what to do... hubby only eats crap!

AlayshaJ

...Men buy food at the grocery store?

....Men make themselves food?

...Men choose what their meals are?

....I am so confused...

Beezil

Hii there. Ok so my hubby says he supports me on my weight loss journey, but doesn't want to have him suffer, he unlike me has a very high metabolism and can eat whatever he wants and as much as he wants. But he likes to eat out all the time, and really crappy food. Like to him dinner is a whole bag of cheeses! That's over 1500 calories!! And I'm trying to be healthier because I want this soo bad for myself, and I'm trying to tell him I'm not making him suffer. He can still have his junk food and crap he eats. I have fairly strong willpower. I just wish he would be more willing to spend our money on healthier food than crap.. thanks for the vent!

My husband was the same way for a while - he still eats a lot of crap food, but I don't mind since he needs to put on weight. I at least have gotten him to live without salt, for the most part. Cook him healthy meals and let him have bigger portions. Use real, good fats, like olive oil and real butter in your cooking. You gotta show him that healthy food can be delicious. I make a yummy meatloaf my husband loves, and my homemade, low-salt marinara sauce is delicious according to him. Just try different things out and I'm sure eventually he will come around to WANTING more home cooked, healthier meals.

mandiibayybee

...Men buy food at the grocery store?

....Men make themselves food?

...Men choose what their meals are?

....I am so confused...
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My hubby does all the cooking. Well did, I'm cooking for myself and son now. Just learning though. And we usually do groceries together. But I let him pick out the food cause he.cooks. lol

determined2lose89

I have been battling with this with my fiance ever since I started to want to lose weight. At first, he was with me on this. He lost about 20lbs then quit and gained some back. When he quit, all the crap food started to drift back into the house.... the best thing I try to do is when we go grocery shopping (I pay for groceries) I tell him if he wants it, he has to join a seperate line up and pay for it himself. It is very rare that we will actually go do that lol! Now he usually just eats crap outside the house!

Bobby_Clerici

Sorry, but too bad - so sad...life is never fair.
He gets to eat what he wants, and you and I do not. If I just smell a BK Whopper, you can hear me getting fatter. Oh well...Folks like us need to just SUCK IT UP!
Don't rain on his parade just because you're on a diet. We must do what we must do, but the rest of planet earth will just keep turning. It is unreasonable to expect others to pander to our weaknesses. I am in your boat, so I get it, but I also live in reality.
They don't care.
Così è la vita :drinker:

KyliAnnHobson

My husband is exactly the same! I had to gradually build up my willpower and now I can ignore all of his junk food around the house. I still eat fast food with him on the weekends occasionally, but for the most part, we eat separately. You can do it!

boldtsmith

Watch the movie "Fried Green Tomatoes" and either do what Kathy Bates did and just serve healthy meals...TAWANDA!

Or do what Idgy did and eat your hubby...the secret's in the sauce :bigsmile:

TheArmadillo

If him doing the shopping and buying only the stuff he wants is the problem - can you do it together, or if that's not possible can you draw up the shopping list together?

When me and my husband first lived together we each cooked for ourselves as I was vege at the time (no longer) and he ate only meat and value noodles (seperately). So for him dinner would either be value noodles or a plate of sausages and some brown sauce (seriously not even carbs added).

When we had the boy I stopped being vege and through necessity I started cooking for both of us. But we'd have separate side dishes depending on preference (i.e. no veg for him :huh: ). However I was also eating badly so cooking badly. I am fat - he is skinny and always has been.

Well the boy is now 7 years old and we have a girl as well and dinner time is very much family time. I do the cooking and shopping, cos, well I can cook and budget. I will buy him crap but it is limited - e.g. he gets one packet of biscuits a week. He is an adult with access to a bank account so could buy more but chooses not to as he thinks it would be a slippery slope. Also we are on a very tight budget and he appreciates if he wants me to do all the work with it then he can't go out and spend money willy nilly.

