Guys; Who cleans in your house?

vade43113
vade43113 Posts: 836 Member
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Is it a co-op, or a solo job for you or your wife? And does your SO, appreciates the work you do to keep your house clean?

I only ask, cause I am the only one that cleans here, and it appears no one takes any notice. In fact they just come right on though and mess up everything again..... :? I am not a perfect neat freak, but everything is off the ground and/or put away.
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  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    I'll answer this one, we do 50/50. And I LOVE when he cleans, he does such a better job than I do lol. I'm very laid back.
  • Tat2dDom624
    Tat2dDom624 Posts: 1,226 Member
    My wife and i own a home, and we both share the cleaning duties. I'm domesticated so i can pretty much do everything else (laundry, clean bathroom, mop floors etc) as well.
  • Lauren8239
    Lauren8239 Posts: 1,039 Member
    Just me.....everyone else is severely allergic. Something fall on the floor? Everyone is suddenly blind. Left a dish on a table or bedroom? It will magically find it's way to the kitchen to be washed. I'm the fairyfreakinggodmother of cleaning, lol
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    You're asking the internet? Ok you're going to get a whole range of answers!

    No two couples are the same, and there is no right or wrong way. Communication is key - understanding that not everyone has the same ideas about "tidy" or "clean".

    In my house, I understand that my husband likes things tidy (ie out of the way) , while I like things handy. So for instance I might want to keep the reusable shopping bags near the front door. He sees those as messy.

    We discuss it, respect each other's point of view, and come up with an acceptable solution

    (in this case, we have a nice looking storage box by the door where the reusable bags live)
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i help out a lot around the house...sometimes i will get home from work, play/take care of my son until bed to give my wife a break, and then clean after he is asleep.

    and no, I don't always feel appreciated for my efforts.
  • kingkong247
    kingkong247 Posts: 55 Member
    Maid! :smile:
  • mazasmusings
    mazasmusings Posts: 74 Member
    My wife and I have been married a year and I'll admit that she does most of the cleaning. I clean the bathroom and do the heavier stuff that requires more upper body strength, like moving things or scrubbing the kitchen floor, which I did this past weekend and without air conditioning, it proved to be quite a workout!
    However, while she does the majority of the cleaning, I almost exclusively cook. I'm good at it and love to do it and my wife, well neither of those statements really apply.
    She also takes care of the household finances because she just has a better organizational mind than I do, but I deal with the landlord, fix stuff that needs to be fixed, take care of the cars, etc..
    So overall, while she does more cleaning, I think we do an adequate job of splitting responsibilities evenly. A lot of it also has to do with our strengths and knowledge, ie. she knows how to balance a checkbook, I know how to fix the brakes on her car. Both important tasks, but require far different skillsets.
  • kateanne27
    kateanne27 Posts: 275 Member
    I do the cleaning and husband does the 'tidying' I have trouble organizing and neatening things up, so I do dishes or laundry, he puts them away, I vaccuum, mop, wipe, scrub, he puts everything away in its proper place.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I clean the Kitchen, Downstairs bathroom, Weight Room, Bar, Man Cave, Kitchen. Wife cleans the Master Bedroom, Living Room and Dining Room (all upstairs).

    I cook and we share dishwashing duties as needed. She does her laundry. I do mine.

    I mow and do the outside heavy lifting. She pulls weeds and diredts me on proper pruining of foliage.

    We have a pretty fair division of chores. It's always been that way.
  • Discoveri
    Discoveri Posts: 435 Member
    I'm not a guy but I'll answer anyway :tongue: I do all of the cleaning as I am not working right now and my husband provides financially. That being said, If I ask him to do something (ex. not put wet towels on the floor) he doesn't have a problem with that and will try his best to remember what I had asked. Previously when we were both working, the housework was pretty much split down the middle although he did the cooking as he enjoys that.
  • SunshineT83
    SunshineT83 Posts: 158 Member
    I would say I maybe do about 80% of the hosehold chores. Dear hubby takes care of the lawn and the garbage/recycling. Anything else from him is kind of gravy so when it happens I let him know just how grateful I am for the help.
  • vade43113
    vade43113 Posts: 836 Member
    You're asking the internet? Ok you're going to get a whole range of answers!

    I know, it is just something to break from the normal, self-hating, stuff we find here
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    You're asking the internet? Ok you're going to get a whole range of answers!

    I know, it is just something to break from the normal, self-hating, stuff we find here

    how dare you?
  • chivalryder
    chivalryder Posts: 4,391 Member
    I clean my apartment myself. I need to keep it spotless for any girl I bring over, so I can impress her enough to move in. then she can start cleaning it for me. :P
  • paulsmisses
    paulsmisses Posts: 178
    Just me.....everyone else is severely allergic. Something fall on the floor? Everyone is suddenly blind. Left a dish on a table or bedroom? It will magically find it's way to the kitchen to be washed. I'm the fairyfreakinggodmother of cleaning, lol

    god this sounds like my house!
  • iiiEllie
    iiiEllie Posts: 224 Member
    I work from home and during my breaks I get the dishes done, kitchen cleaned, laundry, and prep for dinner. My boyfriend is in school till noon and will clean up but has to be asked to typically. Haha.
  • jackie2866
    jackie2866 Posts: 62 Member
    I pay a cleaning lady to come now every 2 weeks. This way I don't have to be resentful when my husband does not help me. With a full time job, 2 dogs and an 11 year old daughter, I am much happier this way :)
  • TexasRattlesnake
    TexasRattlesnake Posts: 375 Member
    Both of us.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    50/50 -- I'm not a maid.
  • LuckyAng
    LuckyAng Posts: 1,173 Member
    I clean the Kitchen, Downstairs bathroom, Weight Room, Bar, Man Cave, Kitchen. Wife cleans the Master Bedroom, Living Room and Dining Room (all upstairs).

