How/When/Why did we get this big??
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I know how I got there. I ignored it. I just ate what I wanted and more and more of it. Drank sodas and junk food and had no idea what a portion size was. I got pregnant and just got bigger. I am still big and trying to lose weight now. I don't understand how you think all bigger people should be sad and upset all the time. That would be a horrible way to live. No matter what size I am, I am going to enjoy life, my son, my husband, and my friends. I do not like how I look, but I do not go through my life sad and crying all the time. I am a happy, positive person and I am proud of that.
But you want to change.. People who are really overweight who have no desire to change.. this is what i ponder..
But just o add i am glad you are happy and positive i am not saying all overweight people should be depressed i just don't understand why they don't have a desire to be healthy and fit like we do on MFP.. also i'm not saying you have to be a size 8 to be happy you are happy with yourself you know when you like yourself.. like i knowif i lose a stone i will be happy i wont be a size 8 but i will be happy with me that's all that matter is how you feel!!0 -
Ask meth heads how they got how they were. Ask alcoholics how they got how they were. Ask people who commit suicide how they got how they were. Humans are complex and the brain is the most complex part of us. We see what we want to see, we think how we want to think. No one can tell us otherwise until we stop and realize what we are doing to ourselves and that we need to change.0
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this is getting deep now..0
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I know how I got there. I ignored it. I just ate what I wanted and more and more of it. Drank sodas and junk food and had no idea what a portion size was. I got pregnant and just got bigger. I am still big and trying to lose weight now. I don't understand how you think all bigger people should be sad and upset all the time. That would be a horrible way to live. No matter what size I am, I am going to enjoy life, my son, my husband, and my friends. I do not like how I look, but I do not go through my life sad and crying all the time. I am a happy, positive person and I am proud of that.
But you want to change.. People who are really overweight who have no desire to change.. this is what i ponder..
But just o add i am glad you are happy and positive i am not saying all overweight people should be depressed i just don't understand why they don't have a desire to be healthy and fit like we do on MFP.. also i'm not saying you have to be a size 8 to be happy you are happy with yourself you know when you like yourself.. like i knowif i lose a stone i will be happy i wont be a size 8 but i will be happy with me that's all that matter is how you feel!!
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These people are the ones spreading this poisonous attitude regarding fat acceptance.0 -
I don't get how you can think that people are "content" with being over weight just because they haven't gotten the hang of eating right. Most people aren't used to a balanced diet. Yeah, they show you the food pyramid in school, but fast food is everywhere, you can get almost any meal from a box or already cooked, just put it in the microwave.
Quite frankly, I'm obese because it took five years to get my thyroid under control, and six months before that of not having any idea what was causing the weight gain, the hair falling out, the massive fatigue. I have a major medical problem, and losing even the two stupid pounds that I HAVE lost has been hell. I don't eat horribly (mostly homemade meals, always has been this way), I try to eat right around my BMR. I'm pretty active as a part of life, and I have cardio and weights added to that. And frankly, I get VERY down on myself over the fact that the number has barely moved in months.
So, no. I'd say very few of us are actually "content" with our obesity. And obesity doesn't mean "gluttony".0 -
I do not find body shaming to be helpful in achieving weight/fitness goals. It is possible to love one's body, love ones' self even when trying to lose weight.
This. Even when I was overweight, I never conisdered myself fat or disgusting.
Most people who are overweight know that they're overweight. Some choose not to deal with it. I've noticed that really Overweight families tend not to own scales or alot of mirrors in their homes so they don't have to deal with their weight as often. Healthy weight loss is hard, and it takes a long time to accomplish and in this age of instant gratification, not everyone is willing to consitantly put in that effort.
People get fat because of bad habits that are so engrained into them, they hardly notice them.
They might see a skinny person eating a chocolate bar and argue, why can't I eat a chocolate bar too? But they usually don't take into account moderation, yes you can eat a chocolate bar once in a while and remain slim, but you can't eat a chocolate bar after two nights of back to back fried food takeouts and eat fast food after that and expect to remain slim. They eat poorly on a more consitant basis from habit and tend not to notice that.
I personally gained alot of weight during my 1st semester of college, eating junk, takeout, sugary coffee, irregular meals on a consistant basis. As I was blowing up I couldn't understand why I was gaining so much weight, I did so much walking around campus. When I decided to lose some serious weight and change to a healthy lifestyle I started to realize why I'd gained the freshman15. I mean I was loading up my daily coffee with 5 packets of sugar and eating out of the vending machine every other day, how could I have not gained weight? But it wasn't until I was in the process of changing my habits to the better that I realized how bad my old habits were.0 -
/facepalm.
Rather than project negativity, please try and be a positive force. It matters not How, when or Why. The fact is, there are Billions of people who, with the exception of a small percentage, have been just plain lazy and are now unhealthy.
Get your mind wrapped around the positive of what you want and take action to better yourself. And please keep your self-prejudices to just that...yourself.
There are studies available that indicate about 70% overweight people have some kind of emotional issue with food. It is used as a coping mechanism usually for many kinds of stress. So, to say that the overweight people are just plain lazy may be accurate for some, but not accurate for the vast majority of overweight people. Also, there are educational and environmental factors that come into play - a true lack of knowledge of how to live in a healthy way and as a result have become fat. This is not lazy, but lack of education.
I think it is possible to be fat and happy. One way it can be achieved is through meditation and simply accepting yourself as you are in the moment you are in. I would not say that is being happy necessarily but being content. In this way you don't keep beating yourself up about the past or worrying about the future. You are simply enjoying each moment you are in.
