I keep giving up, what can I do?

Starla_86

I just don't know what the answer is...well I do but mentally it seems unattainable to me. I've recently gained 20 lbs that I know I need to lose now before my weight spirals out of control even more. I lost so much weight about over a year ago, I was feeling fantastic and people were always commenting on what a great job I did, how good I looked and how I did it.
It was easy at the time...I cut back my calories and exercised for about an hour everyday so I know HOW to lose it physically but not mentally.

I don't know what is wrong with me, I wake up feeling all motivated that I can lose the weight but then I fall back into my same patterns of over eating and binging.

Where do I go from here, what is going to make me lose the weight again? I feel like it's hopeless.

spade117

Stop giving up.

Jules2Be

Maybe you are restricting yourself too much..that can really backfire and cause binging and out of control behavior. I checked out your food diary and i really feel like you arent eating enough to keep you going.:flowerforyou:

lildevil968

I don't have anything of value to add to this post, but I wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

shrednyc85

I have SO been there. Thats how I ended up here. The other poster is right - stop giving up. It sounds like you are where I was, just sick of failing and sick of trying and sick of giving up. My advice is just start. Set your alarm for 7am knowing you will wakeup and do X workout (DVD, running, whatever). Put a post-it on your alarm saying "get up!" so you don't shut it off. The biggest motivation for me was the realization that there are MANY workout DVDs out there that are only 30 minutes long. How convenient: you can do them in your home, and 90% of the time people have 30 minutes a day.

You can do it, good luck. Just start!

thetrapezeswinger

Stop giving up.

That is the best advice you'll ever get. There is no magic pill for building confidence or quick solution to maintaining your determination. In my opinion, you must take things one day at a time. I went through the exact same situation, myself. It's difficult for me to face people who remember seeing me forty pounds lighter, but I use it as motivation. Or I should say that I CHOOSE to use it as motivation. It is a choice that I consciously make.

Thinking positive is a choice we all have to consciously make at times, and especially at first, but it will make all the difference.

Now I've got a little tough love for you. You've already acknowledged that you need to make a mental change - so, what is stopping you? Like eating healthy, like working out, thinking positively must become a habit. You messed up? Okay. Own your mistake and use it. Why did you overeat, skip the gym, whatever it was that happened? What can you do next time to prevent it? Pat yourself on the back for realizing - hey, I screwed up, and then making the choice to move forward anyway.

Fail, try again, fail, try again - and stop letting yourself turn a temporary lapse in judgment or effort become a long-term excuse to give up. I have to remind myself of this every single day: "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."

Chin up! You're not alone, and you CAN do this.

nikki_mar

Starla, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Start again today, and if you don't make progress by the end of the day, start again tomorrow and if not that day, start again on Thursday. Forgive me if it seems that I'm hijacking this thread but Spade117, your response shouted to me. 3 simple words but they were powerful to me. STOP GIVING UP!

cookiefluff

it's because you are not eating enough and your body is hungry! You need to feed your body and not go under 1200cal EVER...
If you eat enough then you won't feel hungry enough to binge... Trust me, Ive been there. e-hugs

missfelicia6

I just don't know what the answer is...well I do but mentally it seems unattainable to me. I've recently gained 20 lbs that I know I need to lose now before my weight spirals out of control even more. I lost so much weight about over a year ago, I was feeling fantastic and people were always commenting on what a great job I did, how good I looked and how I did it.
It was easy at the time...I cut back my calories and exercised for about an hour everyday so I know HOW to lose it physically but not mentally.

I don't know what is wrong with me, I wake up feeling all motivated that I can lose the weight but then I fall back into my same patterns of over eating and binging.

Where do I go from here, what is going to make me lose the weight again? I feel like it's hopeless.

Be careful posting on here. Some people are really harsh!
Just filter the good from the bad comments

GenesisandEden

pray

ChristyRunStarr

Holy low calories! That might be part of the problem-why is your limit only 800 calories?! Your body is going to go into starvation mood.

I know what you're feeling but you can do this

raguirre2012

Just always keep yourself motivated and try not to think of the what if's. I am on the same page as you Good luck and dont give up!

tumblyweed

I'll be your huckleberry. Add me for support.

cbeutler

I would try to figure out what derails you, a person, situation, food, type of food, feeling, stress. Once you identify that you will be better able to create a plan that works for you.

placeboaddiction

Maybe you are restricting yourself too much..that can really backfire and cause binging and out of control behavior. I checked out your food diary and i really feel like you arent eating enough to keep you going.:flowerforyou:

This.

My weight loss has been mostly unrestricted. Focused more on protein and protein=feeling full. Feeling starved killed every one of my diets. So I changed my diet into lifestyle and just worry about protein.

_Sara_A_

Have you tried going for walks or taking exercise classes with friends? When some of my friends and I get together for games, or movies, we will each bring something to snack on and it's surprising how fast the veggies and fruit will go. That way you have a support system and it doesn't feel like your in it all by yourself.

carrieo888

Keep starting over every day.
Make small changes to your eating/fitness habits daily, or weekly, or monthly, or whatever helps it happen seamlessly.
Allow yourself to eat everything you like...just less of it.
Allow yourself to NOT clean your plate.
Walk at least 15 minutes every day.
Laugh every day.
Here's something to ponder while you are laughing: If you fall down half a flight of stairs, do you pick yourself up and throw yourself the rest of the way down?

Good luck!

