Highschool JERK... revenge?

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  • AuddAlise
    AuddAlise Posts: 723 Member
    Stop giving him head space.

    During high school I got picked on a lot, I was too skinny(95 lbs), too tall (only 5'7"), and I was not Jewish(the school was about 97% Jewish). I have ran into quite a few people who were horrible to me (think getting shoved up against metal lockers) but I was polite and kept moving. They are not worth my time, nor are they worth the head space. I have a wonderful life now and that is what matters.
  • MaryJane_8810002
    MaryJane_8810002 Posts: 2,082 Member
    I was bullied mercilessly in middle school so horribly I tried to commit suicide by the end of the 8th grade. The people that made fun of me are currently not doing well, one of them is the father of my cousin's daughter (so we are technically family :explode: ). Taking to the bully-er it turned out he and his crew had domestic issues ( father left them, mother was an alcoholic, mother was a crackhead, etc) so they took it out on the smart kids and the kids with problems that could not defend themselves.

    He's probably not even thinking of you. If you go in and say hi that would be great but acting like a stank bee-yotch to boost your bruised ego from like 5+ years ago is a total lose.
  • livinginwoods
    livinginwoods Posts: 562 Member
    My advice? Grow up and move on. No need for "revenge". :huh:
  • DoingitWell
    DoingitWell Posts: 560 Member
    Congrats on reaching your dreams! I think the best thing to say would be something polite, like some small talk. I mean kill him with kindness right? Your success already does most of the talking. :wink:



    ^^this
  • luvsunshine1
    luvsunshine1 Posts: 878 Member
    OK, I just don't agree with all the just get over it comments. I think that people need to be held accountable
    for their actions and just because it was high school doesn't make it ok to be a bully. That's one of the reasons
    that bullies, and abusers keep doing what they're doing. I agree that you shouldn't be mean about it, but I
    think for your own feeling of dignity, you can let the guy know how you remember him treating you and how
    difficult it made your life at the time and that you just wanted him to know and maybe that you hope he has
    gotten better in the way he treats people now that he's an adult.

    Good luck in whatever you do.
  • Southernbelle90
    Southernbelle90 Posts: 40
    Girl you got to do this! And let me know how it goes!!! Good luck lady! You're gorgeous!!
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I would go in looking all hot, but not say anything. That IMO would be a bit like stooping to his level, makes you look like you are still bothered by what he thinks, and also he may have grown up a lot since then (it was years ago!) He also may not even recognise you.

    If he does, he gets to feel like a fool, no words necessary. If he doesn't recognise you, there's no point even mentioning it, just move on :)
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