But being the emotional creatures that we are we do have feelings and achieving the above state and maintaining is nearly impossible for me at least. However, accepting yourself as you are in the moment is a positive way to handle regrets for the past or worries about the future, and can put you in a more positive state of mind to make effective change going forward. It works for me. But it takes a ton of practice and I have only been doing it for a couple years and I have a ton ton yet to learn. It has fundamentally changed my life though.0 -
I think people are missing the point of the OP's post. She means overweight people who do not recognise // try to change. Not people who are trying to lose on this website.0
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/facepalm.
Rather than project negativity, please try and be a positive force. It matters not How, when or Why. The fact is, there are Billions of people who, with the exception of a small percentage, have been just plain lazy and are now unhealthy.
Get your mind wrapped around the positive of what you want and take action to better yourself. And please keep your self-prejudices to just that...yourself.
There are studies available that indicate about 70% overweight people have some kind of emotional issue with food. It is used as a coping mechanism usually for many kinds of stress. So, to say that the overweight people are just plain lazy may be accurate for some, but not accurate for the vast majority of overweight people. Also, there are educational and environmental factors that come into play - a true lack of knowledge of how to live in a healthy way and as a result have become fat. This is not lazy, but lack of education.
I think it is possible to be fat and happy. One way it can be achieved is through meditation and simply accepting yourself as you are in the moment you are in. I would not say that is being happy necessarily but being content. In this way you don't keep beating yourself up about the past or worrying about the future. You are simply enjoying each moment you are in.
But being the emotional creatures that we are we do have feelings and achieving the above state and maintaining is nearly impossible for me at least. However, accepting yourself as you are in the moment is a positive way to handle regrets for the past or worries about the future, and can put you in a more positive state of mind to make effective change going forward. It works for me. But it takes a ton of practice and I have only been doing it for a couple years and I have a ton ton yet to learn. It has fundamentally changed my life though.
There was an article in one of my trashy mags about 6 women who had gastric bands out of al of them, 5 years on only one was a healthy weight.. becuase they gave them the bands and that was it.. no mention of how to eat healthy, what is a portion etc etc so they went back to their old bad habits of eating and gained all their weight again!0 -
I grew up fat and peaked at 17.5 stones around age 18/19, in my final year of uni weight dropped off me and I went to around 15 stones in about 5 months, after that I became motivated to do more, i met my OH and dropped to 10.5st which is healthy weight for me but at the time was too much so I gained a stone back and settled for a long time happily at 11.5st. I have since gained back over 2st but am in the process of getting it off, for me it was contentment, moving house (and lack of a kitchen) and simply 'losing interest'. I am disgusted with myself now though and am determined to get back down.
I think the language you used was quite harsh but I agree with the sentiment, it's a terrible thing to do to the body.0 -
Ask people who commit suicide how they got how they were.
If you find out how to do this, please let me know. I have a friend I'd seriously like to question as to why he left so soon.0 -
Hi! I hope you are having a great day! I couldn't even begin to answer your question, but I am certain that a little bit of depression, a wacky thyroid problem (which is still getting figured out) and hyper-focusing on getting through university have brought me to where I am today--needing to lose 85 pounds to goal. Sometimes we never completely figure out how we ended up where we are, but I think we can start right now to go in a better direction.
Today is the beginning of my turnaround. I will use the power I have to make better choices, forgive myself when I fail, and work really hard to leave my old habits behind. I hope that you find the tools and support on MFP to be very helpful. Take one day at a time, O.K.? Wishing you great success at reaching all your goals for your life as well as for weight loss. You can do it!0 -
But you want to change.. People who are really overweight who have no desire to change.. this is what i ponder..
It's hard to tell.
As for me personally... The reason I guess I continued to let myself get bigger was that I'm tall, so the weight was less noticeable on me. That and everyone I asked kept telling me "no way! You don't look it at all!" Which led me to believe there was nothing wrong with the way I was living. But as time went by, it just got harder and harder to look in the mirror and be happy with what I saw. I was tired of being exhausted from climbing up one flight of stairs, and not being able to keep up with my friends. I finally realized that unless I changed, I would continue to be unhappy and probably just get worse.i do so believe gluttony is a sin and it's disgusting. Please don't have a go at me i used to be really fat really overweight and (luckily for me) through illness lost just under 5 stone and it's been since then i've realised what i used to be like..
You can try and encourage people to be healthier (maybe not be so blatant as to call them "disgusting" ''^_^, that would probably just spark a conflict.) Focus more on explaining to them the health benefits, not so much the aspect of being socially-acceptable. But ultimately just try to remember to respect their preferences and don't judge them for how they choose to live. Focus on yourself.0 -
I think it is pretty neat that you posted this; I kind of wonder myself. I have always had a bit of a struggle with weight, but usually once I am about 20 pounds over, I start to feel terrible and that's when I do something about it. I stay within the bounds of what is good for me, as a rule, and I am pretty active. Today, I took a friend to the doctor. She is blind, and very overweight. She has diabetes and was told to watch her diet, and she did for a while, but didn't stick with it. She complained today about it, but it boils down to your own desire to do something about it. Being blind, I'm sure is a terrible obstacle, but she was doing some stationary biking and now is going to get rid of that. She asked me to slow down when we were walking and I was already moving pretty slow. I tried to be encouraging to her, but it's very hard to know exactly what to say. Everyone who is overweight knows it, and for someone to point it out, only makes it worse.0
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