    I cook and we share dishwashing duties as needed. She does her laundry. I do mine.

    I mow and do the outside heavy lifting. She pulls weeds and diredts me on proper pruining of foliage.

    We have a pretty fair division of chores. It's always been that way.

    You are awesome :)
  • ntw25
    ntw25 Posts: 149 Member
    We have "pink" jobs and "blue" jobs, Washing, ironing and cleaning house are "Pink" Garden, DIY, Trash are "Blue" Cooking, loading/unloading the dishwasher fall in the middle.

    Clearing up after the dogs.....................................................very, very Pink, unless we are walking them then it suddenly turns blue.

    Has worked for 21 years, see no reason to change now.
  • akoivisto
    akoivisto Posts: 141 Member
    It's more of a Co-op; but, we also have our areas.

    My wife: Laundry room, Bedroom , Bathroom.
    Myself: Kitchen, Lawn, Living Rooms

    Not saying we don't both do the others' areas, but that is I believe, our specialties. Since I cook mainly, I rock the kitchen, since she is more proficient at folding, she rocks the Laundry, and she is tidier, in general, around the Bathroom. We Co-op a lot of stuff, and we each get on the others' case about stuff... like her always taking my dishrags before I'm done, or me leaving my boxers in the corner of the bedroom. I think we are both appreciative, she isn't as verbal as I maybe though when it comes to the compliments. :)

    We also have two Corgi's and we vaccum quite a bit, and that is shared typically.

    Disclaimer: This is how I see it... my wife may not see it this way. :laugh:
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    Is it a co-op, or a solo job for you or your wife? And does your SO, appreciates the work you do to keep your house clean?

    I only ask, cause I am the only one that cleans here, and it appears no one takes any notice. In fact they just come right on though and mess up everything again..... :? I am not a perfect neat freak, but everything is off the ground and/or put away.

    I do most of the cleaning, though during the summer I make my son do some chores for his allowance. My husband works full-time, so he does dishes on the weekends and takes out the trash occasionally. Once in a while I can convince him to mop the floors, and he does a pretty good job of keeping (most of) his stuff picked up. My son and husband are pretty messy people though, and I suppose they should be since they're accustomed to me picking up the house. One nice thing about summer is my son does the dishes during the week - so that's a load off my shoulders. I do the cooking, laundry, vacuuming, dusting, trash, mopping, scrubbing of bathrooms, gardening, etc, a majority of the time, so I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect a small amount of help here and there.

    If no one is helping out in your home, you need to set some rules up. If you're not the only one living there, you definitely shouldn't be the only one pitching in to clean it up!
  • Meg_78
    Meg_78 Posts: 998 Member
    I'm also very lucky to have a husband that shares the load, Kids are a bit young, bu they do do their part, but not ever on their own initiative, hubs is great, he'll put on a load of washing, or fold the washing if he sees it needs doing, vacuums more often than me (I really hate that job) We generally share it all except the cooking, which I do almost all of, but he is in charge of the lunches on the weekend!
  • TadaGanIarracht
    TadaGanIarracht Posts: 2,615 Member
    Even though I'm not a guy I can answer honestly.

    He does the majority of the cleaning, or at least he thinks he does. I do all the "grooming" of our child and if my non-hubby is stressed or asks me to clean I'll do it no problem.
  • iysys
    iysys Posts: 524
    when my now husband moved in with me i wanted to hire a cleaning lady. he was very uncomfortable with the idea so we made a deal. if i ever have to ask him to do anything around the house twice i get to hire a cleaning lady. 3 years later and i still don't have a damn cleaning lady!!

    we are moving in the next few weeks and coming up with a new game plan. i do the kitchen and dining room. he does the living room and bathroom. we both do our room. i cook the meals he does the dishes.
  • LaGordita87
    LaGordita87 Posts: 161 Member
    Just me.....everyone else is severely allergic. Something fall on the floor? Everyone is suddenly blind. Left a dish on a table or bedroom? It will magically find it's way to the kitchen to be washed. I'm the fairyfreakinggodmother of cleaning, lol

    This is how it is in our house too. The only job my husband has as far as keeping the house clean is taking out the garbage and half the time i end up doing it because he will just let it overflow.
  • AprilRenewed
    AprilRenewed Posts: 691 Member
    We own a home, and I do most of it. But, we do have a cleaning lady who comes every other week now, thank God. I couldn't keep up with it. My husband is and will admit that he is a slob.

    However, if I ask, he'll help without complaining and immediately.

    If I NAG, on the other hand, I can forget his help.
  • futuremalestripper
    futuremalestripper Posts: 467 Member
    Me - >everything but dishes
    Her ->sometimes dishes

    It drives me nuts. Sometimes, I wish I married one of those clean freaks I see on Wifeswap.
    One of those nutballs with "everything in its place" and everything in tupperware. I could dig that a lot <3
  • LuckyAng
    LuckyAng Posts: 1,173 Member
    My Husband and I are relatively equal. We share the dishes and laundry duties, and I do most of the inside cleaning while he prefers to do the outside stuff (Lawn, cars, etc). That is until I found out how many calories I could burn mowing the lawn :wink:

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