Jerk at the Gym
Okay, I need opinions. I was at the gym tonight and I wanted to do some shoulder exercises with the hand weights. They have these stools at the gym and sometimes the weight lifting guys use them so the stools are moved around all over the gym. I did 3 sets of 15 on the hip abduction and the hip adduction while keeping my eye on a lone stool over by one of the big weight lifting bars and there was no one using it. So after I finished I went over and got the stool and moved it to the front of the gym and started doing my shoulder exercises. After a few minutes this guy comes over to me and points at the stool and asks if he can use it. I said that I was using it. So he walks away but then stands about 15 feet away from me and just stares at me. Then he starts pacing around, then stops and stares. This goes on for a few minutes and when I am getting ready to start my last 12 reps he comes back over to me and tells me that he will bring a CHAIR over for me so he can use the stool. I told him I was almost finished and he said "You took it away from me". I told him that it was not in use when I took it, that it hadn't been in use for at least 5 minutes before I took it, and that I was using it.
He then tells me that he is a "nice guy" and I said "No, you are not being a nice guy. You were standing there staring at me, trying to intimidate me, and that is rude". Then he calls me a bi***. I was so mad and I should have stood my ground but I walked away and told him he was a jerk and a jacka$$.
One of the regular guys who I see at the gym all the time asked me what happened and I told him. He said I should have reported the guy to the front desk. I know I should have but I didn't because I don't want problems. I have never seen this guy there before and I am there every day.
Why do people have to act that way? Was I wrong to move the stool when no one was using it? Just because I was using a little 4 lb hand weight and he was lifting heavy weights, does that give him more right to use than me?
He then tells me that he is a "nice guy" and I said "No, you are not being a nice guy. You were standing there staring at me, trying to intimidate me, and that is rude". Then he calls me a bi***. I was so mad and I should have stood my ground but I walked away and told him he was a jerk and a jacka$$.
One of the regular guys who I see at the gym all the time asked me what happened and I told him. He said I should have reported the guy to the front desk. I know I should have but I didn't because I don't want problems. I have never seen this guy there before and I am there every day.
Why do people have to act that way? Was I wrong to move the stool when no one was using it? Just because I was using a little 4 lb hand weight and he was lifting heavy weights, does that give him more right to use than me?
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No, you waited and checked to see if anyone was using it first. Either he left to pee, which frankly removes his rights to the bench unless he had his towel on it, or he was trying to strike up a conversation with you (but did it poorly) or he's a douche-nozzle. In any case, you were perfectly in your rights. :flowerforyou:0
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OMG - that was you? I'm so sorry. Had I known you were on MFP, I wouldn't have stared at you. However, I am a nice guy.
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some people think they own the gym...it sounds like you stood your ground. these are the types of people i cannot stand at the gym. Total *kitten*....0
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No, you waited and checked to see if anyone was using it first. Either he left to pee, which frankly removes his rights to the bench unless he had his towel on it, or he was trying to strike up a conversation with you (but did it poorly) or he's a douche-nozzle. In any case, you were perfectly in your rights. :flowerforyou:
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I would have reported him, or called a trainer over to help the situation.0
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No you weren't wrong and this is why I don't go to gyms...I'm such a B word sometimes I woulda gotten all up in dude's face lol0
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I would have done the same thing...what a jerk! Maybe he should lay off the roids and do some cardio for the endorphins! ;P I have never seen a rude person at my gym. In fact, one woman was kind of hogging the weights, but she stepped away so I asked her if I could use the 8lb hand weights for a few minutes. She of course said yes and thanked me for being so polite about it. You were fully in your rights and then some!0
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OMG - that was you? I'm so sorry. Had I known you were on MFP, I wouldn't have stared at you. However, I am a nice guy.
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Dude, I KNOW you wouldn't have called me a bi***!0 -
What an *kitten*.0
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Dudes like that give the rest of us a bad name. I am sorry you had to deal with a douche.0
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No you weren't wrong and this is why I don't go to gyms...I'm such a B word sometimes I woulda gotten all up in dude's face lol
If you were at the gym, I'd do whatever I could to get you all up in my face. Would you spank me too?
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OMG - that was you? I'm so sorry. Had I known you were on MFP, I wouldn't have stared at you. However, I am a nice guy.
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Dude, I KNOW you wouldn't have called me a bi***!
Yeah, you're right. I don't call anybody a name like that, nor would I. Well, that's not entirely true, but nobody else is my ex-wife...LMAO!
Actually, I would have gone to another station and returned when you were finished, quietly of course.0 -
Most people that start a dispute with "I'm a nice guy..." aren't, in fact, very nice at all. Report him if it happens in future.0
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No you weren't wrong and this is why I don't go to gyms...I'm such a B word sometimes I woulda gotten all up in dude's face lol
If you were at the gym, I'd do whatever I could to get you all up in my face. Would you spank me too?
