The crazy things people say when you are losing weight...
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when I was fat I frequently was told 'you need to lose weight' I can see you had a wonderful christmas' and 'what happened to you?'
Now I have lost weight I was told a few days ago 'I do hope you are not going to lose anymore weight!, you are looking ill'
can't win! :laugh:0 -
I always get, "what's your secret" too! There is no secret people. We eat healthy AND exercise daily. It is pretty simple.
What is disturbing is that I have an obese co-worker who tries to avoid me now. She will barely talk to me, and hides from me. We used to get along just fine. I'm not sure why I have to make an effort to be nice to her, to say hello, etc. She just won't say anything to me anymore unless I initiate. I haven't said one word to her about my weight loss, and she mentioned it only once. She asked me what my secret was, and I told her exercise and diet. She said "see I want to eat brownies." I laughed and said, "well, an occasional brownie is fine." She said, "I can't give up cheese." I said "I know. It's not easy, but I have gotten used to it." After that, she hasn't mentioned anything and won't talk to me unless I pin her down. It's weird.
I did this for my health because I had metabolic syndrome, and not to make others feel bad!!
Maybe she is ashamed for not being as strong as you, or maybe she thinks you are one of them (the skinny people) and doesn't feel confident that you would like her company.0 -
Mine was my boyfriends mum saying to my bf, "you better watch it now she's lost all this weight she'll be leaving you. "
I just smiled but thought WTF are you talking about woman.0 -
Mine was my boyfriends mum saying to my bf, "you better watch it now she's lost all this weight she'll be leaving you. "
I just smiled but thought WTF are you talking about woman.
My mom said something similar, "You lose all this weight and you'll be too sexy for your boyfriend." Um...I'll still love him regardless of what I look like. Silly goose. :laugh:0 -
I've been starting to get the "when are you going to stop" and "you're too skinny" comments, followed by offhanded remarks about needing to eat fried foods more?...
Umm no!
I will stop when I am ready and I'm only 8 lbs from maintenance. Even then, I won't technically "stop", I'll be logging so I can stay accountable and stay at that healthy weight.
And I'm quite far from too skinny...0 -
This bothers me too, when I think that many people would treat me in a better way when I weigh less. Like the comments (I am happily single) you're getting ready to get back "out there". As though I am not good enough now, and it's not okay to be single and happy.. Least it quickly lets people reveal how they truly think.0
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I'm getting the same thing that a lot of people seem to be getting, "What diet are you on?" and it's usually asked by people at work who want to lose a ton of weight too, but don't want to actually work hard at it all. Like if there were some miracle pill that made me lose 20 pounds overnight while double-fisting chocolate milkshakes, I wouldn't have found it by now. Haha0
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I have people at my work thinking that this is a diet I'm on! The thing about it is, this app has helped me get my mojo back! Some people don't have to monitor and keep track of what they eat to stay honest to themselves! I need to see in black and white what I have each day. People don't understand that change in ones life is necessary and I for one feel fantastic and only starting week 3 on Monday! Some people just don't want to see you better yourself for their own personal agenda! I for one am strong willed, and could care less about what one thinks of my weight loss! This app is getting my son, my dog and I out for walks everyday. All I think about is walking or jogging after work!! I went from wondering "what wine to drink tonight" to wondering "which trail will I try today"!! :happy:0
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So I haven't heard too much on my weight loss other than your looking good. My husband on the other hand likes to tell me what to eat and such. like: "should you be eating that?", "that's not good for you", "why are you eating that if your trying to lose weight?"
Every once and a while I have a treat as long as it's with in my calories i don't see why he makes such a big deal...he's not doing what I'm doing and he's not me, he doesn't get to say what i can or can not eat.
I can relate to this! My husband will do the same thing, but I know he does it with good intentions... He's really disciplined and when he sets his mind to something it gets done , come hell or high water , he kills it... he can't comprehend why it's so hard for me to stay on task and follow through with my goal... He doesn't take into consideration that I have A.D.D. and that his goal is the opposite of mine... I want to lose weight, he tries to gain the weight.. he bodybuilds...so different goals! lol.. ohwell at least he tries to support me!
