Guys can you help me out? Nurturing relationships?????
Alluring72
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For the first time in my life I feel like I am in a "healthy" relationship and a friend of mine suggested that I take the time to "nurture" the relationship. I have general ideas about this, but would love input from you Guys out there. What does you SO do to nurture your relationship that you are very thankful for or what do you wish your SO would do to nurture your relationship??????
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Ask your significant other what he would like- don't ask other males. (Sorry- I'm a female). But I am happily married 29 years...
Good luck to you and congrats for finding a healthy relationship!0 -
lots of sexy time.0
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Show an interest in his hobbies..but don't try to take them over.0
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B.J.....end/0
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ask your other half what he would want to do to nurture the relationship, maybe more dates or day trips together maybe a romantic holiday, ive recently moved in with my Fiancé i dropped everything to move into his place and his country ( he is from the Netherlands and i from the UK)
so yeah discuss it with him im sure he would love to plan some stuff with you to help the relationship progress
goodluck x
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trust and be trustworthy
be honest and ask for honesty
be yourself (warts and all) and encourage your SO to be themselves
treat others as you would want to be treated.
ignore psycho-babble relationship advice0 -
i like how my girlfriend is so helpful and relized this after she almost died had a big scare just the other day i was comming home for lunch and when i opened the door i heard her making strange sounds thank god the cable guy was in there he was holding her from behind and giving her what i later found out through her was the heimlich maneuver i mean he was really trying too almost lifting her off the floor with each thrust he apparenty disloged it cuz i heard her saying oh god oh god it musta been frightening for her to pray like that , mannn he was such a nice guy too not only did he save her life he gave me 328 free channels of cable , mannn you dont find good people like that ever day0
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something people often forget,
treat your partner with the same respect and politeness you would anyone else.
say thank you, please, ask if they would like, would mind, will need.
smile, ask how their day was, say good morning and good night.
people forget that these little things matter, that they stop people feeling like they're being taken for granted. these little things done every day mean more than any grand gesture or romantic scheme. these things are the foundadtions on which healthy relationships are built.0 -
*punked*0
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one thing I learned from my parents, if you both take care of and spoil the other, both get taken care of and spoiled. Too many people seem to look out only for themselves in a relationship, if you each only take care of your own needs, you both still get taken care of, but there isnt that lovey feeling. And if someone isnt taking care of you, above themselves, or you the same, reevaluate the relationship.0
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Taking the time to speak your partner's "language" is important... In other words, figuring out what makes him feel loved, and doing that. For you, it may be verbal affection. For him, it may be physical intimacy or spending quality time together or getting gifts or leaving little notes or something else. I always have good results when I figure out what makes another person feel loved (it's usually different than things that make ME feel loved) and spending the time to make them feel appreciated in the way that is most significant to them as an individual.0
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one thing I learned from my parents, if you both take care of and spoil the other, both get taken care of and spoiled. Too many people seem to look out only for themselves in a relationship, if you each only take care of your own needs, you both still get taken care of, but there isnt that lovey feeling. And if someone isnt taking care of you, above themselves, or you the same, reevaluate the relationship.
This absolutely works... But only if you're in the RIGHT relationship. If you're in the wrong one, putting your partner's needs and wants above your own makes you feel resentful and neglected. If you're in the right one, it's like a self-renewing energy source I love seeing people who have relationships like this. 0 -
thankyou soooo much for your concern apparently the cable guy is just part time she says he is really a nurse and shes been going there three times a week for treatment , free of charge if you can believe that mannnnn such good people in this world
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did she get checked out by a doc/nurse after? it's a life saving move but carries a small risk of causing internal injuries. a lot of people aren't aware of this. glad to hear she was ok!
/hijack.
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Men are easy.
Steak and a BJ0 -
one thing I learned from my parents, if you both take care of and spoil the other, both get taken care of and spoiled. Too many people seem to look out only for themselves in a relationship, if you each only take care of your own needs, you both still get taken care of, but there isnt that lovey feeling. And if someone isnt taking care of you, above themselves, or you the same, reevaluate the relationship.
This absolutely works... But only if you're in the RIGHT relationship. If you're in the wrong one, putting your partner's needs and wants above your own makes you feel resentful and neglected. If you're in the right one, it's like a self-renewing energy source I love seeing people who have relationships like this.
