Afraid to say anything at alll

Woodmangler

Failed so many times... no clue why I am trying again, except I can't stand the thought of completely giving up.

So... gonna avoid sugar, eat whole foods, keep it around 2k calories and try to not eat the processed foods, drink water and exercise 3 times a week That is it for now.. I believe that it is at least a start.

And awaaayyyyy we go

mefit87

Good job for making an effort. You've made the first step to a healthy life. Take it one day at a time and it's all about baby steps. You can and will do it. Keep a positive mind set and stay determined. I started my journey a few weeks ago and already feel good about myself. Thin like a thin person and you'll automatically start making healthy choices. Thats what I've been doing and its working so far. lol. Good Luck

Krisstah

Its really hard to get started for sure, but once you get going, and try and get yourself around like minded people for support, you can do it, i really feel like the food charting on my fitness pal has been the best thing for me, sometimes when i think "oh there cant be much calories for that meal" and then add it all up in front of me, i realize that i need to make a few healthier adjustments.

Wpbarr

Start off a bit easier ...

Today: Take 3 pictures (front, profile, rear), measure thighs, hips, waist, chest & biceps)

Week 1: Cut the sugar/sweeteners, go for a 30 min walk every second day, 10 glasses of water a day, 1 beer a week (a man's gotta live!)

Week 2: Cut all the "white/processed" foods - detox

Week 3: Go for a 30 min walk every day

Week 4: Add exercise for 30 mins, 3x per week

Make 1 little change every single week, take pics/measurements at the end of every month, compare first set with last set.

verptwerp

"Forget past mistakes. Forget failures. Forget everything except what you're going to do now .... and do it." (William C. Durant)

Three years ago I made a few copies of this quote & taped them everywhere ..... in fact, there's one taped to my laptop right this second ...... it reminds me to stay focused ...... baby steps work fine ...... then each week challenge yourself & add something else to the mix :drinker:

Best of luck to you !

dward2011

Start off a bit easier ...

Today: Take 3 pictures (front, profile, rear), measure thighs, hips, waist, chest & biceps)

Week 1: Cut the sugar/sweeteners, go for a 30 min walk every second day, 10 glasses of water a day, 1 beer a week (a man's gotta live!)

Week 2: Cut all the "white/processed" foods - detox

Week 3: Go for a 30 min walk every day

Week 4: Add exercise for 30 mins, 3x per week

Make 1 little change every single week, take pics/measurements at the end of every month, compare first set with last set.

^ good advice

o_delaisse

Good luck, and I reckon Wpbarr gave some good advice. Enthusiasm is awesome, but remember to be realistic and kind to yourself along the way.

All the best!

Johlawrence

What a great way to start! Keep the positive attitude! YOU CAN DO IT and YOU ARE WORTH IT! Try a few changes at a time...some people do better with that, rather than trying to do EVERYTHING all at once. Best of luck! It's a struggle and journey for many!

sassydebbie67

You have taken the first step.. You can do this!! It has taken me 2 1/2 years to lose 75 lbs and still have 36 to go.... I will be here as long as it takes and then after i lose the rest of my weight... We all can do this together.... Good Luck

TinaBaily

I was where you are back in April. I was ready to give up on trying to find my inner, thinner, self. Then I revelation happened, life reached out and smacked me, not literally, but what happened seemed to grab and hold my attention this time--2 different people in my life who mean a lot to me, within the same week, told me about this site back in early April. I mulled it over a while...then realized that it was like a divine sign, and I started out by signing up on here, putting in my weight, and not doing anything for another week. By the end of April I was logging my exercise regularly, early May I was logging my daily food (oh, what a huge help and eye opener that was!) and increased the exercise. By the end of May I had lost 10lbs and my confidence was soaring!

First of June was the last day of school, and I chose to dedicate this summer off work (I work at my neighborhood elementary school) to working on me. I've been increasing my workouts and now workout 6 days a week, 90 minutes a day (except today, which I barely managed to get 71 minutes in...body is tired, I guess). I've now dropped 24lbs.

I like the recommendation to change things one at a time. That is what worked for me, and I'm like you--I've done this attempting to lose thing more times than I can count and always ended up heavier than when I started, even if I had lost some. This time feels different somehow. I find that the folks on this site are a HUGE help! Look for those who will encourage you and help buoy you up when you're struggling, and you may find that they can make the difference for you too.

Best of luck in your journey!!