My bf does the same thing and I know he means it nice, but omg! I am stressed to the max and when he is eating what ever he wants but gets on me about my meals it drives me up the wall. Neither of us have time to cook right now. Our entire lives hang in the balance of a single exam and it is a big deal we have spent months studying and years going to school so cut me a bit of slack if I need a snack! He tries bless his heart but he can't find the balance of being supporting and being controlling.0 -
Someone said "you look like you've lost a lot of weight..........have you been sick?" wth? No but thanks for noticing I guess0
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Why would this anger anybody?
this,I think one of the things I'm not prepared for is getting attention from people who would never have looked twice at my heavy self.
It ticks me off.
Attraction is just nature's expression of the pro-creative instinct.
Of course you'll get more attention the more weight you lose.
That is to be expected.
Welcome to the human race.:drinker:
well bobby, let me try to explain it to you. Since both the posters you quoted were both women. Now, even though I've been happily married for 11 years and probably reasonably "trained"...haha....please feel free ladies to correct me if I'm in error here.....when women don't get attention from men because they are heavy (as in the first poster) and then they lose weight and start getting attention, the feeling is they don't have any worth unless they have a nice hot body. They don't feel respected or that they don't have worth as a human being other than just someone who looks good. They want to be valued as a "whole" person who has value way beyond just their physical appearance. This is where the anger comes from. If I'm not nice to look at, then I have no value. When all of us, men and women, have much more to offer and are much more valuable than just our physical appearance. Hope that clear its up for ya.
While your statement might be theoretically "true" in the abstract, Its male thinking. Which is normal because you are in fact a man, unless your profile pic is a complete lie.
Ohhh please, take a bow! Eleven years of marriage, 'trained' or 'untrained' - YES!
I too can relate to pretty much everything mentioned thus far.
I'm carrying a debilitating back injury, so can no longer train and work out intensively like I used to. I get that people are trying to help me in my journey with their 'suggestions' but people, I'm the only one who knows my body's limits.
Three and a half years ago, when I lost around 15kg and was still medically overweight (I'm 156cm or 5'1"), I got told if I lost any more I'd fade away.
At uni the other day, I was offered chocolate. I politely declined, and declared that I had lost 6kg since April through dedication and moderation. I was asked if I had tried to to this. Um, yes, I did try, and it's worked. I don't not have treats but I try not to have them too often.
Yesterday I was told I would never be a size 8 or a size 10. I was mortified by this comment. It was made by someone who had lap band surgery. I corrected them and told them that it was not impossible, that I was always big as a child, and then I was a size 10 (because I worked damned hard) just before my 16th birthday.
I know it's not going to happen overnight, but it will happen. I am determined.0 -
I too can relate to pretty much everything mentioned thus far.
I'm carrying a debilitating back injury, so can no longer train and work out intensively like I used to. I get that people are trying to help me in my journey with their 'suggestions' but people, I'm the only one who knows my body's limits.
Three and a half years ago, when I lost around 15kg and was still medically overweight (I'm 156cm or 5'1"), I got told if I lost any more I'd fade away.
At uni the other day, I was offered chocolate. I politely declined, and declared that I had lost 6kg since April through dedication and moderation. I was asked if I had tried to to this. Um, yes, I did try, and it's worked. I don't not have treats but I try not to have them too often.
Yesterday I was told I would never be a size 8 or a size 10. I was mortified by this comment. It was made by someone who had lap band surgery. I corrected them and told them that it was not impossible, that I was always big as a child, and then I was a size 10 (because I worked damned hard) just before my 16th birthday.
I know it's not going to happen overnight, but it will happen. I am determined.
That's great
You can achieve all of that if you are persistent and determined to Not even doctors can tell you what dress size you'll be when you're at a healthy weight, so don't listen to this person.
most annoying comments:
"you seem so stressed, it must be that diet you are on." .....errr no, I'm "so stressed" because I have PTSD and the exercise is actually helping and I'm also concerned about the effect all the stress hormones in my system is having on my body, so I'm trying to counteract that with healthy eating and exercise..... (I didn't actually say that though, because I don't see why I should have to explain my psychiatric history in order to justify myself to people who don't know anything about either nutrition or psychology)
"it's okay to break your diet once in a while" - yes that's true except a) it's not a diet it's a lifestyle change and b) if I broke my "diet" every time someone offered me junk food it'd become a lifestyle change in the wrong direction...!!
