Is my mindset wrong? I want my life back.

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  • grubb1019
    grubb1019 Posts: 371 Member
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    It is summer I am away from college.

    I'm going to be blunt. You are making excuses. You obviously have a problem. I'm not saying it to be mean, I'm saying it to try and help you. As others have said every community has some sort of mental health services that is free or charges based on your income. If you are in Berwick PA there is a place called CMSU in Bloomsburg. If you aren't there, then use google to find a place near you. You asked for our help, we are trying to help you.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    but see others seem to be able to eat it more then once in a while. like once a week....and i can't let go...ive tried...and I feel like dirt. I am addicted to staying skinny...and its tearing me down....and its breaking me away from my family.

    To me, this sounds like disordered eating. Please seek help with a professional -- there is NO reason you cannot eat anything and everything you want in moderation without feeling guilt.
  • debbiestine
    debbiestine Posts: 265 Member
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    You don't have to eat salads and "lite" foods all the time. Please google "Mark's Daily Apple"- you can eat meat,chicken,fish, eggs/bacon, peanut (almond) butter- It's like Atkins except you can eat a little fruit and as much veggies as you want. You cut out breads/pasta/rice for the most part. you can have real butter, full fat yogurt(plain,greek) and cheese. I've found it to be much more satifsying than dieting. I have lost the last 10lbs on it and look muscular instead of "skinny". I think that's because I've always worked out- and finally the flab is disappearing :)
    After working out w/ weights you can drink a chocolate protein shake with almond butter and banana- you'll be glad you did!
  • Zobyone67
    Zobyone67 Posts: 5
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    Those guys eating all that stuff in the amusement park probly planned for that. They may even used that day as a free day, who knows.. You gotta have a cheat day every once in a while to stay on track. Dont think about it all the time.
  • brneydgrlie
    brneydgrlie Posts: 464 Member
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    " Focus on health and happiness, and your body will follow suit. And you'll be able to eat with your family again.. just skip certain parts of the meal and fill up on others. There is a perfect balance, but you're right, it starts with your mind"

    Im not happy about my healthy life. Im miserable. I have to evaluate every little thing that I put into my stomach. It drives me insane...and I just can't stop. I have moments where I am like "Maybe I should experiment to see if I eat what I want to see if I gain" but then I keep thinking "YOU'RE GONNA GET FAT YOU'RE GONNA GET FAT YOU'RE GONNA GET FAT!!!!"

    Look at the Eat More to Weigh Less group here on MFP. This is the route you are going to want to go if you are trying to build muscle. And the people in that group have posted plenty of success pictures, which should help ease your mind a little.

    Next, lock the scale away for awhile. Scales NEVER tell the whole story.

    And if you are trying to build muscle, get it in your head right now, that you might actually GAIN weight, but stay the same size or even get smaller. This is actually desirable! A pound of fat and a pound of muscle weigh the same amount. However, a pound of muscle is more compact, and takes up less space. Having more muscle also enables your body to burn more calories while at rest. You CAN become one of those people who can eat what they want occasionally!

    If the guys you see at fairs, etc are very athletic and muscular looking, then they are probably weight training and have a very high muscle ratio. This means that they can sometimes eat in excess of 3000+ calories daily with no problem. I agree with the poster that said that said these guys you notice are probably eating clean most of the rest of the time. If not, by the time they hit middle age, they will be paying for their mistakes!

    Food is fuel, and is necessary to sustain life and health. And yes, in our culture, eating is also a social activity. Do not deprive yourself of the fuel or the social interaction. Keep in mind that this would be detrimental to both your physical and mental health in the long run.
  • RazorTazor
    RazorTazor Posts: 32
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    I'm listening to you guys honestly I am...i just....im a tough shell to crack...
  • RazorTazor
    RazorTazor Posts: 32
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    once college starts back up i am going to be using our weight room to try and bulk up...as of now i am just using an exercise ball and 15lbs dumbbells and the "8 minute abs" and "8 minute arms" videos on youtube. They are working...just slowly...
  • WilliamsPeggy
    WilliamsPeggy Posts: 440 Member
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    It is summer I am away from college.

    I'm going to be blunt. You are making excuses. You obviously have a problem. I'm not saying it to be mean, I'm saying it to try and help you. As others have said every community has some sort of mental health services that is free or charges based on your income. If you are in Berwick PA there is a place called CMSU in Bloomsburg. If you aren't there, then use google to find a place near you. You asked for our help, we are trying to help you.

    I agree. Do the research. Seek some help. It's available. You are worth it.
  • bridgetlevi
    bridgetlevi Posts: 2 Member
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    You should be allowed a cheat day every week! your body and mind need this.
  • JacksMom12
    JacksMom12 Posts: 1,044 Member
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    once college starts back up i am going to be using our weight room to try and bulk up...as of now i am just using an exercise ball and 15lbs dumbbells and the "8 minute abs" and "8 minute arms" videos on youtube. They are working...just slowly...

    You eat around 1000 calories a day. No offense, but on that diet.... Nothing you do will help you "bulk up".
  • RazorTazor
    RazorTazor Posts: 32
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    no i eat roughly around 1,500. I burn about 500. Still consuming 500
  • FriskyBriski
    FriskyBriski Posts: 3
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    I don't know where you are from, but in Wisconsin, every County has money set aside in the Department of Human Services specifically for Mental Health problems. Eating disorders just happens to fall in to this category. I suggest you contact your Counties Department of Human Services to find out what services are available. You need help and you need it now.
  • BSBgirl337
    BSBgirl337 Posts: 119 Member
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    I am a girl, but totally hear you. I can't stand it when I see a skinny girl eating pizza, and if I eat one piece I'm going to pay for it. However, try to use this site as a tool. Yesterday, I ate pizza with my family because they were visiting. I still exercised, and I didn't lose a pound, but I didn't gain any either. I can't start doing that everyday, but I enjoyed dinner with them, and it was nice.

    And don't stop going to birthday parties just to avoid cake. I bet if you eat a slice of cake one day, you won't be heavier the next day either.

    Just don't get in the mindset that you ate that piece of cake, so you ruined the day, so you might as well eat everything you want. That is when the weight gain comes in.

    If you depreive yourself of absolutely everything you like, one day you will probably just give up and gain the weight back. Enjoy what you want. Just smaller portions and once a week, or once a month., Just not everyday.

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