Fears About Losing Weight

dreamsofescaping

So not sure if this is in the right catagory or not. Just curious what some of your fears are from losing weight? Mine would be that if I lose enough I am gonna have saggy skin that hangs on my belly and the other one is I will lose my chubby cheeks and my age will finally show lol and last I guess that what if it somehow alters my personality? I grew up as a big kid, young adult now adult and I have always loved my personality it was all I had going for me lol. Do you have any fears from losing weight?

shaynak112

I don't want to lose my boobs ... or my butt

Lornajune

yeah, I totally get the saggy skin and age thing. I'm not sure how my personality will change, I think that now that you are thinking of it now that you will always remember that you are you and not to change in a bad way, like maybe we would catch ourselves acting different. I don't know if that makes sense to you but....
My Dr. has already told me to keep up the weight loss and fitness stuff I'm doing and then we will talk about plastic surgery, which would be removing loose skin from my stomach area. I had gotten to big to fast with both of my pregnancies and there is what they call an "apron" of skin basically. I just showed the Dr. and told him how it brings my self confidence down and how it gets in the way when exercising and that clothes don't fit right. I live in Canada, I don't know what it is like for other places but I imagine it will be expenses covered. As for other parts of the body, yeah it is a scary thought, I turned 36 this year and I am pretty sure things won't tighten up where I want them to but hey, we will still look and feel great! I guess I would save some $ if possible for anything else I want done. I really want a boob job, that is what I want as a reward at the end of this journey.
Have you thought about what you will reward yourself with??

juliecat1

I have the skin thing too. And sadly.... It's happening. But I'm hopeful itll bounce back eventually. It makes me mad sometimes that I did this to my body long enough to cause such lasting damage.
Attention. It's weird. You go from being invisible to being seen. People assume you want to hear about it all the time too. It's an awkward transition. I DO like the comments and the attention. I just don't always know what to do with it.
I'd lose weight and my *kitten* would stay the same size. Thankfully that hasn't happened! Phew.

TISH27kidneytransplant

Mine are the saggy skin, having my strech marks look worse. Having an overly jealous husband, having him be inscure and possiably cheat because of it and so on!

CoderGal

I don't want to lose my boobs ... or my butt

30 lbs gone, 0 inches lost in the butt lol. I kept my boobs until I started exercising, then they all fell off. Well, sorta. I went from a 34D to a 28DD.

Melanie_RS

mine is having to workout like 8 hours a day to just maintain my goal weight. which makes me re-think my goal weight when I know I should be rethinking how to exercise in the first place to get there.

vicious! good question.

or another is that I'll lose all this weight and people inevitably talk and gossip AND THEN I GAIN IT BACK (because I can't work out 8 hours to maintain the weight)....

or that I'll finally get to my goal weight and then break my legs.

oh the fears!

kadinlucas

Scared of looking too damn good that its dangerous to go out in public...

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

I don't want to lose my boobs ... or my butt

If you're truly curvy then your curves will stay even if you lost weight. The only difference is that your curves will be more pronounced because of more lean body mass & less fat.

jayb33z

I have the skin thing too. And sadly.... It's happening. But I'm hopeful itll bounce back eventually. It makes me mad sometimes that I did this to my body long enough to cause such lasting damage.
Attention. It's weird. You go from being invisible to being seen. People assume you want to hear about it all the time too. It's an awkward transition. I DO like the comments and the attention. I just don't always know what to do with it.
I'd lose weight and my *kitten* would stay the same size. Thankfully that hasn't happened! Phew.

whatever. you've made great progress and look awesome. entirely too hard on yourself

maddiey

Scared of looking too damn good that its dangerous to go out in public...

Lol! Awesome.

Owlie45

Saggy skin
Loss of boobs
loss of my practicly nonexsisted *kitten*.

Laura_Suzie

I'm scared people will treat me differently.

YokoJ

I'm scared I'll look "sick".