Then you get people who act like I'm some kind of crazy diet extremist health fanatic because I say "no thank you" to donuts and other deep fried stuff rather than eating them.
The funniest one was someone who I'd never met before, who saw me eating an apple and asked me if I was on a diet. Just because I was eating an apple. Apparently people who are not on diets don't eat apples....???
And there's people who seem to think you're only saying no out of some kind of obligation and that you really want the food, and keep insisting.... except I actually don't want it. I've taken to telling people that I have a policy whereby I only eat unhealthy food if I'm really going to enjoy it, and I'm not in the mood for it right now, so no. That generally works 0 -
I have lost 28 lbs and only 1 person has remarked on it!! Yet when my husband lost weight everyone we met said what a lot of weight he had lost. Very disheartening :sad:0
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" dont you think your skinny enough yet", i think its ironic coming from someone who claims to be losing weight but hadnt lost a pound- continuing to stuff thier face- and said that to me with a scolding angry attitude.....im sorry whos got the problem here? not me...anymore:laugh:0
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Today I told my mom about starting to lose weight again and that I had lost 7 lbs in 2 weeks. She said to me, "I'm happy you're starting to care about yourself." I know she meant well and she is genuinely happy for me, but when she said it it kind of made it sound like I didn't care about myself to begin with? I did, lol I just wasn't ready to commit to fitness and a healthier lifestyle.0
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Coworker, "Don't lose weight your weight suits you."
LOTS of people, "How much are you going to lose?" Me, "About 100 pounds give or take." Them, O.O "OMG that's too much!" Me, "No, it's really really not. I weighed 240 when I started."
*****y ex-manager, "HOW are you doing it?" Me, "I watch what I eat, exercise when I can. Use MFP to track my food, exercise, weight etc." Her "Oh I'm MUCH too busy for all that," with the tone implication that I'm some spoiled Stepford Wife. *****, I got two jobs (60 hours a week), two kids one two and one 12 months (she also has special needs). I don't HAVE time I MAKE time.
And this is not so much weightloss but still just made me go WUT. Date, (on my getting a breast reduction after my weight loss... informed him about my back problems too), "Oh let's wait for that! Might enjoy those a bit too much." That was my first and last date with him. Way to go for being classy.. oh, and concerned about the HEALTH of your potential mate. Good job dude.0 -
I heard a bunch of different things...
How are you doing it?
What made you decide you needed to lose?
You want to lose HOW MUCH more? You look great now.
But everytime people actually compliment me, earnestly, I say "Thank you, I've worked very hard to become so" and see if they get the Princess Bride reference.0 -
One thing that has been weird for me, and particularly there is one individual that does it, is someone who is bigger than I am making such a fuss about how "skinny" I am and "just look at you, you're so skinny now" and "how much more your you going to lose cause you're so skinny, you are going to fly away". I'm not skinny, medically speaking I'm still overwieght, so I don't know what to say and it makes me uncomfortable when I know it comes from someone who is "trying" to lose weight but has all sorts of excuses why it isn't working or they can't. I just try to find a way to politely say thanks and get away as fast as I can.
Yeah this. All the time.0 -
My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.
What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?
Wow! I would definitely give a smart-*kitten* remark to that comment!
I haven't had any crazy comments yet, but getting crazy looks when they find out how quickly I lost so much weight by eating a balanced diet instead of a fad diet. I keep getting asked, "What kind of diet are you on?"0 -
The "dont get too skinny" comments used to happen to me when I was alot thinner and worried about gaining.
( usually between 130-140 pounds)
Because people who are WAY bigger than that, think that's thin.
Now I am 155 and WISH I were 130-140.
But I also know what it's like to be near 200.
Its all relative.
Bottom line is, you have to lose weight for YOURSELF andf no one else.
NO ONE can control your body but you!!!
BEST WISHES TO ALL..
Whether it's maintainence, Weight loss BIG or small.0 -
ALSO:
they tell you that it's important to tell people you are losing weight and on a diet/lifestyle change
but that doesnt always help.
