said, if someone called me a name on the internet I would forget it within a minute, but in real life it might actually hurt my feelings.

this.

SoDamnHungry

I think it does allow rudeness.

I also think that tone is hard to get across, so even when people aren't trying to be rude, they can come across as it.

k8blujay2

I am the same in real life as I am on the internet. Nice for the most part, but I have no patience for stupidity and if someone is being a b*tch, I will be a bigger b*tch.

That being said, if someone called me a name on the internet I would forget it within a minute, but in real life it might actually hurt my feelings.

I am this way as well...

sktllmdrhmz

Rule 71.

myfitnessnmhoy

Yes, and sadly that's been true on the Internet since before the Internet. The term "troll" was in common usage back in the BBS days when you had to listen to modem mating calls before you could go and read the rude messages left by strangers for your perusal.

Rude people are rude people, but they're more likely to feel they can get away with it when you can't track them down and give them the poke in the snoot they deserve (grin).

MassiveDelta

Allow...No it encourages it. Most people dont have the balls to even talk to people or confront them let alone say the things they say on Social networks. Most of them dont even have the stones to look the other person in the eyes and give them the evil eye.

UsedToBeHusky

Do you know what else is cowardly? Creating new accounts for the purpose of using said internet anonymity so that you can call others out.

taso42

A good rule of thumb to follow is to behave online as you would in real life....

BAMFMeredith

I'm sluttier on the interwebs than I am in real life.

coachblt

Yes, it does. Should it, no!

I will react with a little sarcasm after someone takes a crack at me, but I don't take it personally since I more than likely don't know that person, will never meet that person and don't care about that person (for the most part).

So...I tend to just read it and forget it.

EmCarroll1990

I am here who I am in real life. Blunt, *****y, funny, welcoming, sarcastic, helpful and the like. It's quite simple, I don't claim to be something I'm not.

Also, if you post a topic you should be prepared for comments you're not looking for.

FrenchMob

I'm generally an *kitten* in person and on the internet. :drinker:

DieVixen

i just read a few topics on the message board, and i see that people are very blunt with their comments, one girl was clearly upset by comments and wanted people to stop commenting, and people were acting rude, border line harrasment. now many say if she didnt want comments she shouldnt have posted, but is a post an invitation to harrasment, and is her comment "stop commenting" not a closure to that invitation. And is she to be held accountable for everyones word vomit.
i can bet if it was face to face communication most of the same people would not have made the comments they did, the word coward comes to mind. i would equate it to road rage, the polite, upstanding looking guy yelling out xyz, is only doing it because he can drive away in a flash, not face consequences and he will forever remain anonymous.

anything ive ever said here i would say to someones face without a moments hesitation

neverstray

I am sluttier in real life than I am on the interwebs.

p0pr0cksnc0ke

how many fake accounts can one person make before they get tired of the game? :yawn:

sktllmdrhmz

I'm a troll.

myofibril

The short answer is: yes.

myfitnessnmhoy

how many fake accounts can one person make before they get tired of the game? :yawn:

Someone with a lot of time on their hands and looking for entertainment? Quite a few, unfortunately.

jerber160

I'm slowly learning I should be polite on the internet... interacting as if I were face to face with a person.. I'm not good at it yet, but getting better. but i still tend to be radically sarcastic

Foxypoo61287

I am a little more forward on the net then in person. Not much though. I wouldn't go up to a random person in a conversation and start *****ing at them. But if you have to be someone your not your just...lame. K. Thanx. Bye!

p0pr0cksnc0ke

how many fake accounts can one person make before they get tired of the game? :yawn:

Someone with a lot of time on their hands and looking for entertainment? Quite a few, unfortunately.

Really... thats sad. I have said some downright rude things before.. I don't have anything to hide though. *shrug* I don't censor myself because of what others are going to think or say... they will do it regardless.

2143661

Everything I said to her over the net I would say face to face and probably even give her a cheeseburger!

Foxypoo61287

I'm a troll.

myfitnessnmhoy

I'm slowly learning I should be polite on the internet... interacting as if I were face to face with a person.. I'm not good at it yet, but getting better. but i still tend to be radically sarcastic

The problem with sarcasm in text is that it doesn't tend to translate perfectly. Without the inflection in your voice (which you hear in your own head when you think it, but they can't hear in the words when they read them) or facial expression cues, it's very hard for the person on the other end to detect sarcasm. You have to make it painfully obvious, and even then it sometimes falls flat.

Going back and re-reading your own text helps a bit, but you'll inevitably read it in the tone of voice you intended, and that may not be the same tone that is eventually read.

In a large community, sarcasm is best avoided or surrounded by lots of annoying little emoticons so people get distracted by the moving things and miss reading the words entirely. That way, you get the satisfaction of a particularly clever bit of sarcasm but since no one ever reads it, no one is offended by it. It's a win-win. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: The more emoticons, the better. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

myofibril

In a large community, sarcasm is best avoided or surrounded by lots of annoying little emoticons so people get distracted by the moving things and miss reading the words entirely. That way, you get the satisfaction of a particularly clever bit of sarcasm but since no one ever reads it, no one is offended by it. It's a win-win. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: The more emoticons, the better. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

That's a great idea.

kikilieb

If you post something you have to be prepared for comments. You can't dictate what others can or cannot say. If you don't like it, then you can simply do a google, read a lot and come to your own conclusions.

coachblt

how many fake accounts can one person make before they get tired of the game? :yawn:

I'm going to take a guess: 5?

Did I guess correctly? What did I win?