I plan all the meals, but I do take his tastes into account - so no cauliflower or mushrooms (at least not for him), no cheese/cream/milk based sauces, no fatty meat (or at least easily removeable fat), no fish, no vegetarian food, no couscous, no baked or boiled potatoes. Lots of spicy food and strong flavours (he doesn't have much of a sense of taste) plus bottle of chilli sauce on the table I stick onions, peppers and spinach in a tomato sauce with meat and plenty of spices. He'll eat that with brown rice. I've found he'll eat salad leaves but only dark ones like rocket/spinach/watercress and he does cover them in chilli sauce as a salad dressing. He eats leftovers for lunch in wraps - or I bulk make chilli con carne or chilli burgers and stock up the freezer.

He still eats pain au chocolate or similar for breakfast (but has actually started eating breakfast). And never eats 5 portions of fruit/veg a day. He insists on full sugar coke (and gets through a litre or more a day). He eats a packet of biscuits a week plus sweets and often has popcorn in an evening.

He is now up to a healthy body weight. But it has taken years for his diet to improve and it is entirely up to him. I will only cook one evening meal but I won't give him anything he hates. And he does go out once a week and have fast food. He is actually learning to cook, slowly. Sometimes he suggests stuff for our weekly menu and I will do it. He's going to be 30 this year and I think he is finally thinking about his health (plus the men in his family tend to be skinny in their youth and then the weight starts piling on at 40 which I think scares him).

He doesn't really sabotage me as I don't tend to like the same crappy food (he likes sweet/I like savoury) luckily. Plus he would never 'rub it in my face' - he is really supportive.

You cannot do it for them. YOu can just make it easier for them to do.

mluntz

My husband is the same way ( can eat whatever he wants ). I don't think its fair for you to expect him to eat the same as you or to give up his junk food (which you already said you aren't doing), however I think if you have sat down with him and explained your struggle to him, then as your husband and partner he should want to help you as much as he can. It is all about balance in my opinion. I agree with early posts about cooking yourself a separate dinner ( I do this often, just pop some chicken breasts in the oven and some veggies), but also maybe 1 or 2 nights a week he could eat "your dinner" with you. As for eating out, I just ask that we go somewhere that has lighter menu options (most places do) and don't get any appetizers. And I don't think you should just suck it up and too bad, losing weight and changing your lifestyle and eating habits is really hard, especially in the begining. Once you start seeing results and getting close to your goal it gets easier to resist, but I don't think a little help from your **spouse** is to much to ask.

Giantess

Fiancee and I have slowly evolved into a separate meals couple. We take turns making meals for each other, or we both cram into the kitchen and cook at the same time.

dianniejt

My husband has been the same weight since 1990. He lives on candy bars, cookies, chips and hostess fruit pies. I do the shopping and the cooking. There are things that I make for myself and my kids that I know he does not enjoy. I make something seperate for him. I don't mind. I however will not cok differently for my children. They can either eat it, maike something for themselves or starve. I no longer keep a bunch of junk food in the house for the kids and I and my husbands is kept seperate just for him.

I have tried to change his eating habits but he doesn't enjoy it. I am not doing this for him. I am doing it for me. So I let him eat what he wants and I eat what I want.

kittyhug1986

I am in the same boat. My husband is very supportive of me; however, he is constantly wanting to eat out, and then starts listing burgers, pizza, chinese, and I then my mouth starts watering. Worst of all is when I am making dinner he starts snacking cause it isn't ready when he gets home (I work too and we get home about the same time so there is no way I can have it ready when he gets home). So watching him eat all this snack type food...and then with him starting to name all the foods he wants to eat out... I dont have the best will power, it is hard to fight the urges. He doesn't seem that considerate when it comes to the fact that I am watching him eat crap that I am trying not to eat...IT MAKES ME WANT TO EAT IT!!!

robinogue

I made it a point to make sure my life style change wasn't a burden on anyone else. When I was eating sugar free jello and my spouse was eating Oreo's I just sucked it up. It's my burden not theirs. That's the approach I took. Eventually you'll see they'll make changes on their own.

My feelings exactly. While I'm eating fruit as my desert, my hubby's munching on a piece of cake or ice cream. You want this badly then you'll ignore his bad eating habits and do this for you!

chellie47

I guess I am lucky... Hubby picked up Greek yogurt, and a ton of fruit and veggies for me today. His version of diet bread lol Potato bread but it was 99% fat free... It is my journey..but I am glad I have such an awesome husband. The good side is he doesn't pressure me at all. Yesterday I made oven roasted cauliflower and other veggies and trout... He loved it!