150930

I saw a great poster on Tumblr and it's of a girl running. It says, "If you are tired of starting over, stop giving it." Here is the link -
http://indulgy.com/post/6RHyqcRe91/if-youre-tired-of-starting-over-stop-giving-up

I keep it as my cellphone wallpaper. Keep. Going.

gatorginger

Well first of all don't look at this as a diet, look at it as a life style of changing your eating habits. Don't deprive yourself of your favorite foods but eat them in moderation.

recoiljpr

Stop giving up.

That is the best advice you'll ever get. There is no magic pill for building confidence or quick solution to maintaining your determination. In my opinion, you must take things one day at a time. I went through the exact same situation, myself. It's difficult for me to face people who remember seeing me forty pounds lighter, but I use it as motivation. Or I should say that I CHOOSE to use it as motivation. It is a choice that I consciously make.

Thinking positive is a choice we all have to consciously make at times, and especially at first, but it will make all the difference.

Now I've got a little tough love for you. You've already acknowledged that you need to make a mental change - so, what is stopping you? Like eating healthy, like working out, thinking positively must become a habit. You messed up? Okay. Own your mistake and use it. Why did you overeat, skip the gym, whatever it was that happened? What can you do next time to prevent it? Pat yourself on the back for realizing - hey, I screwed up, and then making the choice to move forward anyway.

Fail, try again, fail, try again - and stop letting yourself turn a temporary lapse in judgment or effort become a long-term excuse to give up. I have to remind myself of this every single day: "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."

Chin up! You're not alone, and you CAN do this.

Probably one of the best things I've read on here and spot on 100% accurate!

emilypurplefrog

1. Don't restrict yourself too much. If you are craving something eat it, but budget your calories and/or get in extra activity to accomodate those cravings. If you deprive yourself you'll often feel guilty and fall off track.

2. Eat fiber rich and protein rich foods (they will help you feel fuller longer)

3. Drink 8 + glasses of water a day (it is recommend that you drink at least one glass of water before you eat to help you eat less and feel fuller)

candice382

Feel free to add me for support. It's not easy. Even once you do get to goal you need support to stay there. That is what I am most afraid of.

Nerdy_Rose

a) eat more. 800 calories per day in nowhere near enough.
b) if you want it bad enough, you'll just do it.
c) unless you legit have a disorder you need counseling for. If so, go get counseling.

lt3ag4s

I have bounced back and forth between 195 and 215lbs three times in the last two years. Try to figure out what caused you to lose focus.

Setbacks are part of life. No matter how many step backs you have taken, it is up to you to make your next step forward..

SarahD59

Something you might try is giving yourself constant visual reminders. Put pictures or quotes on the fridge, on your bathroom mirror, in the office. They can be positive or negative depending on what your respond better do. I'm better when I'm mean to myself. Haha. I literally have post it on my computer at work that says, "Don't be a wuss." (The one on my bathroom mirror at home has more colorful language.)You can post pictures that inspire what you want for yourself or things that remind you that it's a constant fight.

Don't look to the end goal. Just focus on today, and if you mess up today, re-focus tomorrow.

biznoche

it doesn't seem like you "keep giving up." It sounds to me like you keep NOT giving up, since you keep trying. Sometimes even if you are struggling badly with self control and motivation, the fact that you keep trying and keep getting back up after you fall sounds like you are destined to succeed. It may take you a year to lose 10 pounds the way you are doing things now, but just think about it this way: minus 10 pounds by next year? Or giving up and gaining another 20? Stay focused on your goals, but don't beat yourself up for not achieving them with flying colors. Pat yourself on the back for small victories like passing up the cookies you were offered, adding 5 minutes to your work out, getting off the couch on a lazy weekend when you really didn't feel like it, etc. Good luck! Believe in yourself and value your small achievements!

kmm7309

Fall down seven times, stand up eight...

amuchison

Start today and remember you want health and to be fit and drop those 20lbs those r the primary goals but its the choices we make that either get us closer to or further away from those goals you may not like having to make the choice to workout or watch what you eat whatever it is for you but what are the consequences of not doing those things that help you achieve Optimal Health? Do you like how you feel now? NO so set goals and rewards and start this is your journey if you have to affirm to yourself in the mirror everyday how strong you are and that you can do this...write and affirmation of everything you declare you are or you want to be that pertains to your Optimal Health and then read it allowed shout it if you have to...to yourself everymorning through out the day if you have to:) We r all here for you chica keep up the great work...Its a battfield of the mind...you shoudl read that book by Joyce Meyer its good...its all mental once you overcome that you got it in the bag!! But the great thing is the brain is like a muscle exercise it tell it what to do and it remembers so tell yourself over and over who you are and what you will do and you will do it!!:)

kmm7309

I'll be your huckleberry. Add me for support.

We need to be friends. Tombstone is my favorite movie.

Jacwhite22

I just don't know what the answer is...well I do but mentally it seems unattainable to me. I've recently gained 20 lbs that I know I need to lose now before my weight spirals out of control even more. I lost so much weight about over a year ago, I was feeling fantastic and people were always commenting on what a great job I did, how good I looked and how I did it.
It was easy at the time...I cut back my calories and exercised for about an hour everyday so I know HOW to lose it physically but not mentally.

I don't know what is wrong with me, I wake up feeling all motivated that I can lose the weight but then I fall back into my same patterns of over eating and binging.

Where do I go from here, what is going to make me lose the weight again? I feel like it's hopeless.

If you keep giving up maybe you just don't want it bad enough.....Keep getting fatter.....Eventually you will. When you want it bad enough you won't give up.

Tallblondechick

As long as your breathing there is hope......