The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...

Chillyw

"When are you going to stop?"
Seriously...why would I stop?

Lol I get this too. Even though I've lost a lot of weight, I still have a lot of body fat to drop. I've had people tell me my goal weight, and which is in the normal bmi range, is too small! Really?

MFPBrandy

So a couple of days ago I went out to lunch with a friend. He complimented me about how much weight I have lost and then he said. "Your not going to become cocky, are you?" I said that I hadn't planed on it, but why would you ask? He replied, well you know, when people loose a bunch of weight they think their better than everyone and become super cocky. That was really one of the first uncomfortable conversations I have had about my weight loss....and still don't know how to take it. He may have some jealousy issues.....

Might be jealous...or could be sick of OTHER people criticizing his food & exercise choices, and is cringing and hoping you don't start doing the same. A lot of people, when they're newly "converted" to a lifestyle, religion, diet, fad--heck, a new favorite book!--can get really pushy about it without realizing it. And some people really do change friends, either because they do become cocky or simply because the activities and habits they shared with their old friends just don't translate to their new healthier lifestyle, and the friendship isn't strong enought to make the transition.
So maybe he's jealous, maybe he's afraid you'll make him feel worse about his choices...but maybe he's also just worried about losing a friend.

MFPBrandy

I don't even have an answer. No one has ever really acknowledged my weight loss though I've lost over 80 pounds since last year. :ohwell:

80 pounds?!? That's awesome! And there's no way that's gone unnoticed. Perhaps the people in your life are just trying to avoid some of the insensitive comments we've seen in this thread. Great job!

SuzyDay1

People used to tell me "You carry your weight well" and "I can't believe you have more then 10 pounds to lose". I guess they thought it would make me feel better when I was down about it not coming off fast enough...

MFPBrandy

I have been having the opposite experince! My step dad is an older man, and is overweight so therefore suffers from diabetes, high cholesterol, high blood pressure etc. etc. and no matter how many times the doctor has insisted that he needs to lose weight, he just doesn't seem to care about himself and eats whatever etc. So, I thought, I do NOT want to end up like him. So I decided to do something about it. I've only been using Myfitnesspal for a week and a half but it makes me realise! So, my step dad says things to me about my weight and that but they're always insults never compliments (probably just because he's jealous!) His recent comment was, 'can't you just accept the fact your going to be a horse all your life'. It's really horrible what he says and it really upsets me, but at the same time, it also gives me the motivation to prove him wrong and to one day say, remember that time I was overweight.... Look at me now! Cannot wait for this day! He's an A**hole

Oh, honey -- you need to block that man from your mind, if you can't block him from your life (sounds like you might still be living at home for a bit yet?). No one should be calling you a horse, let alone trying to convince you that it's your destiny. He's lashing out at you because you make him see his own failings. Ignore him, and get as far away from him as possible. Stay strong!

RWIlliams8505

:happy:

Hi all, I'm a new memeber here on myfitnesspal.com. Plus I have the app! I'm here to make friends and lose weight. I eat healthy and workout an hour a day!!!

MFPBrandy

I think the worst thing said to me during my progress was about three months ago...when my relationship imploded...

as my now ex was walking out the door he said

"you know if you hadn't lost that weight we would still be together"

:noway:

excuse me? I better not have heard you right.

Lauren

Lauren, he is clearly a tool and you are far better off without him.

bllowry

I work mostly from home, so I do get a reaction at times when I pop in to the office.

Lender person: "Are you losing the baby weight?" Me: "um no, our youngest was born in 1977, I'm just working on being healthy" :ohwell:

Same dipwad later in the day: "You know if you lose too much weight your face will be really wrinkled once you turn 40." Apparently maths are not her strong suit since our son will be 35 in November :laugh:

This past week at a funeral home a distant relative walked up and said "Wow you've lost so much weight you look hot; let me see your butt." My husband rolled his eyes and said its time for Karl to go back to rehab... again.

Josephina57

I think one of the things I'm not prepared for is getting attention from people who would never have looked twice at my heavy self.

this,

It ticks me off.

Why would this anger anybody?
Attraction is just nature's expression of the pro-creative instinct.
Of course you'll get more attention the more weight you lose.
That is to be expected.
Welcome to the human race.:drinker:

well bobby, let me try to explain it to you. Since both the posters you quoted were both women. Now, even though I've been happily married for 11 years and probably reasonably "trained"...haha....please feel free ladies to correct me if I'm in error here.....when women don't get attention from men because they are heavy (as in the first poster) and then they lose weight and start getting attention, the feeling is they don't have any worth unless they have a nice hot body. They don't feel respected or that they don't have worth as a human being other than just someone who looks good. They want to be valued as a "whole" person who has value way beyond just their physical appearance. This is where the anger comes from. If I'm not nice to look at, then I have no value. When all of us, men and women, have much more to offer and are much more valuable than just our physical appearance. Hope that clear its up for ya.

While your statement might be theoretically "true" in the abstract, Its male thinking. Which is normal because you are in fact a man, unless your profile pic is a complete lie.

You're wife is a lucky woman.

NWCountryGal

First, I think there are a lot of people that have no skill at being genuine, caring people. The craziest thing I hear is "you don't need to lose any weight" so then I show them my "bikini" photos and it shuts them right up, LOLLLLLLLLLLL!! I have a small build with all or much of it in my mid section, very easy to hide, but not from myself:)

Hang in there and sounds you are doing awesome!! Lot's of support here for you too:)

I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.

