Ever wonder WHAT IF??

ZombieChaser

Never! I'm a firm believer that every choice and decision I make or the path that I have chosen for myself was done with good reason, whether it's the universe directing me or not (or whatever you choose to believe in). I don't regret a single decision that I've made over the course of my life...why? Because of who I am today - and I like me, where I am, and where I'm going.
I'm not going to tell you that my life was easy - it wasn't. I was picked on, bullied and put down, both at home and at school. All the pain and suffering has made me stronger, more resilliant and protective of others (which is a quality I love to have).

BigDaddyBRC

Never. There are choices abound in life. You either make them or you don't. If you are always seeking an "IF" you will never fully live life in the present

Captain_Tightpants

I always wonder if I'd still be around if I hadn't had that gorram nerve cluster moved on my first tour.

auroranflash

In some alternate universe, I'm pretty sure I'm a member of SG-1, exploring the galaxy and whapping D-Jack upside the head when he goes into one of his long-winded spiels about Egyptian etymology.

zombiefarmboy

Someone unhappy with life?

curvykim78

Someone unhappy with life?

Nope...just asking a question.

ZombieChaser

In some alternate universe, I'm pretty sure I'm a member of SG-1, exploring the galaxy and whapping D-Jack upside the head when he goes into one of his long-winded spiels about Egyptian etymology.

LOL!

kristalael

everyday

pinuplove

If I hadn't made the choices I did, I'd be married to a cowboy instead of my amazing h, raising a passle of young uns and scrubbing cow **** off his Wranglers. Fact. I'm happy with my choices!

I do wonder how my life would have been different if my parents hadn't died relatively young but i try not to dwell on it. I was loved and raised surrounded by people who truly cared for me. That is so much more than many people get!

pinuplove

The only time I ever wonder like this is when I think about "What if my twin brother hadn't died?" I wonder what kind of impact that would have had on my life.

I'm sorry :frown: I can absolutely see wondering how that would have impacted your life!

Papillon22

I'm surprised that people seem to think it'd be negative to wonder about what ifs!
I do sometimes and it's not about regretting decisions, it's simply about looking back and seeing the road travelled and how I got to where I am today. That way, I can not only be amazed at the crazy turns life sometimes take, but I can also learn for the future.

I can see how it could be negative if you dwell on mistakes you made, but other than that, I think it can be a healthy exercise.

MinnieInMaine

Sure! I don't dwell on it in any kind of negative way but it's fun now and then to think about things like "what if I won that $1M sweepstakes?" or "what if DH gets that promotion?" or "what if we sold the house and lived on a wing and prayer traveling around the country for a year?". Just weird random thoughts...

NMJosephs

I met my husband because of a mistake in job transfer paperwork. I don't even want to think about who I'd be now or where I'd be now if the paperwork had gone through correctly!

It was God's plan!

MattTheWaterRat

If my aunt had a dong, she'd be my uncle.

Best not to dwell on the could have beens.

TaintedVampyre

Far too frequently.

Ditto.
Recently it's been along the lines of "how different would my life had been if I chose to be healthier sooner?" Who would I have met? What would high school have been like? etc.

MrsSorenson

My husband and I are high school sweethearts so I've wondered on occasion. But the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and I'm happy in the now!!

Charmane72

I try not to think in those terms. It was that type of thinking that kept me living a stationary life for too many years. Now I find myself saying... "I wonder if I can..." and then enjoy accomplishing it!

peles_fire

I wonder "what if" all the damn time.

Doing_The_Unstruck

I wonder how many facepalms and headdesks I could have avoided by staying out of these forums.

timmymon

I think being able to wonder what if is a uniquely human ability that allows us to better ourselves and achieve the most we can out of the one life we have. Keep wondering what if and keep pushing yourself to new heights!

1WorkoutAtATime

sure

ylolablvr

What if I hadn't joined MFP...lost 46+ pounds....I would never have had the strength to say goodbye to 46 lbs of eating my emotions from years of a verbally abusive controlling marriage and found true happiness in the gym and with a great new relationship...hmmm ...what if

Amen to that, my thoughts exactly!!!!!

curvykim78

My husband and I are high school sweethearts so I've wondered on occasion. But the grass isn't always greener on the other side, and I'm happy in the now!!

I've been told "the grass always looks greener on the other side because it's fertilized with bullsh*t..."

Kenhabes

All the time.

What if I had told myself to exercise more and eat better?

What if was able to convince my dad to do the same. Would he still be alive?

What if my first born son, Andrew, was still alive. What would he be like? Would we still have our beautiful boy, Jonah?

rammsteinsoldier

I sure do. Life hasn't always been so kind so I wonder if I had taken different directions would things have turned out better.

benich3043

I have wondered before, but never really dwelled on it. I am happy with the way my life has turned out. If I went back, I would make the same decisions since I would get the same outcome.

jessejames3ball

All the time, and it does drive me a little nuts at times. Oh well. Not much to do about it now.

Swissmiss

Whenever I find myself thinking this way, I will just remember that the past is just that...the past. Look toward the future or better yet...just live for today.

tashaa1992

The thing I wonder most is what if I actually went to school instead of being in hospital, I could've finished college at 18 and gone to university. But then I look at my sister, she studied business at university and while she's got a really good job, it wasn't the job she wanted or studied for. I always wonder what my life would be like if I never had anorexia, I'd have gone to school, made friends, gone to my prom, sat my exams, eaten like a normal teenager, but I think it has made me who I am. I'm sensitive and caring, I worry about others and always put them first and I think if I had never had anorexia, I would've turned out like the rest of my old friends, rude, selfish, drunks, and stuck up lol yeahh my life's all good!:)

ErinBeth7

I try so hard NOT to wonder about the WHAT-IFS..... I make myself crazy with it.... I have put myself through alot of messy situations, and looking back, there's ALOT I'd like to be able to change.... But I know I can't, I just know I've gotta learn to live with my past, and plan better for my future...

This is true. I try not to think about what IFS. Really I don't think bout them that much. I am actually happy with the choices I've made and where I am with life. If I do start thinking about the "what ifs," then I feel I'd have to question my happiness.