MFP Obsession
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I am new here (1 week) and I haven't told anyone that I have signed up for this site. I sign in very quickly in the evenings to log dinner and exercise and then sign out. I have support, but I'm doing this for ME. I would always say that I would NEVER count calories, but I guess like they say, "never say never"!!
I have found that counting calories helps me be accountable for what I eat, althoughtI am not ready to make my food diary public.
I'm sure you will find much support on this site as I have. I have read many topics, success stories and have seen great before and after pics.
As long as you know why you are making better choices, that's all that matters.
Feel free to add me and good luck.0 -
Don't let anyone bring you down. You are a gorgeous and smart and you are allowed to take control of your own life. :-)0
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Thank you all for the response! This is my exact reason for coming here, the support. I log on without anyones knowledge because they say that MFP aides in my weightloss obsession. It is primarily my husband that is against it, with negative comments from my sister and inlaws. I have an amazing little boy that I wanna see grow. But, my primary reason for wanting to lose weight is for me, I want to live and feel good both physically and mentally. Sadly, I have come to the conclusion that if my losing weight gives them the fuel to not want to be part of my life, then they were not meant to be in my life to begin with.
I don't know any details of your marriage, but have you tried to talk to your husband to find out why he feels so strongly against this? Is he feeling "neglected" with your new activities? Is he worried you will lose the weight and see better options and leave? Is he just controlling and being a jerk?0 -
Some of family does the same. But if it works ignore them. The only time I lose weight it seems is when I use MFP.0
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My husband does the same thing. I honestly think he is jealous, as if I would leave him or something once I became a hot mama.0
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Stick to MFP- do it for you and your son so that one day you can see him walk across the stage and get his degree~ see him grow up and be happy- see his children one day...
Dreams are bigger and better than any family member that is getting your way- as you can see - you have plenty of support here- keep on this journey for you and your happiness.0 -
Who cares what they think?
These people will all die fat. You just do what's right for you, and leave those people alone.
Never mention anything fitness or health related to them.
Let them kill themselves with a knife and fork while you work to reach your own goals.
Good Luck :flowerforyou:0 -
Sounds like your husband is controlling and doesn't like that he is losing that power over you.
Sorry, I couldn't be with someone who I had to hide being healthy from. My husband is far from healthy but he encourages me in all that I do.0 -
I can't imagine "love ones" giving you a hard time about changing your life around for the better. Just keep doing what you're doing...you're a grown woman and don't need anyone's approval for what you're doing. You have plenty of people here to support and reaffirm what you're doing.0
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You can friend me if you would like. Thats what I love about MFP.... everyone here is very supportive.
You are doing what is right for you and your lil one. Being healthy is a great thing for you and them. You are teaching them that being healthy is a way of life and thats being a great momma.
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So sorry for your struggles. I had issues with my husband/family/friends at one point but I kept pushing through it. I confronted my husband about it asking him why he had an issue with me losing weight and he said he was scared I would not want to be with him once I lose the weight. I reassured him that I was doing this for me and that I was not doing it so tha I could "find someone better". I love my husband and made sure he knew it. As for the famiy/friends they have learned to put up with my obsession. If they have an issue with it still they do not let on anymore. You can't let them rule your life. It is your life and you chose what you want to do with it.
You can add me on here if you want for the extra support. Together we can all get to where we want to be0 -
I am not suppose to even be on MFP, but unfortunately, I am logging without anyones knowledge.
HUH?? Why???
Not supposed to??? Friend me! I'll be support!0 -
Unfortunately for them, your "loved ones" are doing exactly what it takes for you to eventually walk away from them - the thing they fear the most with your healthy new lifestyle.
If they supported you, heck, even ate a healthy meal once a week with you, then you would be enraptured in their love. Right now they are pushing you so far away you have nothing to do but to go away - either mentally or physically.
I think if you try to have a normal conversation and make them realize that this is who you are, and they can either support you with love and respect or they can lose you, they might see things differently.0 -
There is no advise that I could give to help you, but please, don't feel alone. All of us are on here for a reason. Our experiences are varied, as are our situations but we are on here together. Pick from us and add some to your friend list and you will always have someone to chat with when you need it. XO0
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An obsession with this site is different than being addicted to drugs or gambling. Your obsession is brought on by the will to stay alive, he might as well be saying that you're addicted to breathing. You're doing this for yourself and for your family. No one can have the right to take that away from you.0
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If MFP motivates you, stay on it. Do what works for you
Definitely go with this advice. I've done the same thing; luckily I have the support of my family. I am really surprised at how the calories add up with seemingly innocent snacks and toppings, etc. Tracking everything has been a great help to me. Don't cheat on your entries because you're only cheating yourself. Good Luck!!0 -
Just do what you need to do, Keep coming back for you. They are giving you a hard time because they know their lifestyle isn't a healthy one. Don't let them get you down.0
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I'm so sorry you feel alone I cannot believe people are trying to rule and run your life. You should stand proud and say that you are doing this for you and if they can't accept that you're trying to make a healthy change then they can FECK OFF! You should do what makes you happy!! You are not alone there are a ton of us here going through the journey to better health with you! Feel free to friend me!! I wish you best of luck!!
Just remember DO what makes YOU happy....not anyone else...YOU YOU YOU! Be selfish if you have to, it's your life and your health not your friends/neighbors/husband.....0 -
It is not an obsession it is wanting a better future for yourself and your family. My hubby just gets tired of hearing about every little thing but still over the years has become super supportive because he knows that when i feel good we get along better. It's very sad that your family feels this way but i think a lot of it is jealousy/laziness plain and simple. I'm sending you a friend request now. :flowerforyou:0
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When I lost a total of 36 pounds in 2 years bringing me from 149 pounds down to 113 pounds, my family said I had lost the beauty in my face and looked gaunt and begged me to gain at least 10 pounds back. I went from the high end of my weight chart to the low end, but still was not considered underweight by my doctor. My husband told me to stick with it if that's what I want to do. What is it to anyone else if you count calories? It's your body! I have since gained 15 pounds back and everyone is happy...except that I would like to take another 5 pounds off, but I am 40 now and have moved to my home town where my family likes to eat and drink, so being closer to them is great for my soul, but not so great for my food diary. It is what it is, but I'm sticking with it because I like it and I think you should too!0
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