ShareeMorty

Saggy skin, no boobs, looking older than I am and if I am no longer fat what will I have to blame my crappy life on LOL

InnerFatGirl

Just that I'll put it back on and be trapped in a lifetime cycle of yo-yo dieting

cobracars

My first NSV was when my boss asked me if I had lost weight. I was only down about 15 pounds and he said I look younger, NOT older as many of you had posted your fears of.

Erisad

I don't want to lose my boobs and gaining it all back and having to start over again. Although if I keep on it in maintenance, I won't have to worry about that.

33neenaj

I've been overweight for so long that it seems like all the fat on my body serves as a security blanket.

FuneralDiner

I've never ever seen anyone look older through weight loss.

triinityz

Getting grandma boobs, saggy skin so I STILL won't be able to wear shorts or a bathing suit, losing my *kitten* (which is a fear I never have had but my butt is getting flat.) I have told myself that I will get surgery to correct g-ma boobs if needed, as for the rest, screw it, I'd rather look hot as hell in some tight jeans then be fat and wear shorts!

HLeAnn

Losing my ta-tas. I know.. shallow LOL. They've already gotten smaller and the skin around them is sagging. But, it's a small price to pay for being fit and healthy. Just lots of lotion and water and time....

Rylansmommy12

Mine is the saggy skin.
I Already i have to get laser treatment for my strech marks (There so bad there red).
I Hate to skin tightned too but we will see.

IRun4Me_12

So not sure if this is in the right catagory or not. Just curious what some of your fears are from losing weight? Mine would be that if I lose enough I am gonna have saggy skin that hangs on my belly and the other one is I will lose my chubby cheeks and my age will finally show lol and last I guess that what if it somehow alters my personality? I grew up as a big kid, young adult now adult and I have always loved my personality it was all I had going for me lol. Do you have any fears from losing weight?

My biggest fear is gaining it back. For me, this is a lifestyle change - not a diet that will end. My plan is to continue being active and making healthy choices when it comes to food. However, I will not deprive myself - if I want something, I will eat it - only in moderation! I am also a little nervous that the flabby skin will not go away. I want to rock a bikini (stretch marks and all!). I bought two this summer, and I wear them, but I know I have more work to do before I feel totally comfortable in them.

My personality HAS changed. I was always overweight and very self conscious. Now, I am more outgoing because I have confidence and self-esteem that never existed before. As I said to my husband - my outside finally matches my inside

3LittleMonkeyMom

I am scared. Of many things....yes, the saggy skin, but I WILL have a tummy tuck if necessary. I'm working out to try to prevent that though... I'm scared of the "coin slot" belly button that comes with that though. I kinda like my own belly button.

I guess I'm scared of being "visible" again. I have gotten very comfortable just being in the background and people watching without being noticed.

Also, of something happening to me (Illness, accident, whatever) once I finally get where I want to be...and then gaining it all back.

Dauntlessness

I already lost my boobs, just waiting for my body to catch up and be proportional again. I went from a D to a B. haha.

I have already noticed this but having too much interaction with other people. I'm the type of person who was a loner all my life. I have a few good friends I hang out with and a bunch of acquaintances I talk to at the gym but I always keep an arms distance to most of them. I could barely look anyone in the eye anytime I left the house when I was bigger and now my personality and confidence is changing, I am super scared to go down the "social road". People talk to me all the time and it drives me nuts. haha

I already have saggy skin...haha. Its really not that bad. I hope I will be able to get it removed in another 40lbs or so.

I grew up with a best friend who got more attention because she was thinner then me. I also had a mom who had issues with self confidence. She divorced my stepfather and dated a bunch of men. She would do anything for attention and seemed to base her self worth on who "liked her". That lead me to think that way of myself until I met my husband. I'm afraid I will be like other girls on here showing their boobs and butt's to get any bit of attention from men once I get a hot body. I am bound and determined to not ever let that happen.

