My Sister Makes Fun of me when I try to be healthy..
SweetMegz04
Posts: 459 Member
She often will say "If you get skinnier than me, I will be so pissed" at first I thought- oh haha, she's kidding.
But then she would start making fun of the things I was doing..
Eating Salad or a low Calorie item when we go out to eat.
Not eating Dessert or having a yogurt instead..
Eating Fruit or Veggies alone instead of chips & dip or added things.
Etc.
But it goes further too..
If she sees, hears or finds out about a guy flirting with me she'll be like "oh they like everyone" or " I bet their gay"
I myself have Self Esteem issues & she knows this. So It's so hard having someone who should be that go to person put you down.
ugh- just needed to vent.
But then she would start making fun of the things I was doing..
Eating Salad or a low Calorie item when we go out to eat.
Not eating Dessert or having a yogurt instead..
Eating Fruit or Veggies alone instead of chips & dip or added things.
Etc.
But it goes further too..
If she sees, hears or finds out about a guy flirting with me she'll be like "oh they like everyone" or " I bet their gay"
I myself have Self Esteem issues & she knows this. So It's so hard having someone who should be that go to person put you down.
ugh- just needed to vent.
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She obviously has some self-estem issues herself. Along with a pinch of sibling rivalry, perhaps. You just have to ignore it and do what you need to do. This is for you, not anyone else. Good for you for making those decisions even if she is not on board. Keep it up and good luck to you.0
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It true she might have some self-estem issues and she might also see that you have the will power to make the right changes in your life which she cant..... let the words not break you but help you with your goal....keep up the great work... stay focused and continue your journey0
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Yeah, she clearly has her own insecurities that she's taking out on you. Can you have a serious talk with her and let her know how her comments are making you feel?0
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i have also had this happen to me, but it would just give me that much more motivation to "get skinnier than her"!0
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I agree, you just need to ignore your sister. She has jealousy or other issues and is taking it out on you. You don't deserve that kind of treatment or abuse so ignore her the best you can!
Your doing the right things by you, for you. You have friends here who can help get you through the rough times and not take pleasure in watching you fail.
Stick with it and use the people here for their stories and advice and before you know it you will hit your goals!0 -
Oh sweet girl, don't let her issues get you down. Recognize it for what it is, and just love her but most importantly love yourself.
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probably a small chance of jealousy juszt ignore her until she sees that yuhr doing it as a life stlye choice 0
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I can tell that it's not me who is making her say these things, I know that it's her own insecurities..
Sadly, I have had to really distance myself from her. We did have a conversation- quite a few times about how much of what she says has an effect on me. Time goes by and then Bam.. another hit! It's just hard to not have her support and constant judgement.0 -
Your sister sounds like a *****. Just use her smart *kitten* remarks to motivate yourself and put in even more effort. Make her eat her words.0
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I have the same problem, but with all my friends. To them I'm the "New, boring Katie"...0
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She obviously has some self-estem issues herself. Along with a pinch of sibling rivalry, perhaps. You just have to ignore it and do what you need to do. This is for you, not anyone else. Good for you for making those decisions even if she is not on board. Keep it up and good luck to you.
I agree!! ^^^0 -
I know how this feels it's a difficult situation and I know it's hard to ignore.
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Don't be Sweet Meg and punch her in the vulva.0
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My sister was the same way. I haven't talked to her in four months. Toxic people will only bring you down. I have found that I am happier without her and without her judgement/drama. It only gets better from here.0
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Don't be Sweet Meg and punch her in the vulva.
I strongly recommend this course of action0 -
I would lovingly confront her about it. Sisters are forever. She needs to correct the behavior now so that your relationship can be healthy and happy. Let her know how it makes you feel, try to get her in your shoes. Maybe come up with a word, a code word that calls the conversation back to her when she says something hurtful. Try to get her to explore WHY she does this. Yeesh, I'm sorry man. I would be really upset if my sister did that to me. How awful. If nothing helps, just keep your distance, like you said.0
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Always remember you have our support even though you may not have her's.
