Need advice on getting my wife on MFP
cordianet
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Help! My wife is also weight challenged and really needs to lose weight, if for no other reason, to live longer and not make me a widow. I have been gently trying to get her to join MFP and log her caloric intake, as well as be more careful about what she eats. So far, she always has an excuse: e.g. "I'm so busy, I just don't have the time", or "It's such a hassle to log everything, I don't think I can do it".
I could use and and all suggestions on how to get her on here and on the path to better health. Thoughts?
I could use and and all suggestions on how to get her on here and on the path to better health. Thoughts?
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I'd say just keep doing what you're doing and talk about the good parts of your experience, but stop trying to convince her. If she sees your success and doesn't feel like you're hounding her, she might come over to the "lite" side.
Don't know how she feels, obviously, but if my SO tried to convince me to join a site like this, I'd probably think he was telling me I'm fat. Even if I was grossly overweight, it wouldn't be something I'd want to hear from my SO, even if his heart were in the right place.
Good luck to you! Hopefully your wife will follow your lead on her own accord!
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You should do what work for you period. She will do it if and when she is ready.0
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You should do what work for you period. She will do it if and when she is ready.
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Oh, that's a difficult one!
She has to be ready. You can't lead her there. Set a good example, and keep up the good work that you are doing.
Hopefully she'll come around to it on her own.
Good luck!0 -
Tell her there are lots of really friendly women here who post pictures in bikinis and are really supportive of your weight loss... She'll be on in no time to claw their eyes out ;-)
Alternatively just keep mentioning it but not pressurising and curiosity will get to her in the end. She can't be busy all the time.0 -
Before you started, did other people telling you you needed to lose weight, or suggesting weightloss programmes help you at all?
I suspect not.
Your wife is no different from you.
It's her weight. It's her health. She may just need you to respect that?0 -
Show her it WORKS. If you can lead by example and show her how logging your calories every day has helped you to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle, she might be more inclined to try it.0
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I have always thought that a person needs to be ready in order to start/complete this journey. There has to be a "bottom moment" usually that makes you motivated to get the weight off.
Give her space, talk about how easy it is to use this site, how the community members are helpful, how each day when you complete your log it says that message about if you follow this, you will weigh this by...............
Good luck!0 -
This is a tough one...but I bet when your weight loss increases and really starts to show, she will definitely notice and not want to continue looking like a fat frump beside you. My husband is tall, fit, and athletic and that was a big motivator for me.0
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Just keep talking about MFP in a round about way. "I was on MFP today and a friend of mine...blah blah blah" and maybe she'll get curious enough. Maybe tell her it would be a good place just for support in losing weight. She doesn't necessarily have to log all of her food. Once she's on, she may start liking it enough to use the food log.
That being said, if she's losing weight now and isn't tracking calories, I wouldn't push her too hard to change what she's doing. Logging doesn't work for everyone. Good luck!0 -
you can't force people to do something, sadly.
my friends called me fat, and it pretty much did it for me though!
not sure you want to call your wife fat, but it might kick her in the butt to get going.
it seriously takes 5 minutes a day to log! have her mom/sister/friend tell her to do it?0 -
Lead by example and hope she follows at some point -- not much else you can do besides that.0
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I feel you. i seriously want to get my husband on this site too, but it is not his cup of tea.0
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When it comes to weight, people have to want to do it. Wonen have such a hard time as is, I honestly would probably keep my mouth shut. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink!0
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Help! My wife is also weight challenged and really needs to lose weight, if for no other reason, to live longer and not make me a widow. I have been gently trying to get her to join MFP and log her caloric intake, as well as be more careful about what she eats. So far, she always has an excuse: e.g. "I'm so busy, I just don't have the time", or "It's such a hassle to log everything, I don't think I can do it".
I could use and and all suggestions on how to get her on here and on the path to better health. Thoughts?
It's an internal motivation. Maybe seeing your success will stir something within her.
Just focus on you for now, and in time maybe she will come around.
Good luck, and welcome!0 -
Your success will make her a believer.0
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I wanted my husband to join. He didn't want too .... when he did he didn't log in or log on or anything.
So I showed him it worked.
I talked about it all the time.
He saw how much I was loosing & wanted to better himself.
She will come around if its what she wants - she has to want to do it though.
If she has weight issues she probably feels bad enough don't put her down.
Now I have friends, relatives & even my husband's boss joined0 -
There is no magic word to make her want to lose weight. You will never convince her and if you do and it's not her idea - she will resent you FOREVER! When someone is ready to lose weight - they will make the effort to lose weight. Until then, keep doing what you're doing - for you.0
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You don't HAVE to be on MFP and count calories to lose weight. If that's the way you want to do it, good for you. It's the way I like too, but my husband could never do it, and it does just fine trying to eat less and move more. Just try and do things to be more healthy as a couple (or a family). Get some healthy cook books, go to healthy cooking classes. Go to the farmer's market together and stock up on fresh fruits and veggies. Do active things together like hiking, walking, biking, etc, or even yard work.0
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I know that I feel quite evangelistic about MFP, I want to whisper MFP to fat people. However, I know that this only works when the individual really wants it; my husband used to encourage me (ie NAG) me to lose weight, but until I had that "dong ding" moment I didn't do anything about it. I can't beleive how EASY it is when you start logging and thinking about intake, and doing some exercise.
I would say (looking at your profile) that you have a good deal of weight to lose, and that as you do being to lose, she might decide to follow. But if you are making healthy choices, getting better food in the house, exercising more , ask her to help you, she will be along for the ride and might lose some weight as well? If she is busy is there something you can help her with? Good luck :flowerforyou:
THe idea with the bikini clad women might work - off to get my bikini (LOL not :laugh: )0
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