I find it easier NOT to tell anyone in my life.
And simply use online resources
Less pressure.
People start telling you HOW to eat, HOW much to LOSE and talk waaaaaaay too much about weight and your body once you tell them.
PLUS when you cheat or go off the wagon they make you feel like the BIGGEST LOSER and not in a good way.0 -
"I liked you better when you were fatter than me." -very good friend
Um... Thanks? If our friendship hinges on that, I think we should see other people.
Wow...frienemy....0 -
I have mostly gotten compliments, but the most popular comment has been, 'What kind of pills are you taking?' 'You can stop losing weight now' and 'What size do you wear?'
When people just 'out the blue' throw out meant comments to you, it's because they are miserable themselves and they are trying to share that misery. When they look at me, they see what they can do and that will either inspire them or insult them.
I take the all in stride and smile..0 -
The craziest comment I've gotten is "Oh you're losing weight? I didn't notice...."
:huh: what?
You meant to tell me out of the 20lbs I've lost...you can't see any difference?
:grumble: hater.0 -
My typical lunch (at work) is vegetable soup (so filling!). When my coworkers (all female) asked why I eat mostly vegetables, I told them that I was trying to lose weight. The oldest one (who is known for making the rudest comments) said to me: "You ain't gonna lose no weight! You gonna DIE FAT!!!"
WTH?! :noway: I'm gonna die fat?! Who says things like this???
Oh, wait. She does.
Meanwhile her belly and butt have gotten noticeably larger over the past year......
Well, I'll just going to keep at it. I'm already down 10 pounds and she's up about 10. :laugh:
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I am in the middle of losing a lot of weight that I have carried all my life. It's noticeable. Most people say something along the lines of, "Wow, you look great!" which is a wonderful boost for me. Plus it has the added benefit of allowing me to either say "thank you" and move on, or to open up a discussion about it if I so choose.
It's amazing to me what some people have said to me though! Many people will come up to me in the hall at work, and instead of saying "hi" will say, "So how much weight have you lost?" I am not comfortable giving my number out to everyone, because I still have a long way to go, and frankly, it's still embarrassing to me that I had so much to lose in the first place. I had one person who could not let it go (and this was someone I can NOT stand under the best of circumstances!). When he asked how much I had lost, I just replied "a lot." He kept on asking "so how much is a lot?" Seriously! Why does it matter!?
When I first started losing weight, people would ask me if I was losing weight. I learned to answer, "Yes, I am certainly trying to!" because if I just said "yes" it was following with something like "have you been sick?"
Many people want to know what I am doing. I have started making stuff up, because no one believes that I could just change my eating habits and exercise routine and have any success. I told someone once that I had been hypnotized. Haha!
My favorite is the woman who said "I didn't know you had weight loss surgery!" Yeah...I didn't. How uncomfortable.
What is the craziest thing that someone has said to you while you were losing weight?
I am a goofball so I use humor.
How much did you lose? "One MILLION pounds" :laugh: with my pinky by my mouth like in Austin Powers.
I have come to the conclusion, people do not think before they speak. Fortunately, I realize I do the same thing so let it slide:happy:0 -
I just spread my own rumors and would love to hear them get back to me. I would tell people i had an internal flesh eating disease. That was my favorite. That flesh eating disease was called excercise but non of them knew until I reached my goal that is when I told the truth about how I lost it. When you start rumors like that people were to affraid to ask about it.
I LOL'd at this. 0 -
Whats your secret? Agree - No secret clubs! 0
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Hi,
I have to agree with you on this! I, too, am nor comfortable getting attention or being noticed now that I am losing weight. I am ME...always have been always will be...Now that I am getting thinner I am more interesting????
I have not always been heavy and I lost friends when I gained weight....My true friends are those that have stuck with through thick and thin!0 -
I'll tell you the ones that get to me, though:
(Not a question, but a comment) "I don't see why you think you need to lose so much. You're not fat." Bless your heart...I DO own a mirror. I'm just fat, not blind or stupid.
My family and husband use this one.. It just makes me so mad. I know I am fat and I am acknowledging it so why do they feel the need to lie about it to our faces? So irritating!!0
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