Dumped, Depressed and wanting to kill something.

barbiecat

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Today is the first day of the rest of your life. You can make it better through positive action and with the support of the new friends you will make here.

Living well is the best revenge. Walk through this with dignity, value, and worth and you will be the winner every day.

Take it one day at a time.

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cmriverside

Be present in THIS moment.

Enjoy this day.

It is all we have.

Be your own best friend and don't look outside yourself for happiness. It is within.

cheshirekat

Oh my, that really sucks, and I totally feel for you. I am going through a breakup right now too, and its painful and heavy in my heart everyday, and I always feel like there was something wrong with me but its not true! You are worthy, and beauty comes from within even though that sounds corny. Find some supportive friends, start a new hobby, and concentrate on doing the things you love doing. With a little effort, you will lose weight as well and it will be easier than you ever immagined possible. Work on accepting who you are, right now, today, and go from there, because you are beautiful and we are all incredible and unique human beings, so give yourself some love! Take yourself on a date, watch your favorite movies, read your favorite books or poems. And if you feel sad, just let yourself feel sad, its completely ok to be sad sometimes and its a natural part of being a human being. Give yourself permission to cry your eyes out, beat up a pillow, or just go for a long slow walk to blow off some steam. You can do this, find the strength within yourself.

ilike2moveit

Stay strong. This will be great motivation to get healthy and fit. Best wishes to you!:flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

Same year, My ex-husband cheated on me for years and I was non the wiser. I only found when I left him because something was never felt right. When I was single everyone knew!! I was humiliated.
I lost so much weight because I did not have friends only through my ex- so I hit the gym, instead of feeling lonely. It took me three years being single. I looked pretty but my self esteem was in the gutter because I thought what was wrong with me that he had to cheat on me. Well, like I said three years later and many dates ( which was fun, some not so much ) I found a wonderful man. We are still together 7yrs. Looking back I even gave thanks to my ex, had he not done this to me I would never have met my new guy. My ex- remarried and his wife is a witch, one of his girlfriends gave him an STD.
I was happy to hear this at first, because he got what he deserved, but I feel sad that I am so happy and he is not. He always tell me he regrets how he treated me. We are friends now.

Karma Karma Karma.

He will get his and you will get yours. Keep up the faith, do exercise. Oh I read so many self help books. My favorite was the THE RULES, and I never got hurt again.

GOOD LUCK, THIS TOO SHALL PASS

I'm currently working with my therapist to move past the anger to a place of indifference for him, and hopefully eventually wanting the best for him.

I cannot begin to fathom wanting anything but his misery right now. :laugh: I am setting my goals for indifference towards him.... baby steps.

I hope one day to be where you are.... wanting the best, sad that my ex has a horrible life, because I know he will have regrets for what he's done, one day. (If he ever matures. He may not.)

MyKids04

Look at it this way you just lost 200 plus pounds when you dumped that jerk.
But you found the right group of supporters it will take one day at a time but you will do it.
I don't like getting religous on the site but I am a strong believer God only gives you what you can handle.

Sending you a hug.

♥seoid♥

OMG...that is horrible honey. Hang in there.

mhayes13

Not a whole lot else to say that the group hasn't said already.

Grats on the little girl!
Violence is not the answer.
Exercise will be a great stress reliever.
Definitely... change the screenname.

The above says sums it up nicely. And while I understand some the "man hating" in the comments we are not all bad. Do this for you and good things will come to you and your new daughter. The people on MFP will over great support - you have many friends here now.

beyondchowhound

This happened to me also, after 27 years of being together. People knew but didn't tell me it had been going on for years. I wasn't bad looking or really overweight. He just got bored I guess and needed attention from someone new. I cried and cried and didn't eat and drank vodka. They call it the divorce diet. I think I lost 30 pounds. My heart felt like it was breaking and it actually did. I had a massive heart attack. People do die of a broken heart. Be careful. I read a lot of self help books, some good and some not so good but that's how I got to sleep at night, reading self help and then crying into my pillow. I tried to get therapy but no one would answer my calls. Watched Bridget Jones lots, haha and anything to do with husbands cheating and why they did.

Do not waste your time on trying to get back with him because it is just that, a waste of time. I wish I had known that also. I let him come over every weekend after we split up for about a year. I tried everything to get him back. I found out that he was still cheating. He was "Just not that into me". I met a fantastic man online and we have been married for 2 years now. He treats me like a princess.

My ex is now a complete alcoholic and lives in a room at the bar. I feel sorry for him but I have tried helping him and out of respect for my husband, will not anymore.

Good luck to you. Be good to yourself. Do not call or see your ex as this only makes things worse. Easy to say but take it from me, it is a "waste of your time"

I do not suggest the vodka by the way.
I don't drink anymore.
Good luck.

Benson

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cdgibson1

Thank you for sharing your story. I am heart broken and hope that they both burn in hell. He calls all day long to keep me upset and had to threaten him with a restraining order today. I can not get my head around why he was so into adopting the most beautiful boy and cheat the next month. I know time will heal but feel like the clock has stopped. Thank you for the words of encouragement. We are both very well know in our small town. I appreciate the tremendous support from this site and my community.

cdgibson1

On the subject of weight loss- I started WW yesterday. I went to tan and to the gym today and plan on being there tomorrow. I will also be seeing my atty tomorrow. I hope to be able to bounce a quarter off of my *kitten* by Christmas!

maurierose

I agree - change the screen name here... love yourself, and use any negative energy and emotions you have to YOUR advantage... walk, work out, get angry with weight reps.... lemme tell you, it's a great "venting session". You'll feel better.

As for the comments made here about "Men are pigs"... "Men suck", and the like.... just wanted to point something out.... gotta put myself out on the line for this one.

Not all MALES are MEN. :ohwell:

My hubby happens to be MY MAN - awesome in soooo many ways I can't name them all here. I have RESPECT for him, and he's a wonderful husband and dad. He is a "REAL MAN".

It sounds like you had yourself a "male". Love yourself, and you'll be in a position to make better choices in the male vs. "Real Men" category.

By the same token.... not all "Females" are "Ladies" or "Real Women".....

That being said, that stuff is not really here nor there......... your soon-to-be-ex isn't worth your energy, negative or otherwise. Make STRONG, HEALTHY, POSITIVE changes for YOU, and for your child.

You can do this. :flowerforyou: