I ruined what I have worked so hard for...

edyta70

hey guys.. So I joined a loong time ago, I am 5"2 short, and started out with 70 kg (very overweight) and reached my goal weight - 56kg (normal weight) - this was my weight in February. Then I stopped dieting, just ate normal foods and didn't gain any weight. UNTIL my exams at college came - I had so much stress and just ate everything that was in the fridge and I ruined it all.

I did focus on exams and did them well, which is good, BUT I ruined everything I worked so hard for..

I am scared to go on a scale but I feel like an elephant... I am starting again. I must go back to my 56 kg because I felt really good and proud of myself then and I finally fit size 10 clothes instead of 14 !

I am not going to lie - I lack motivation, but I believe I can do this because I've done this before.

I am scared to go on a scale because if I see anything close to 70kg I will just cry....

Wish me luck !!!!!

tadpole242

hey guys.. So I joined a loong time ago, I am 5"2 short, and started out with 70 kg (very overweight) and reached my goal weight - 56kg (normal weight) - this was my weight in February. Then I stopped dieting, just ate normal foods and didn't gain any weight. UNTIL my exams at college came - I had so much stress and just ate everything that was in the fridge and I ruined it all.

I did focus on exams and did them well, which is good, BUT I ruined everything I worked so hard for..

I am scared to go on a scale but I feel like an elephant... I am starting again. I must go back to my 56 kg because I felt really good and proud of myself then and I finally fit size 10 clothes instead of 14 !

I am not going to lie - I lack motivation, but I believe I can do this because I've done this before.

I am scared to go on a scale because if I see anything close to 70kg I will just cry....

Wish me luck !!!!!

Don't step on the scales. Back away from them and put them away for a month. Start eating right, and your clothes will tell you which way you are going. Weight is just numbers,

DelilahCat0212

YOU CAN DO IT!

I did something very similar, I lost a bunch of weight rather quickly in 2009 (almost halfway to goal) was lookin' good and got my heart broken a little bit. Ate myself back to my starting weight plus some extra. I decided when I started over that it was for the last time. I'm going slow and I'm doing it for good. YOU CAN DO IT!

MrTypical

The good news is you know the formula... you've already been succesful once. Just rinse and repeat.

stfuriada

Get on the scale and see the number, no matter how bad it gets.

Use that horror/sadness to fuel your weightloss again.

Jayneopopsidoodle

Totally recognise this scenario, this is me over and over again. I get half way to my goal weight and something mad happens and then boom starting weight plus a half stone. Not good! I've lost 17lbs so far since a few months and I'm trying my best to stay motivated.

Good Luck and if you've done it once you'll do it again - get out some inspirartion pics and go for it

Add me if you wish - I always need support x

edyta70

stfuriada- I will get on the scale but I will measure it in Pounds because I don't know how to measure in them so I won't know how many kg that is haha!

MrTypical - yes it is good because I know what kinds of foods I should / shouldn't eat and how many calories roughly they have. thanks

Jayne- added you

Thanks to all of you. God, I LOVE MFP, so much support from other users! I will be more active on here to get support and motivation.
xx

grubb1019

I did something very similar too. Five years ago I lost 30 lbs, about half way to goal. I'm not sure what happened, I think I thought I could maintain without giving it an effort. I gained it all back, then last summer I started graduate school and I gained another 10 lbs! I was so mad at myself. I have now lost 20 lbs, but I still have a long way to go. The good thing is, we have done this before so we know what we are doing. Good luck!

dcain2

Totally recognise this scenario, this is me over and over again. I get half way to my goal weight and something mad happens and then boom starting weight plus a half stone. Not good! I've lost 17lbs so far since a few months and I'm trying my best to stay motivated.

Good Luck and if you've done it once you'll do it again - get out some inspirartion pics and go for it

Add me if you wish - I always need support x

This is me too!! I seem to lose the same 5 to 6 pounds over and over and over. It is very frustrating but I refuse to just give up. One day I hope to break the barrier and get past this cycle. Until then I keep plugging along!

Pilcrow_

Totally recognise this scenario, this is me over and over again. I get half way to my goal weight and something mad happens and then boom starting weight plus a half stone. Not good! I've lost 17lbs so far since a few months and I'm trying my best to stay motivated.

Good Luck and if you've done it once you'll do it again - get out some inspirartion pics and go for it

Add me if you wish - I always need support x

Nothing like exams to tip you over either! I think most importantly, you didn't let negative eating affect your ability to cope with the stress of exams, you got through it so congratulate yourself on that. And then further congratulate yourself for now recognising where things went a bit awry and taking the first step to fix it. This isn't all about weight loss, it's about making the right choices and keeping strong even when things threaten to hold you back, and you're doing that.

edyta70

I did something very similar too. Five years ago I lost 30 lbs, about half way to goal. I'm not sure what happened, I think I thought I could maintain without giving it an effort. I gained it all back, then last summer I started graduate school and I gained another 10 lbs! I was so mad at myself. I have now lost 20 lbs, but I still have a long way to go. The good thing is, we have done this before so we know what we are doing. Good luck!

It is a huge plus that we have actually done this before! and good luck xx

edyta70

Nothing like exams to tip you over either! I think most importantly, you didn't let negative eating affect your ability to cope with the stress of exams, you got through it so congratulate yourself on that. And then further congratulate yourself for now recognising where things went a bit awry and taking the first step to fix it. This isn't all about weight loss, it's about making the right choices and keeping strong even when things threaten to hold you back, and you're doing that.

Yeah it's about feeling good about yourself and damn I feel good about the exams, hope the results in August are good, because damn I sacrificed a lot of KGs for them!

newhabit

please feel free to add me as a friend. something very similar happened to me. i gained about 10 lb back after losing 25. i know it's not exactly the same but i do also feel like i ruined what i worked hard for. but we can get it back!

poledancing_ninja

Well now you know your problem lies with emotionally reactive eating. Just ask yourself next time 'am I eating this because I'm hungry or because I am stressed/bored/etc?'

edyta70

please feel free to add me as a friend. something very similar happened to me. i gained about 10 lb back after losing 25. i know it's not exactly the same but i do also feel like i ruined what i worked hard for. but we can get it back!

Of course it's the same - you feel bad for it and trying to get it back - same thing and YES we can ! Good luck

edyta70

Well now you know your problem lies with emotionally reactive eating. Just ask yourself next time 'am I eating this because I'm hungry or because I am stressed/bored/etc?'

Thank you, I will do that

stephthegreat72

I understand your trouble. I have put off weight loss for 3 years. Ever since I had my daughter. I am almost 40 and my matabolism is super slow. You have all the toos and people who will support you right on this sight. Be strong, put your mind to it that you want this and you will be cool. Good Luck.:happy:

edyta70

I understand your trouble. I have put off weight loss for 3 years. Ever since I had my daughter. I am almost 40 and my matabolism is super slow. You have all the toos and people who will support you right on this sight. Be strong, put your mind to it that you want this and you will be cool. Good Luck.:happy:

Yes you're right, everything I need to loose weight is right here on this site, thank you!

redscylla

And don't think that you've "ruined" anything. You just had a setback. As you return to healthy eating and exercising, it might also be helpful to look back at exactly what went haywire when you were under stress. If you can identify some things that led to you regaining weight, maybe next time you can identify them *before* you fall victim to them.

Good luck! And you can totally do it.

cavewoman15

story of my life. trying to do it slow and right this time. good luck!!

bcattoes

So cry, then get over it and do what you know you need to do. I think though that you will find more long term success if you stop thinking of junk as normal food.

Vegetables, fruits, whole grains, lean meats, fish, nuts, seeds, these are normal foods. Don't feel you have to eat salads and yogurt all the time to lose weight. If that's what you like and intend to eat forever, then that's fine. Those are good foods. Just eat foods that you like. Try to keep it mostly healthy and within your calorie goals.

And find ways to deal with your stress that do not involve food. Exercise, meditate, phone a friend, whatever. Stress is very bad for weight loss.

edyta70

Thank you guys! you helped so much

ALSO I just dreaded to weigh myself but I decided to face it and it isn't THAT bad! It is 65 kg, so not everything is ruined! That got me more motivated as well... so there I go! Starting loosing weight

jheartj95

Great way to be positive. You know what you did before, and you can do it again. Weve all been there.

Marll

hey guys.. So I joined a loong time ago, I am 5"2 short, and started out with 70 kg (very overweight) and reached my goal weight - 56kg (normal weight) - this was my weight in February. Then I stopped dieting, just ate normal foods and didn't gain any weight. UNTIL my exams at college came - I had so much stress and just ate everything that was in the fridge and I ruined it all.

I did focus on exams and did them well, which is good, BUT I ruined everything I worked so hard for..

I am scared to go on a scale but I feel like an elephant... I am starting again. I must go back to my 56 kg because I felt really good and proud of myself then and I finally fit size 10 clothes instead of 14 !

I am not going to lie - I lack motivation, but I believe I can do this because I've done this before.

I am scared to go on a scale because if I see anything close to 70kg I will just cry....

Wish me luck !!!!!

I've highlighted part of your problem in your original post above. The idea that foods that make you gain weight are "normal" and other foods "diet" could be part of the issue IMO. You need to turn food that makes you loose weight into what you consider "normal" food.

Pedal_Pusher

You haven't ruined anything, people get busy. Time to get back in the game...............

BigGuy47

The idea that foods that make you gain weight are "normal" and other foods "diet" could be part of the issue IMO.

I agree with this 100%.

I grew up and still live in the South (U.S.). Southern foods are typically fried and slathered with some sort of thick cream gravy. Biscuits and gravy, Chicken Fried Steak with gravy, etc. This was my old "normal". My new normal consists of much healthier choices. I have no intention of going back to the old ways. I would undo the positive changes that I've made in my lifestyle. Finding a new "normal" is critical for sustainable change.

Regarding stress eating, that can be tough - I still struggle with it on occasion. Stress is something you can't run away from, even if you lead a peaceful life stress will eventually rear its ugly head. The methods that have worked for me are to recognize when I'm stress eating and to find other ways to cope with the stress.

I agree with the others here - you haven't ruined anything. It's not like you ran the ship onto the rocks. It's more like you've wandered off course a bit.

edyta70

Thank you so much everyone! I needed that motivation from you all
And I did quite well today - I even went for a walk and got sweaty!!

I am on a good start and WILL keep it up. I won't let anything spoil it this time!

Jayneopopsidoodle

Well done you, I've done the 30 day shred this morning, trying to do it every other day as I simply don't have the motivation for everyday shopping in the trafford centre would be good exercise ;p x

Marmitegeoff

Great way to be positive. You know what you did before, and you can do it again. Weve all been there.

Not Quite I have not been this weight since I was a teenager a very very long time ago. Still a bit to go but getting there. In for the long haul to make it last.

You can do it again.

mscolleen2003

I know exactly how you feel. I went from 386 to 153, over a years period of time I went up to 194. What I can tell you is this, never give up!! I am now walking twice a day and doing short workout and my current weight is 175. Just hang in there and learn from this.

notsofatbird67

It's very boring trying to lose weight when you love food so much. Try to replace foods with very low cal alternatives. I eat tic tacs if i i fancy sweets (only 1cal each) and eat cookie crisp breakfast cereal as chocolate biscuits. 10g of cookie crisp is much less cal than a choc chip biscuit. Stay strong and if you stick at it I'm sure you can do it. Good luck.