Zee48

Woody you have made a very giant step toward getting yourself in better health. It isn't about a number on that little piece of plastic & metal in our floor it is about the numbers seen when we have blood work and other medical tests done. Are you healthy? Do you want to be healthy? If so you can make it work. And it is work, hard work. Probably the hardest work we every have to do.

We are among the group of people who have to work at our health and it is a life time thing for us. No diet is going to help us we must make a lifestyle change in our eating & activity habits for the rest of our lives.

Like babies learning to walk we will fall down, we get up, we stumble, fall and get up again and keep doing it until we get it right. Then we still stumble along the way but we keep going. Losing weight is the same process.

This quote is the absolute truth. It has been credited to so many people I really don't know who originated it but I still like it.

"Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward."

You are worth it - set attainable goals - start with 5% (or whatever you are comfortable with) in 60 days )or whatever you really believe is attainable for you) of your body as your first goal and keep going. Baby steps.

Woodmangler

Good grief... y'all brought tears to my eyes...

I have been afraid to try anything at all because once I fail, not only do I gain the weight back, I gain an additional 20% to boot.

If I don't do anything, I don't gain very fast...

Stupid to do nothing though... just want to get on some program that I can do for the long term... weight watchers didn't work for me... tried it twice. I have had gastric bypass surgery back in 2005... lost 140 pounds, have gained almost all of that back.

I want to find that magic determination so I can be one of the success stories... instead of a failure

Thanks for all the advice.. I have printed it out and will do it!!

ktsmom430

Last week, as a big breakfast was being made for the office, someone asked me how I could turn down the high calorie breakfast. I told my co-worker, simple, I am through "starting over tomorrow". This thought came to me on day 3 of my journey, March 14, 2012, and it has helped me stay focused through my weight loss of 70+ pounds so far. I still have a long way to go, but little things help me stay on track. A perfect example was today, when my daughter was giving me a goodbye hug, and she told me I was skinny (which I am definately not, but I am on the way).
This web site is a life saver for me, literally. People do not realize just how much their triumphs, failures, and day by day comments have helped me so far.
I hope you can find the same inspiration.
The very best of luck to you!

BodyByButter

You can do it. I started with a baby step, and vowed to log all my food (but not really change anything). Almost immediately I started changing things anyway. Then I started with 15 minutes of exercise. Now I am up to about an hour. Once you start it's like the good habits are pulling you instead of you having to push yourself. Also, gather MFP friends. They really help me stay on track.

findingfit23

You can do it!

cocotier

I have tried many time to lose weight, and i did and gained it back what I lost and plus. Many time, I gave up on myself because I believed I could not or it was not worth ti. Like you, I just could not go on, I had to do something. It's one step at the time, it's a moment at the time. You've made the right decision to join MFP and to start over. I don't know exactly why it works? but it does! I don't stress about exercising or eating. If anything being in MFP gives me a sense of "I can do this". So here we are all of us...It's a journey with good stuff, bad stuff, ugly stuff and beautiful stuff. Continue to log in and you will see that you can really do this.

gods_gal

You post has touched me. I was 300 pounds in 2002. I started losing weight, lost 30 pounds by June of that year, then got really sick. Over about 10 months, I lost 135 pounds. I was 165, which was skinny for me, but still so sickly looking. I was finally diagnosed and put on meds that helped me gain back 92 of those pounds over several years.

16 months ago I finally decided that I was worth living in a healthy body. It's taken me since then to lose 43 pounds. I lost a lot faster when I was younger, but I take what I can!!

I have put aside the "old man" who had no self-esteem, and put on the "new man" who knows her value now. I finally love myself and have stopped sabotaging myself by stuffing food to comfort myself. Now I look at food as fuel for my body and I try to only put hi-test in! LOL!!

I have stopped (for the most part) eating anything processed and try to eat things that God made, not man. Right now, it's impossible to totally cut it all out, but I'm working on it.

I have faith in you. You can do this. Not all at once, just like you can't eat an entire meal in one bite. Take it one step at a time. Build healthy habits one at a time.

Remind yourself constantly that you are worth it. It's going to be the hardest thing you have ever done, but when you reach your healthy goal weight you will be so incredibly proud that you hung in there and didn't give up on yourself. All that to say ...

YOU CAN DO THIS!!! We're pulling for you!!

HeavyLiftGirl

Determination is the first step to success. I know for me the first month was killer. After that, I started to feel amazing, see the pounds fall off, and wanted to continue.

I wish you the very best!

ladytinkerbell99

Start off a bit easier ...

Today: Take 3 pictures (front, profile, rear), measure thighs, hips, waist, chest & biceps)

Week 1: Cut the sugar/sweeteners, go for a 30 min walk every second day, 10 glasses of water a day, 1 beer a week (a man's gotta live!)

Week 2: Cut all the "white/processed" foods - detox

Week 3: Go for a 30 min walk every day

Week 4: Add exercise for 30 mins, 3x per week

Make 1 little change every single week, take pics/measurements at the end of every month, compare first set with last set.

^ I agree. This is excellent advice. :flowerforyou:

consumone

I think that is a great start - so lets not say anything and do this together - GOOD FOR YOU!!!

gods_gal

Just saw this on another forum, posted by l0zz0, and thought it was so appropriate for you ...

When you've eaten too much and you can't write it down,
And you feel like the biggest failure in town.
When you want to give up just because you gave in,
and forget all about being healthy and thin.
So What! You went over your points a bit,
It's your next move that counts...So don't you quit!
It's a moment of truth, it's an attitude change.
It's learning the skills to get back in your range.
It's telling yourself, "You've done great up till now.
You can take on this challenge and beat it somehow."
It's part of your journey toward reaching your goal.
You're still gonna make it, just stay in control.
To stumble and fall is not a disgrace,
If you summon the will to get back in the race.
But, often the struggler's, when loosing their grip,
Just throw in the towel and continue to slip.
And learn too late when the damage is done,
that the race wasn't over...they still could have won.
Lifestyle change can be awkward and slow,
but facing each challenge will help you grow.
Success is failure turned inside out,
the silver tint in a cloud of doubt.
When you're pushing to the brink, just refuse to submit,
If you bite it, you write it....But don't you quit!

aquamarine36

All you can do is try. Take it one day at a time. That's what I'm trying to do. I finally decided that I want to do better for myself because I'm worth it. You are too. Just do the best you can!

rudy7020

I love all the supportive and amazing people on this site! I've tried and failed many times in the past and I, too, ended up weighing more then when I started. The people on this site give me hope, encouragement, and inspiration.

I read the sucess stories everyday, several times a day. It's amazing to me what others have accomplished.

So log in everyday and we will share your journey. You don't have to go it alone!

Eve23

You only fail when you give up. Just being here proves you have not given up. The journey is hard and personal, each of us on our own path yet we can support each other. With the support and acceptance in our challenge it can be accomplished. We are so very glad you are here to share that journey with all of us.:flowerforyou:

cjenwokolo

It's good to have a calorie goal for the day, but when you take that and break it down into 5-6 meals a day with each meal having a calorie goal you'll feel like you're eating all day and it's easier than just making a daily goal

tmauck4472

You've come to the right spot and we are all here to help. But you have to want it bad enough to log everything and be honest with yourself.

baddbob

Start off a bit easier ...

Today: Take 3 pictures (front, profile, rear), measure thighs, hips, waist, chest & biceps)

Week 1: Cut the sugar/sweeteners, go for a 30 min walk every second day, 10 glasses of water a day, 1 beer a week (a man's gotta live!)

Week 2: Cut all the "white/processed" foods - detox

Week 3: Go for a 30 min walk every day

Week 4: Add exercise for 30 mins, 3x per week

Make 1 little change every single week, take pics/measurements at the end of every month, compare first set with last set.

^ I agree. This is excellent advice. :flowerforyou:

I'm right there with my friend Ladytinkerbell. Excellent advice!! Fundamentally you have to completely change the way you think about food. People have "cheat days" or reward themselves with food for doing good. I say rubbish. You have to get "food as a reward" out of your thinking and lifestyle. That's difficult because that's how our society is wired. You can do it though. Start slow and build up. Like the first person in this thread said. One small change at a time. You also have to get some exercise. Walking is certainly a good start. Elevate the pulse. Also spread your eating out over 6 meals a day and don't miss a meal even if you are not hungry. You have to keep stoking the furnace and keep the metabolism working hard burning calories. YOU CAN DO IT....but you really have to want it.

fitatfiftyfive

You're off to a great start! You'll find a lot of support on this site. Welcome!

jimgatewood

It can be done at any age.Just be honest logging in your calories and get your workouts in. I'm 65 and I support your efforts.


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kdeaux1959

Hey, anything you do is better than doing nothing; sounds like your plan is a good one... Just try to stick to it; that being said... Realize that one or two days that are off cannot cause you to fail.. You only fail when you stop trying. You can do this. If I can.. Anybody can.

EDesq

Very Good Start! 5^^ Don't forget to be PATIENT with yourself and forget about the scale. Just focus on working the Plan and the scale will take care of itself!