Keeping weight loss a secret?

lin7604

i am also keeping it a secret. I figured it's not a ton that i needed to lose, about 20 lbs so why bother. wait and see if anyone notices it as they all noticed when i was putting on the weight! * sigh*.. i figure i didn't want to hear opinion about it or why, you are small already, etc. i got one day from my inlaws that i was tiny.. i was far from tiny i was overweight for my height of 5ft 2 inches... but to them i was still small... so why bother tell anyone. the only one that knew was my hubby of course as he would know why i am cooking certain things and i weigh all my portions out, etc and my mom. my mom was all for it as she seen i was putting on the weight and i was now over weight for my height...as she's the same height. I have now lost 15 lbs and no one still knows... no one has made any comments, except why i didn't put mayo on my sub, " what are you on a diet"...... i said i'm just trying to make healthier choices, that's all... so we will see if anyone says anything to me once i hit my 20 lb loss... as how can you not notice someone go down 3 sizes????

tajmel

I was keeping it from everyone for almost 2 weeks, I just told my mom yesterday, and hours later she brought over cookies and cake... sigh.

My husband does the same thing. Sigh. There's also the judgement: "Oh, you're on a diet?" *eyes item I'm eating that they think I shouldn't*

Conversely, it's also really uncomfortable having other people try to accommodate me. It really is just easier to keep it to myself.

sbfreak17

It's impossible to keep it a "secret" for long if you're truly dedicated to getting healthy because the physical changes are going to come! Granted, you may not broadcast that you're making lifestyle changes but ultimately, people will notice. I didn't necessarily broadcast it but I didn't "hide" it either...I just made up my mind to do it. I included a few close friends on my decision to really go for it but other than that, it was about me & what I wanted. At this point, people notice so it's hard not to talk about it. Of course, one thing I do avoid is use of the word "dieting" because, to me, this isn't a DIET...I'm on a journey to get healthy which requires lifestyle changes...not fad-"dieting". Some people get it...some people don't ) Regardless, I think you'll ultimately get some motivation once other people start to see results. The "You look great!" or "Oh my! What are you doing?" comments will drive you to push harder...at least that's what they do for me...

isis2triple0

In the beginning I didn't tell anyone except my Mother of course I also have done that in the past and realized people were happy to see me fail so this time I decided to just let the results tell it for me!! At first I got comments like are you loosing weight? Now I have lost so much weight, that those same people( which I'm now currently smaller then) are asking me what I'm doing to loose it!! Aaaaah what a great feeling I tell you!!

yoovie

I kept my efforts a secret. Everyone saw the changes, but i wasnt saying anything about how. Cause it was my life I was changing and none of their business. that was how I knew i was serious. It wasnt until I proved to myself that i was staying with it this time that I started to open up.

Its when you actually realise how precious you are to yourself, and how protective you are of your beginning steps... that you know youve got it and finally understand what it takes.

Thats when you know youve woken up and are ready to live. When its precious to you.

kalyn_QT

I only told select people like my mom, boyfriend, and my best friend.however a few random people have commented that I look smaller, but they don't know I am actively trying. I am not comfortable with anyone else knowing I am trying because it is a long process and I don't need them on my back constantly. Especially since all my friends are all really thin and won't understand the moderation of unhealthy foods rarely because they can eat everything and not gain weight.I am doing this to better myself so I don't feel like telling anyone or having them know.

andcowsfly

I hate telling people and then they respond by telling me how I don't need to or to "look at [me], need to lose weight! Not [you]!" People react strangely and I do better keeping things private myself.

JasmineRose14

I try to keep my weight loss talk on this website and with my husband...I don't want any advice from people are are thin but not "healthy" if that makes sense and they all have tons of advice:)

My thoughts EXACTLY...I out-weigh everyone giving me health tips, but I can also out run them in a marathon or out lift them at the gym... I hate thin-unhealthy people's tips...

ReinasWrath

I kept it a secret as long as I could cuz I didn't want people laughing at me if I failed plus I didn't do it for attention or to talk about anyway. Now though people have noticed I lost weight and ask me about and it turns out its good I never talked to them about it cuz they come at me with stuff like' oh when I wana drop weight I don't eat anything for like a week' :noway:

ncthomas09

My parents are the ones that told me about MFP so at first it was just them and my boyfriend that knew. I work in a hospital and I told a few close coworkers at first (one that helps people with gastric bypass even) and they were super supportive and ask about my progress. Well I had learned to camoflauge my tummy so most people couldn't see the weight I had gained. And with working in a hospital I have to wear scrubs which aren't all that flattering anyway so it also hid the weight.

Then i decided to tell some other people thinking "hey I'm getting some awesome support here" and they came back with "you don't need to lose any weight you look just fine!!". About that time my boyfriend started being not all that supportive because he thought I was starvin myself. After I showed him my food diary his response was "wow you are eating all that and still losing weight!?!? I had no idea! I didn't realize how healthy you were being!". Then he was supportive again after explaining to me his ex tried losing weight but would skip breakfast, eat an apple for lunch and train horses all day in the heat. Then she wouldn't eat dinner or if she did it was another apple because she was too nauseated for anything else. He was worried I was doing the same thing.

Now when I tell people what I'm doing they tell me it's dumb because nobody cares anyway. Ran into this just this last weekend. And keep in mind both people who were telling me this were overweight themselves. Not that I care if they are overweight, and I understand you have to WANT to lose weight to do it. But just because you are comfortable in your body doesn't mean I like mine so don't rain on my parade for being healthy!!!

wftiger

I did for the first while. Then people started noticing what I was eating and my clothes getting baggy. I still won't post anything about it on my Facebook or other sites just for fear of failing (again) and having everyone know I failed.

I figure I will finally totally fess up when I hit goal, then I might even post pictures.

BarbBlue

Thanks everyone, I feel better now knowing that I am not doing something weird in keeping this secret.
I think the secret is helping me keep going. It is making it so I am accountable for myself and only myself.
I also feel that is why I am becoming successful this time and sticking to it this time.

Thanks!!!

morganmay92

in 2010 when I went on my diet I told no one..no even my parents and I lived with them...I felt embarrassed.
Around when I lost 40 pounds they asked me if I was dieting...well relatives and it got a round and it was easier focusing on myself..I lost 85 pounds.

My weight loss got to my head and I got kind of conceited

Now since I gained 13 of it back I lost that confidence...but I started my diet two week ago along with working out I feel better and I am not gonna let it get to my head this time.

Support does help a little for last of the weight you want off.