I agree the relationship has to be right for it to work out like that, but I personally could stand anything less after seeing it work out. My parents still go on dates, hold hands and make out like teenagers, but they also vacation separately at least once a year, have separate friend circles etc. I told my husband when we were first getting serious to pay attention to my parents, I wanted someone who loved me like my dad loves my mom; that didnt scare him away lol0 -
stroke their ego once in awhile.0
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i like how my girlfriend is so helpful and relized this after she almost died had a big scare just the other day i was comming home for lunch and when i opened the door i heard her making strange sounds thank god the cable guy was in there he was holding her from behind and giving her what i later found out through her was the heimlich maneuver i mean he was really trying too almost lifting her off the floor with each thrust he apparenty disloged it cuz i heard her saying oh god oh god it musta been frightening for her to pray like that , mannn he was such a nice guy too not only did he save her life he gave me 328 free channels of cable , mannn you dont find good people like that ever day
oh lawd...I can see how this went over some heads...lol0 -
did she get checked out by a doc/nurse after? it's a life saving move but carries a small risk of causing internal injuries. a lot of people aren't aware of this. glad to hear she was ok!i like how my girlfriend is so helpful and relized this after she almost died had a big scare just the other day i was comming home for lunch and when i opened the door i heard her making strange sounds thank god the cable guy was in there he was holding her from behind and giving her what i later found out through her was the heimlich maneuver i mean he was really trying too almost lifting her off the floor with each thrust he apparenty disloged it cuz i heard her saying oh god oh god it musta been frightening for her to pray like that , mannn he was such a nice guy too not only did he save her life he gave me 328 free channels of cable , mannn you dont find good people like that ever day
/hijack.
I think something just flew over your head, oh wait it was his response.0 -
For the first time in my life I feel like I am in a "healthy" relationship and a friend of mine suggested that I take the time to "nurture" the relationship. I have general ideas about this, but would love input from you Guys out there. What does you SO do to nurture your relationship that you are very thankful for or what do you wish your SO would do to nurture your relationship??????
If it's not broke, don't fix it.0 -
Men are easy.
Steak and a BJ
Isn't that only on March 14th?0 -
Men are easy.
Steak and a BJ
Some men are just a wee bit more complex than that.0 -
Nurturing relationships?
Can I be blunt without coming off as creepy or trollish?
I don't need, require or desire nurturing but steady, rip roaring sex.
That's all the nurturing I need.
I realize ladies need more, so I send or bring flowers twice per month and leave stupid notes around with little things like "thinking of you" or "you are my sunshine"...and on and on....
It takes effort and what is absurd and irrelevant to me is the world to her.
Anyway, that's my take.
Maybe some guys are different.....:bigsmile:0 -
Um. I don't even know wtf this means. If it's going well and you're happy, why does it need to change?0
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i like how my girlfriend is so helpful and relized this after she almost died had a big scare just the other day i was comming home for lunch and when i opened the door i heard her making strange sounds thank god the cable guy was in there he was holding her from behind and giving her what i later found out through her was the heimlich maneuver i mean he was really trying too almost lifting her off the floor with each thrust he apparenty disloged it cuz i heard her saying oh god oh god it musta been frightening for her to pray like that , mannn he was such a nice guy too not only did he save her life he gave me 328 free channels of cable , mannn you dont find good people like that ever day
oh lawd...I can see how this went over some heads...lol
Bha ha ha - ya. I can see that too - FUNNY BOY!!! You CrAzY!0 -
Nurturing relationships?
Can I be blunt without coming off as creepy or trollish?
I don't need, require or desire nurturing but steady, rip roaring sex.
That's all the nurturing I need.
I realize ladies need more, so I send or bring flowers twice per month and leave stupid notes around with little things like "thinking of you" or "you are my sunshine"...and on and on....
It takes effort and what is absurd and irrelevant to me is the world to her.
Anyway, that's my take.
Maybe some guys are different.....:bigsmile:
Pretty much sums it up Bobby.0 -
Huh?Taking the time to speak your partner's "language" is important... In other words, figuring out what makes him feel loved, and doing that. For you, it may be verbal affection. For him, it may be physical intimacy or spending quality time together or getting gifts or leaving little notes or something else. I always have good results when I figure out what makes another person feel loved (it's usually different than things that make ME feel loved) and spending the time to make them feel appreciated in the way that is most significant to them as an individual.
ZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzz:yawn:
I need my woman to talk less and undress more.....simple deal.
Let's not make relationships more complicated that we need to. You start in with a bunch of psycho-babble, and he might just pack up and GO!0 -
Show an interest in his hobbies..but don't try to take them over.
This, and this.
And these: Don't create problems where there aren't any. Be yourself. And leave a little room for each other to do things on your own.0 -
Taking the time to speak your partner's "language" is important... In other words, figuring out what makes him feel loved, and doing that. For you, it may be verbal affection. For him, it may be physical intimacy or spending quality time together or getting gifts or leaving little notes or something else. I always have good results when I figure out what makes another person feel loved (it's usually different than things that make ME feel loved) and spending the time to make them feel appreciated in the way that is most significant to them as an individual.
Have you read that Love Languages book? sounds like it. that is a really great book for the question the OP is asking. It's by... Gary Chapman, I think?0 -
Guys are veery responsive to physical intimacy. I am not saying drop your pants every five seconds. Many men just like a kiss on the cheek for no reason or you coming and sitting next to us when we're reading/watching tv/smoking some crack....0
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...how about something simple, like taking time to plan out a date night...and take turns doing it.
It makes taking time out just for us a special time for us to be together, alone, doing something we like, to
temporarily forget about all of our other responsibilities, just for a while. And end the night with some cuddle time.0
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