i'm depressed :( :'( n don't know what to do..

rlmadrid

I know exactly how you feel. I am always "happy" for everyone else and it's exhausting. I hate the way I look, I can't wear anything, and I just end up sitting around moping - or eating

Please, please stop throwing up! I believe you when you say you aren't bulimic, over-eating and being upset can make me nauseous to. I have IBS, anything and everything makes me ill.

If it makes you feel any better, I have 40 to lose and I'm only 5 lbs in. They tell me it gets better, so I'm trying. Feel free to add me on here if you want to talk. I know how hard it is dealing with depression alone and not being able to tell anyone how you are feeling.

tracyjoys

I will say this...it doesn't matter how much you weigh to love yourself. Clearly you love yourself enough to give MFP a try and reach out for suggestions and advice - give yourself a lot of credit for that! :flowerforyou:

The suggestions and advice you've gotten here already are a fantastic place to start! Truly, truly, it's about taking things one day at a time. Have some confidence that you CAN do this, and you'll have more gentle and beautiful thoughts about yourself. That's what attracts people to you, not your size.

I've been "skinny" and "one of those girls" and I've been heavy throughout my life too (a life long battle, really) and trust me, your body size doesn't = being happy. "Those girls" can feel just as crummy on the inside no matter how "awesome" the outward appearance.

Yes, seek counseling if you're depressed/purging. That's not reasonable, healthy or sustainable. Making choices each day that fuel your body & spirit ARE sustainable. Take it hour by hour if you must, and be kind to yourself along the way! Nobody expects you to be perfect, this is a learning journey that will last a lifetime. Just do the best you can each day, and remember that your best each day will fluctuate. If you "do it right" 80% of the time, you have PLENTY of room to throw in some splurges along the way, too!

Best of luck to you!!

TunnocksTeacake

Now listen here missy...... stop putting yourself down. Talk to me , what are you struggling with , was calories are you on a day, what do you want to lose every week. And no you dont need to excercise just yet :flowerforyou: It will come in time and you will start to see a difference. Take each day at a time but dont live on water, you're body will think its being starved and hang on to the fat. I try to decide what im going to have for dinner at night and if i find ive gone a bit over i opt for a low calorie pre packed meal. Morrisons do a lovely chicken dinner and its only 279 calories. Ditch normal bread, thats was my downfall, and go for crispbread, or Kingsmill 50/50 crustless its only 47 calories a slice. Its all about making the right choice of food. Good luck.

kneasles

Honey, most of have felt the desperation you're now feeling. Take baby steps. Start logging your food and start moving. Before I started about 6 weeks ago I could only think of the 50 pounds I needed to lose. It seemed overwhelming at the time. Hearing other people's stories on MFP gave me strength to know I could do it - little by little. I post my weight loss ticker because it gives me encouragement and in a weird way accountability - although I think I didn't post it until I lost 2 or 3 pounds.

Please don't eat & purge. You can damage your heart that way.

EpiGaiaRepens

EpiGaiaRepens : no no.. i don't have an ED (and no i'm not in denial).. i seriously need to lose 60 pounds, i'm FAT!

Wait. Didn't you say you make yourself puke after eating??? This is disordered behavior hon.

You said you throw up "often" after eating.

You say you are fat, but I am not sure you are. ED's are the result of a wildly distorted self image. Please see a doctor and let them tell you your BMI before you go calling yourself fat.

StrawberrySuzyQ

have faith in the mfp program. give it time. be proud of yourself for taking the steps to become healthier. don't expect results over night, this is about changing your lifestyle to becoming a healthier you. it is hard at first, but it gets easier as you adjust. find a way to contain your anxieties- go for a long walk, talk a hot bath, relax. and if you cannot then look for help from a counsellor. you can do this. deep breaths.

THIS^^

The program WILL work! It does take time and discipline. I thought I ate good but when I started to track my foods I realized what I was eating and started making better choices. I thought I was fit and strong, but when I tracked real exercise as opposed to what I just did at work (restaurant server) and started a workout program, I realized I wasn't what I thought I was.

Changes are the hardest things to make---and while you want to make changes to your body, you need to FIRST change how you THINK! If you are THINKING you are fat and ugly, then you will BELIEVE it. If you THINK "I can't do this" then you won't be able to do it. Start by changing your thinking process: There is a thin person in me screaming to get out and I'm going to let her! I can do this, even though at times it will be hard and I may have set backs. ONE set back or bad day does NOT mean you are a failure.

Please feel free to add me if you'd like a little support, or just someone to talk with. I can't promise to fix anything, but I can promise to listen and share what has worked for me and my own struggles. That is what MFP is all about! Hang in there! YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

smartgirl1540

Hi, I know how you feel. I used to weigh 400 pounds. I have been dieting and working out for four years. I now weigh 278. There are days when I get discouraged and feel like giving up. But then I wake up and realize that the reality is that I did not put the weight on overnight, and it will not disappear overnight. I am committed to making this journey. My goal weight is 160 pounds. I will make it and nothing will stop me. You can't let yourself get short-sighted on the big goal of 60 pounds that you have to lose. Break it up and celebrate small goals. Treat yourself when you do good. Every lifestyle change you make will have a positive impact on your health and your body. There are times when I get upset when I think I haven't exercised enough, or when I eat something I shouldn't. There are so many people in your life who want to see you the way you want to see you. You need to decide to use your saddness as your motivation. When you exercise, the brain releases chemicals that will make you happier. It could just be a walk outside daily. Just don't give up. We are all here to support you.

Carollsanchez

There is a lot of pressure from society about our image.please take steps in the process of loosing weight.behind our image the most important is who we are in the inside, don't let the weight makes you sad.Is it with p thatatience and encouragement from each other that we will make it.please be happy.oEne step at a time.

rlmadrid

Hi, I know how you feel. I used to weigh 400 pounds. I have been dieting and working out for four years. I now weigh 278. There are days when I get discouraged and feel like giving up. But then I wake up and realize that the reality is that I did not put the weight on overnight, and it will not disappear overnight. I am committed to making this journey. My goal weight is 160 pounds. I will make it and nothing will stop me. You can't let yourself get short-sighted on the big goal of 60 pounds that you have to lose. Break it up and celebrate small goals. Treat yourself when you do good. Every lifestyle change you make will have a positive impact on your health and your body. There are times when I get upset when I think I haven't exercised enough, or when I eat something I shouldn't. There are so many people in your life who want to see you the way you want to see you. You need to decide to use your saddness as your motivation. When you exercise, the brain releases chemicals that will make you happier. It could just be a walk outside daily. Just don't give up. We are all here to support you.

Congratulations! You've accomplished a lot and you are a great example of how hard work and healthy choices pay off. 60_to_lose, read this for motivation. Some of us have only come 5-10 pounds, but you can see real, lasting success. MFP does work to teach you to understand cals in and cals out and help you find healthy, filling foods.