It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?

When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"

Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!

My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.

What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?

eig6

Why the complains about what people say?
They notice your progress.
Just be glad they did not say what they were thinking before the weight loss.
Be VERY glad :drinker:

Because of the level of condescension that comes along with the commentary provided by others. They don't really need to say what they thought about us before we lost weight, because the attitude and tone of their comments makes it clear that they've waited AGES to tell us what they really thought of us. When you've lost weight, it becomes open season on your former self. When you haven't lost enough weight to believe you're changing for good, those demeaning comments about your former self cut deep. Once they realize that you've recognized that you're overweight (because they assume you're entirely unaware of your size), then they really want to make it known that they've already thought at great length about EXACTLY the plan you should follow to get to the size they deem appropriate.

Wow, really?
Are people really this thin-skinned?
BUCK UP FOLKS!
Crybabies don't get very far in life.

Neither do jerks.

Robin_Bin

...
The craziest thing said to me was, after I had lost 25 lbs, three people came up to me on the same day and said, "Did you get a haircut?"

I find that kind of thing is pretty common. You change something about the way you look. People recognize that something's different, but they can't figure out what, so they make some funny guesses.
For instance, I get my hair cut and someone asks if I got new glasses. I wear my contacts, and someone asks if I lost weight. etc...

LunaPhaedra

I had something like that when I first started losing weight. I got really excited when my second weigh-in showed I lost 5lbs (after 5 weeks, of course )and told my family about it. My sister gave me this weird stare and said "You aren't starving yourself, are you?" I actually started laughing at this because I was still eating junk foods like burgers combos and pasta on a regular basis. I know, not the healthiest things to have, but aside from that it seems funny that people automatically think in order to lose weight you have to take drugs/surgery or have an eating disorder.

Going4Lean

I always heard from my family that i should stop starving myself and i kept telling them i was not starving myself, but they did not want to hear it.

pavshop

For up to the first 70 pounds. "What have you done with your hair?" "I love your hairstyle! "" Did you change the color of your hair. " Now at 90 + pounds, in more revealing summer clothes. . ."I hate you, you are dead to me!", (in jest from an obviously jealous person), "Your face looks so thin" (What about my rear end?) "What are you doing to lose weight?" My standard answer. . ."Eating less, moving more"

The comments I appreciate most. "Good for you!" " You look great!" "You must feel terrific"

vintagesquirrel

I love hearing "Wow, I don't even recognize you!"

Although when they ask how I've done it, and I tell them I had surgery I hate when they're like "Oh, so the cheater way then."

Excuse me? I have completely changed my entire lifestyle. The surgery is a tool, and like a hammer I still have to work to wield it. I watch what I'm eating, make sure I'm taking the appropriate vitamins, making sure I am drinking enough etc....

Not to mention the MAJOR complications I went through. Long story short, there is no "cheating" about it. There is nothing "easy" about it either. I have had to mentally rewire myself... because just because my stomach capacity is physically smaller does not mean my brain wants chocolate cake any less.

That and I exercise every week, and I have been rewarded with significant weight loss. I underwent the surgery because my weight got out of control, and I couldn't get it back under control on my own. So with countless months of preparation with my surgeon and dieting, counseling and weekly nutritionist visits, (the 3 months I was in the hospital with complications) and my ongoing commitment to change... I have earned my weight loss.

Although now I just stop telling anyone that I had surgery. I just smile and tell them its a mix of anorexia and bulimia. I get far less judgement that way, and people stfu.

80zgrl

MIne too has been people asking me what pill I was on. For some reason they had a hard time accepting that I dropped 90 pounds by simple diet and exercise. I try to tell them all the time that I didn't start a diet I changed my life, but they still want to know what the magic pill was. Now I say water, veggies and lots of sunshine

The cutest for me was my grandma when she saw me last year she was impressed with my weight loss and then expressed concern over how skinny I looked. She gently tapped my leg and said Honey you look too thin, come with me I'm gonna make you a sandwich. LOL I laugh because I know that she is just being who she is and she is grandma and tends to worry a lot. So even though I would have declined that from someone else I allowed that to be my cheat for the week and let her 'tend' to her granddaughter LOL

Sandwiches made by our Grandma (Nana) are always the best. Made with love and care which makes it taste so much better.

daoc1972

Now that I am pregnant, whenever I go out to eat with friends, if i refuse cakes or second helpings, they are like, its okay to eat them, your pregnant, you need to gain weight. I'm like ya I need to gain weight, but i don't need to sabotage myself and gain 80lbs! whenever they ask me, well how much weight have you gained, and then I tell them, they are like well thats nothing! I'm like yes its plenty. LOL. I have gained 3lbs MORE than the recommended at my stage (3.5months pregnant and I gained 8lbs)

really? how much does a one or two pound fetus need to grow? Pregnant ladies do not need to "eat for two," especially if "two" is interpreted as "two fully grown people." So, pass on the cake and send over the fruits and veggies.

I was six or seven months along, obviously pregnant, and a lady commented "Oh, have you been losing weight?" I was dumbstruck! She knew I was pregnant. After a moment, I told her "Thank you, but if anything, I've been gaining weight throughout my PREGNANCY. {awkward chuckle}"

MirrorsBrokeHearts

My parents think I'm anorexic.
And they are on the right...

gertudejekyl

people are so damn dumb...they need constant instruction.... :indifferent: