Highschool JERK... revenge?

flatbellybella

In highschool I wasn't popular... all I did was study. I was tall, chubby and for the first years of highschool had huge frizzy hair.
I didn't have guys like me (or at least no one ever told me) and honestly didn't care
Anyways, long story short I couldn't stand my highschool.

So there was this guy... we would talk the odd time and were often in competition for who had better test marks. Anyways so after a while he started being REALLY mean towards me... creepy mean like he had issues. I would go home crying. He would hang out with us but then be so mean to me. He apparently liked my friend and would always flirt with her. My "friend' knew how he was towards me... and really didn't give a damn. She liked the attention. She is now a 100+ heavier (karma is a b!tch and so is she... that's another story).
And I doubt it was the "He's just mean to you because he liked you"

So, Mr. 'thought he was going to go to Harvard' is now working in a video game store (nothing wrong with that... ). I haven't seen him in YEARS. I really want to go into his store and be like Hey prick... remember me?
I know maybe I should just forget about it... but I want to go into that store looking hot as ever, fit as ever and say something really smart to him.
What would you say?

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33neenaj

Just walk in the store with your head held up high like you own the place....no words needed.

ScottyNoHotty

Just let it go....time to grow up and move on. A good, happy life is the best revenge.

flatbellybella

Just let it go....time to grow up and move on. A good, happy life is the best revenge.

Obviously, but not what I asked

tennisbabe94

Congrats on reaching your dreams! I think the best thing to say would be something polite, like some small talk. I mean kill him with kindness right? Your success already does most of the talking.

legs_n_bacon

Nothing wrong with that! I wouldn't say anything mean though. Just seeing how good you look is enough

iuew

the best revenge is a life well led. avoid him like the plague, and take your revenge by forgetting that he ever existed.

ZeroWoIf

In highschool I wasn't popular... all I did was study. I was tall, chubby and for the first years of highschool had huge frizzy hair.
I didn't have guys like me (or at least no one ever told me) and honestly didn't care
Anyways, long story short I couldn't stand my highschool.

So there was this guy... we would talk the odd time and were often in competition for who had better test marks. Anyways so after a while he started being REALLY mean towards me... creepy mean like he had issues. I would go home crying. He would hang out with us but then be so mean to me. He apparently liked my friend and would always flirt with her. My "friend' knew how he was towards me... and really didn't give a damn. She liked the attention. She is now a 100+ heavier (karma is a b!tch and so is she... that's another story).
And I doubt it was the "He's just mean to you because he liked you"

So, Mr. 'thought he was going to go to Harvard' is now working in a video game store (nothing wrong with that... ). I haven't seen him in YEARS. I really want to go into his store and be like Hey prick... remember me?
I know maybe I should just forget about it... but I want to go into that store looking hot as ever, fit as ever and say something really smart to him.
What would you say?

My personal advice to you is very simple. You can choose to get what you can from my advice. Learn to forgive and forget. Time should be a tool to strengthen your mind, and to awaken the best that is in you right now. Time also heals those who were once imperfect in their own ways, and perhaps immature. Enjoy the rest of your life, and ignore doing anything that you would not like for others to do to you. What if this person lost a family member recently, and he has gone through horrible trials in life? Just think about this. If personal satisfaction is something you truly seek, and if you want to go ahead with your plan then I have nothing against it but just know that this won't give you any type of personal gain.

33neenaj

In highschool I wasn't popular... all I did was study. I was tall, chubby and for the first years of highschool had huge frizzy hair.
I didn't have guys like me (or at least no one ever told me) and honestly didn't care
Anyways, long story short I couldn't stand my highschool.

So there was this guy... we would talk the odd time and were often in competition for who had better test marks. Anyways so after a while he started being REALLY mean towards me... creepy mean like he had issues. I would go home crying. He would hang out with us but then be so mean to me. He apparently liked my friend and would always flirt with her. My "friend' knew how he was towards me... and really didn't give a damn. She liked the attention. She is now a 100+ heavier (karma is a b!tch and so is she... that's another story).
And I doubt it was the "He's just mean to you because he liked you"

So, Mr. 'thought he was going to go to Harvard' is now working in a video game store (nothing wrong with that... ). I haven't seen him in YEARS. I really want to go into his store and be like Hey prick... remember me?
I know maybe I should just forget about it... but I want to go into that store looking hot as ever, fit as ever and say something really smart to him.
What would you say?

My personal advice to you is very simple. You can choose to get what you can from my advice. Learn to forgive and forget. Time should be a tool to strengthen your mind, and to awaken the best that is in you right now. Time also heals those who were once imperfect in their own ways, and perhaps immature. Enjoy the rest of your life, and ignore doing anything that you would not like for others to do to you. What if this person lost a family member recently, and he has gone through horrible trials in life? Just think about this. If personal satisfaction is something you truly seek, and if you want to go ahead with your plan then I have nothing against it but just know that this won't give you any type of personal gain.

Very good post!

juliecat1

Nothing wrong with that! I wouldn't say anything mean though. Just seeing how good you look is enough

What my sexy leg friend said. Go in. Flaunt it. Say nothing. Just living a good life being happy and healthy is enough.

Contrarian

Take the high road. I doubt making a nasty comment to him will actually make you feel better. Given that people generally have more compassion as they get older, he probably regrets the way he treated you.

Cait_Sidhe

people grow up and mature after high school. I'd just leave it be. I was treated horribly in school but what's in the past remains there. You're different now, I'm sure he is too.

jesusHchris

The whole "forgive and forget thing" is ok. People tend to torture themselves enough when they end up like that. Also, if you continue to think about it and it feels bad he is still kind of winning.

OR...

You could go into his store and flirt with him a little bit. Wait until he makes the move to ask for your number and just start laughing hysterically. Pause. Point finger. Continue laughter. "No, haha, seriously though, no frickin' way..."

Walk out.

Success.

Also, I don't work in a video game store and I was not very popular in high school. You can always just flirt with me instead.

kennethmgreen

It sounds like you have no reason other reason to go into the video store except to revenge. How old are you? How long ago was high school? (not trying to demean you, just curious how old this stuff is). I know high school can be mean and leave scars, and I'm sorry you were treated badly. And I know it's fun for us to fantasize about sweet revenge. But really, what does that do? What does sweet revenge really get us, save for short-term satisfaction? It certainly doesn't erase any mistreatment in the past.

I won't deny that the idea is tantalizing: walking into the video store looking hot, having his friends elbow him to check you, then watch as he realizes it's the girl he was mean to and see the look of regret flicker in his eyes - all with John Hughes-like soundtrack. But that's movie stuff. And a lot of effort for a little satisfaction (assuming everything goes as planned). Trust me, it never feels as good as the fantasy of actually doing it. And it doesn't feel good for very long.

What about simply being happy that you are in better shape, living more healthy, and feeling better about yourself? What about leaving your past completely behind you? Rather than seek out people from your past to "show them" you can simply live your life. Meet new people. You can live your life moving forward.

jesusHchris

I wouldn't recognize most people from high school. I was on a whole lot of drugs.

Alex_is_Hawks

I would go in there looking hot, but I wouldn't be mean. Why? Because bullies rarely remember they are bullies...he won't put two and two together and think to himself "oh yeah I was a jerk that's why she was so rude today...." He just will NOT make that connection.

Promise....

but going in there looking smoking hot and being nice and polite? What will he do? Probably what most people do..."Holy Hell, XXXXX looks so HOT, wow...life was good to her...I'm so jealous!"

that's the real revenge...making your life and yourself LOOK and seem great...succesful, kind, wonderful and HOT...

but if you are even a little bit mean? He won't connect it to his behaviour in the past, all he will think is..."wow, she may be hot but something is really wrong inside of her" and you don't want that...

that will basically negate exactly what you want to do...


Lauren

skinnyinnotime

I wouldn't recognize most people from high school. I was on a whole lot of drugs.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

skinnyinnotime

You could go in and when/if he recognises you and starts a conversation look confused and say "I'm sorry, I have no idea who you are".

jzsor12

isn't that what high school reunions are for? haha

glovepuppet

my vote is for going in there regularly but making out like you can't remember him at all. there's no greater insult than being utterly forgetable! if he says anything just look perplexed and claim you're sorry but you've no idea who he is.

glovepuppet

ok, and then i actually read the thread.

seems to me like you've let people like him twist you into a bitter person. your external beauty isn't the be all and end all.

Phaedra2014

Just let it go....time to grow up and move on. A good, happy life is the best revenge.

Agree 100%.

flatbellybella

ok, and then i actually read the thread.

seems to me like you've let people like him twist you into a bitter person. your external beauty isn't the be all and end all.

there is nothing bitter about what I said and I am far from a bitter person. Don't make a fool out of yourself and assume something about someone based on one forum post :laugh: give me a break

delilah47

If you feel like saying hello, go in and do it. Kids do a lot of stuff in school before they see the light and grow up (unfortunately, some never do). I am wondering why he didn't go to college if he was planning on attending Harvard. Even if he didn't get accepted, if he had any motivation, he should be in another college. If it were me, I surely wouldn't go out with him if he happened to ask.

PS Don't be a jerk. Don't let someone being an *kitten* make you into one.

Edit: Oops, here I am trying to give good advice to someone who is obviously trying to get someone to agree with her. Okay, go in and call him a p***k if it will make you feel better.

Virtech2k3

I think you secretly like this guy, even years later. Come on, you know you wanna see that belly jiggling! 0_o

NoAdditives

Just let it go....time to grow up and move on. A good, happy life is the best revenge.

This.

I was the least popular person in my school. Just about everyone made fun of me. I was on the cheer leading squad. The other cheer leaders were nice to me during practice, but wouldn't talk to me during school. During one basketball game, three people shot spit wads, gum, and ice at me the entire game. To say I was bullied is putting it lightly.

But, that was a long time ago. I'm now friends with some of the people who were mean to me in high school. People do stupid things when they're young. Generally, they grow out of that immature behavior and become decent adults. I have some great friends now because I was willing to look past people's high school behavior.

High school drama is stupid enough when you're in high school. Don't stay hung up on it once you're an adult.

ytfelmi

High school drama is stupid enough when you're in high school. Don't stay hung up on it once you're an adult.

This. I know so many people that still act like they're in high school, it's ridiculous.

As for the OP.. When I reached my goal weight a few years ago, I ran into a major jerk from high school at a going away party for another friend of mine. I tried to avoid him, because I really couldn't stand the guy. Unfortunately he saw me, but the double take and "Holy ****. Melissa???", followed by an obvious full body glance, was enough for me. I don't know if he even remembered being such an *kitten* in hs, and I really didn't care. It felt great.

Revenge never feels as good as the initial thought. I agree with posters that have said to basically show him, and forget anything hurtful you could say. It's fun to think about, but wouldn't you rather take the high road?

PunkyRachel

My old "bully" from high school, middle school, and elementary. Yes, the same boy pick on my my whole schooling, sometimes he had his friends join in. On Facebook, I joined a group page for my graduation class. He chatted with me on Facebook a little. Nothing bad, but I straight up asked, "Why did you hate me so much?" " He said,"I Never hated anyone I was just a stupid kid". lol yea you could have fooled me buddy. I just let the past be the past, just be happy :-)

idealbody

Invite me with you... that's a complete package. LOL

MaryJane_8810002

I wouldn't recognize most people from high school. I was on a whole lot of drugs.

LMAO Best response!

matchbox_girl

There was this kid in high school that I had the biggest crush on. When he found out I liked him (I think my best friend at the time let it slip) he called me fat behind my back. For years I loathed him for that, especially when he was nonchalant to my face. One day in my "goal book" (a notebook full of dreams and goals I want to fulfill) I wrote "Make Dakota Jealous."

He's in the air force now. I'm thinking at our high school reunion my wish will be fufilled