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Ever wonder WHAT IF??

curvykim78
curvykim78 Posts: 799 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
Have you ever sat around and wondered....WHAT IF? How different would your life be if you went to a different school, picked a different career path, married a different peron, didn't have kids, bought a different house, etc........WHAT IF??

Is it a good thing to wonder or are you going to drive yourself crazy wondering...
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  • curvykim78
    curvykim78 Posts: 799 Member
    :)
  • LydiaA82
    LydiaA82 Posts: 36
    Yeah i do actually,
    i always wonder how different my life would be if i had children with my ex (we were trying for 4 years)...... prob still be with him EUGH! lol
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    Far too frequently.
  • BubbleGumKisses
    BubbleGumKisses Posts: 156 Member
    I try so hard NOT to wonder about the WHAT-IFS..... I make myself crazy with it.... I have put myself through alot of messy situations, and looking back, there's ALOT I'd like to be able to change.... But I know I can't, I just know I've gotta learn to live with my past, and plan better for my future... :)
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    yea sometimes i do, but its best to deal with reality and make the most of it
  • Pspetal
    Pspetal Posts: 426 Member
    I do sometimes... But then I force myself to think of less fortunate people who'll probably never have the things I have and I automatically come back to appreciating my life as it is... :flowerforyou:
  • curvykim78
    curvykim78 Posts: 799 Member
    I do sometimes... But then I force myself to think of less fortunate people who'll probably never have the things I have and I automatically come back to appreciating my life as it is... :flowerforyou:

    never thought of it like that...KUDOS to you!
  • Mctree20
    Mctree20 Posts: 137
    Some days it's hard not to.
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    Ah, the alternate universe question.....very dangerous to get too deep
  • soontobesam
    soontobesam Posts: 714 Member
    I don't think about it too much but every once in a while this pops in my head:

    My parents were exiled (I don't know if that is the correct term) from Poland for some political stuff during Solidarnosc and they were given a list of places they could relocate to. I was talking about it with my mom once and I know the options included the US, Africa and I think Australia (and probably some others). There has been a few times I wondered how my life would be if they had chose to live somewhere other than the US.
  • KellyKAG
    KellyKAG Posts: 418
    All the time.
  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    WHAT IF I wouldn't have joined MFP in April 2011, dropped weight, picked up running, and met the greatest guy a girl could ever hope for?

    Nah...don't want to think like that! :wink:
  • morgansmom02
    morgansmom02 Posts: 1,131 Member
    Yes, every day. I wonder what I would be doing if I didn't have kids!
  • thamre
    thamre Posts: 629 Member
    All the time .. today especially
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    No
  • sho3girl
    sho3girl Posts: 10,799 Member
    often - we are the sum of our choices ... did I make the right choice? - i though so at the time and i figure it's never too late to revisit the path I didn't take
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    Yep...I definately do! When my hubby and I started dating, I was in the midst of making plans to move to Ireland. I was 22, college graduate, no strings, no attachments and I figured, why not? How about some adventure in my life? Then we started dating and the rest is history. But I do wonder what would have happened had I gone?

    And yes, I wonder what it would be like if we hadn't had kids. We tried for 2.5 years to have our son (daughter came much easier!). We'd definately have a lot more money. Would be traveling quite a bit more. But we wouldn't have the fullness we have with having them! We do a lot of things now that we would never do if we didn't have them!
  • ShazMc73
    ShazMc73 Posts: 106 Member
    I don't dwell on it; I chose a path completely different than what people expected of me. There is only one thing I regret, putting career before relationship; but when I consider what would have been had I not gone with my gut (at that time), I'm pretty contented with the choices I've made, mistakes and all.


    Overall I'm grateful for the life I have - it is not at all bad! :drinker:
  • f4bul0us
    f4bul0us Posts: 19
    never.
  • mslack01
    mslack01 Posts: 823 Member
    It can be a good motivating tool or an outlet for creativity as long as you don't use it as a crutch to feel bad about your life.
  • nursedb
    nursedb Posts: 297 Member
    What if I hadn't joined MFP...lost 46+ pounds....I would never have had the strength to say goodbye to 46 lbs of eating my emotions from years of a verbally abusive controlling marriage and found true happiness in the gym and with a great new relationship...hmmm ...what if
  • curvykim78
    curvykim78 Posts: 799 Member
    Yes, every day. I wonder what I would be doing if I didn't have kids!

    HAHA And all the extra $$$ you'd have!
  • Rjdj3530
    Rjdj3530 Posts: 154
    The thing I wonder the most about is What If I had been born naturally skinny and hadn't been chubby or overweight most of my life.

    Second to that is What If I hadn't had children so young.
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    Never. If I'm unhappy in my life I figure out how to change it for the future. No sense wasting time on the past.
  • MustBeTheRows
    MustBeTheRows Posts: 377 Member
    The only time I ever wonder like this is when I think about "What if my twin brother hadn't died?" I wonder what kind of impact that would have had on my life.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Sometimes...but mostly I just move on, because dwelling on the past or what "might have been" doesn't change the present!
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Not really. I'm pretty happy with what I have right now so to dwell on a "what if" is pointless. I can't go back and change what's happened nor do I want to.
  • soontobesam
    soontobesam Posts: 714 Member
    The only time I ever wonder like this is when I think about "What if my twin brother hadn't died?" I wonder what kind of impact that would have had on my life.

    Sorry to hear about that.
  • curvykim78
    curvykim78 Posts: 799 Member
    Sometimes...but mostly I just move on, because dwelling on the past or what "might have been" doesn't change the present!

    yes!
  • 4x4play
    4x4play Posts: 200 Member
    I have thought of that quite often. But then where would I be today?? I have 2 beautiful boys and a great job. I think that I settled way too soon in life and should have given myself more time to grow and learn before getting married at such a young age. But then I'm not sure I would have become the person I am right now. So I'm forgetting the what if's and the should be's and going with the flow of things now! I have my moments but for the most part I love who I am and where I am at!
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