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It's sad when family reacts this way when we are only trying to better ourselves.. My sister, who I dearly love, has an insecure husband who acts similar to this when she starts succeeding in her goals. I think he's threatened by her confidence increases and he usually successfully ruins her progress... I guess he knows that he doesn't deserve her!
As hard as it may be to accept and reduce exposure to these things, it's pretty much the only thing you can do. Keep doing this for you! If she feels like you're doing it TO her instead of for you, it's really her problem, her insecurities. Keep up the good choices and hard work! It will pay off, and maybe she'll get over it, till then, try not to let her get you down.
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SHE. IS. THE. ONE. THAT. IS. INSECURE.
don't let it get to you. the end.0 -
I can tell that it's not me who is making her say these things, I know that it's her own insecurities..
Sadly, I have had to really distance myself from her. We did have a conversation- quite a few times about how much of what she says has an effect on me. Time goes by and then Bam.. another hit! It's just hard to not have her support and constant judgement.
It sounds like you're handling this well. I was about to suggest that you start to distance yourself from her - no one of any size deserves to be berated like that.0 -
Ignore her! She has issues herself. All my life I was compared to my 2 sisters they were much thinner and more shapely than I. Now both out weigh me and I am heavy. You do what you need to do to make yourself feel and look better. The only person you have to please is you.0
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Oh sweet girl, don't let her issues get you down. Recognize it for what it is, and just love her but most importantly love yourself.
Best advice I've seen on this forum.0 -
Sounds like she has huge self esteem issues. Don't listen to her and do your own thing... Maybe she will hop on board.
When my girlfriend asked me to join her running/eating healthy last year I said 'hell ya becuase if you get thin and I am still fat I will be pissed' I really meant it, but I got off my *kitten* and did something about it... I joined her and we both have succeeded... I had no self esteem back then, I sure do now.0 -
I think most women have encountered a freind or family member like this in our lives. She's definitely got self-esteem issues and doesn't want you to get more attention than her...which is HER problem (not yours).
Good luck with your own journey though, and don't let anyone bring you down! I'm sure you're going to blow her away with your results :drinker:0 -
What they all said!!! We are here for you. Use what she says to drive you harder and further. Don't let her get you down!0
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Sorry your sister isn't there for you. You don't have to be lonely though with all these potential great friends here at MFP ready to listen AND cheer you on. Congratulations on having the courage to step out of the family box and make your own healthy life!
Best wishes!!!0 -
She often will say "If you get skinnier than me, I will be so pissed" at first I thought- oh haha, she's kidding.
But then she would start making fun of the things I was doing..
Eating Salad or a low Calorie item when we go out to eat.
Not eating Dessert or having a yogurt instead..
Eating Fruit or Veggies alone instead of chips & dip or added things.
Etc.
But it goes further too..
If she sees, hears or finds out about a guy flirting with me she'll be like "oh they like everyone" or " I bet their gay"
I myself have Self Esteem issues & she knows this. So It's so hard having someone who should be that go to person put you down.
ugh- just needed to vent.
I call this motivation! Stick it to her, every time you wanna quit or slip up and eat badly use her mouth as fuel for your fire. I used to think of my ex when I needed to stoke my fire, and man I could jog forever thinking of how pissed I was, I worked it out and was a better person for it.0 -
its called sabotage, try to ignore her...she is the one with the issues0
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That is not right. She should not, should not, SHOULD NOT do this to you. I don't think you should punch her in the vulva, but I'd definitely have a serious discussion with her and make sure she understands how she's acting. Sometimes people just don't know what they are doing or how they make other people feel. She's your sister but she should know that her actions are jeopardizing the relationship. Good luck and hugs. I hope she comes around.0
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Dang. She said that a dude has to be gay to like you?0
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