HAHA Watch out, buddy! You're in Humble and I'm in Dallas. I KNOW where you are!0 -
WOW!!! You got that right, jerk at the gym!! No, if it is not in use I say it's fair game. It doesn't matter how much weights you are using if you need to use it then use it. There was NO REASON for him to verbally abuse you like that! Someone needs a lesson on how to play in the sandbox for sure! I do think you need to report him though. Imagine how he treats the women in his life if he treats a complete stranger like that. WAY TO GO on the 70 pound weight loss!!! That is wonderful!0
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"gym protocol" sez leave a personal item on a bench/stool that you're using so others know it's in use~0
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what a jerkface.
i agree that if it happens again you should report him.0 -
before i read all of that, is "jerks at the gym" a euphamism?0
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Good for you for not giving into his intimidation tactics---and for pointing that out to him. He was very much in the wrong there. Unless the dude was sitting on that stool or had his name engraved on it, it is free game. In fact, in the time he was taking gawking at you and pacing like a gorilla, HE could have grabbed the CHAIR and used it himself.0
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You're as entitled to any piece of equipment as the next member. Most people can be civil and work into one another's sets. But every now and then, you just gotta take what's yours!
You should have told that meathead to eff off! haha And should you see him again, let the front desk know you had a prior encounter with him and don't wish to have a second one. Puts him on their radar and he'll be dealt with one way or another.0 -
Everybody in their mind is nice. I'm sure even Hitler thought he was a nice guy.
A lot of these types of bullies thrive on people who "don't want problems". These are literally worms who feed on other peoples good nature.
I have learned a long time ago that after giving them 1 chance to make nice and make peace, I go into my @$$hole mode and stare them dead in their eye if they try to bug me again and before they even open their mouth I ask "What the F*** do you want" or if they keep annoying me I just so "Go fu** yourselve" or other colorful words. Not saying you should do that but stand your ground and let them know that you're not a pushover0 -
I work out at home so I don't have this problem. My husband and I work out together and do sets alternating with each other so he'll do a seated shoulder press while I'm doing a back fly. When we do this the bench is always in use by one of us. If you are doing sets of different exercises back to back you would have a few minutes of doing one exercise before you went back to the other one. So I'm guessing that this guy was in between sets with the stool and even though you hadn't seen him using the stool within the last 5 minutes or so I bet he was going to use it again after he finished the set of whatever he was on. He didn't handle the situation very nicely but than he was getting off the stool while doing different sets and if you were just sitting on the stool giving yourself the recommended "rest time" between sets he probably thought you wrong to just sit there kinda like you thought the stool wasn't in use. Sounds like better communication could have saved a lot of negative talk. But don't beat yourself up about it-0
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Unless that 'personal item' is a limb or *kitten* cheek, I usually just move it. I'm not sure people's towel or water bottles really need to be using gym equipment."gym protocol" sez leave a personal item on a bench/stool that you're using so others know it's in use~0 -
he could have used the chair just as well as you could have. he was being a total d-bag. next time a good knee to his balls is in order0
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I work out at home so I don't have this problem. My husband and I work out together and do sets alternating with each other so he'll do a seated shoulder press while I'm doing a back fly. When we do this the bench is always in use by one of us. If you are doing sets of different exercises back to back you would have a few minutes of doing one exercise before you went back to the other one. So I'm guessing that this guy was in between sets with the stool and even though you hadn't seen him using the stool within the last 5 minutes or so I bet he was going to use it again after he finished the set of whatever he was on. He didn't handle the situation very nicely but than he was getting off the stool while doing different sets and if you were just sitting on the stool giving yourself the recommended "rest time" between sets he probably thought you wrong to just sit there kinda like you thought the stool wasn't in use. Sounds like better communication could have saved a lot of negative talk. But don't beat yourself up about it-
Actually, he wasn't anywhere around. I wasn't sitting on it, resting. I was using it - knee on one side and hand on the other side while I did shoulder exercises that I have been doing for PT after rotator cuff surgery.0 -
I would have told him that no, he didn't leave his little peni$ on the stool, so maybe he should go check the other ones or see if his boyfriend had them in his pocket.0
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Wow - what a tough guy!
Seriously, the roid heads think they own everything in the gym.
They're cowards who are bloated and buffed. I have folded so many of these guys up so fast through the years.
Here's the deal.
They are used to people backing down. And why not? They're big, mean looking.
They're like dogs who just wizzed on a tree marking territory. Next time tell him to buzz off [spelled with an "f]
Watch him cower.0 -
He should have just waited. Sounds like a jerk...there are better ways to communicate.0
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That's terrible. He doesn't own the gym next time report a jerk like that. People like that don't learn unless you nip it in the bud, hopefully there won't be another confrontation but if it were me I would report him for verbal abuse and intimidation and put it in writing with the gym. The gym will know you mean business and that there is a risk of a complaint/lawsuit and the will deal with that jerk.0
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You were not in the wrong. If someone did that to me I would have took the stole with me lmao I would have told him to go use the chair and to leave me the eff alone. I would have reported him but you did good. There is no need for people to be jerks like that if he ever did it again I would flip out on him and report him lmao
oh and if you see him again go over to him and tell him you were using that yesterday so he cant use it and then stare at him lmao0
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