I haven't lived my life and found what I want to do with it yet. I should have by now and I wont be able to hide behind my weight anymore.

Those are mine :flowerforyou:

Bmontgomery613

So not sure if this is in the right catagory or not. Just curious what some of your fears are from losing weight? Mine would be that if I lose enough I am gonna have saggy skin that hangs on my belly and the other one is I will lose my chubby cheeks and my age will finally show lol and last I guess that what if it somehow alters my personality? I grew up as a big kid, young adult now adult and I have always loved my personality it was all I had going for me lol. Do you have any fears from losing weight?

My biggest fear is gaining it back. For me, this is a lifestyle change - not a diet that will end. My plan is to continue being active and making healthy choices when it comes to food. However, I will not deprive myself - if I want something, I will eat it - only in moderation! I am also a little nervous that the flabby skin will not go away. I want to rock a bikini (stretch marks and all!). I bought two this summer, and I wear them, but I know I have more work to do before I feel totally comfortable in them.

My personality HAS changed. I was always overweight and very self conscious. Now, I am more outgoing because I have confidence and self-esteem that never existed before. As I said to my husband - my outside finally matches my inside

This! I'm terrified of gaining it back. Also, I'm scared that I won't be able to lose what I need to lose. I'm worried that I haven't made enough of a change to make a difference. I haven't even really thought about how it will be when I get to my goal weight because right now I'm so fucused on just getting there.

Desterknee

I fear that after I completely change my lifestyle for the better, lose my weight and become more active, it will create strain in my relationship.

I live with my boyfriend and I love him. We are two very lazy people. I used to be a major pothead but I quit. I used to play video games in 10 hour blocks but cut back a lot. I used drink beer by the 6-pack but now only have the occasional glass of wine. I used to spend the majority of my time indoors but now make it a point to get out everyday. My darling has not changed his habits yet. It's not an issue, but I am scared it could become one in the future. I fear maybe our different lifestyles will create distance. I am trying to get him to join me on my outings here and there to prevent that.

dreamsofescaping

Wow, thank you each and everyone of you for being open and honest with not just this thread, but with yourself. Sometimes, I think, it is good to admit to our fears.

"Confront your fears, list them, get to know them, and only then will you be able to put them aside and move ahead." - Jerry Gillies

I know fears are a darker side of the human persona, but I think they can also be turned to light. We can face them, admit to them, learn from them, and conquer them through living and experiencing them. I will one day face my fears when I have lost enough of this outer shell and only then will I know what it feels like to accept the next set of challenges of the internal shell, because fear is from our minds.

When I look in the mirror will I still see a big ol' pile of fat? Or will I see someone who has reached their goal from this life style change? Will I see saggy skin? Probably, but it is how I will look at the glass is it half empty or half full? Did I lose the weight and accomplish one of my life long dreams? Or am I still that girl who sees nothing but a thin girl trapped in a fat girls body? I don't know yet because I am not yet at that point, but I would sure like to find out what is hiding beneath all these layers of fat. Who is she? Who is that trapped girl waiting to escape? Time will tell.

I hope that I will be looking at the glass half full and not half empty, I hope I won't see that cowardly girl who hides behind a bag of chips packing the pounds on to avoid reality. This is reality, this is my reality I am worth it, I am worth feeling happy with my outer shell to match my inner one. I hope you guys know you are worth it too.

Thank you once again for sharing.

xox

Nikki

Octopies

Totally the saggy skin. It doesn't help that I've been losing weight at the rate of about 10 lbs per month, which is a bit more than what's considered healthy.
I heard that people my size (started at 240) could lose really fast for a while and then chill, so I'm hoping it chills out.
I'll be eating more once I go back to school too, and probably exercise twice a week instead of 5 times so that'll help it chill out too.
But I'm still concerned!

WarriorPrncss

Sadly, my #1 fear is losing my boobs... but maybe that's is just an--- I'm fat, frumpy and the only girly things about me is them.

I guess I'll know when I get smaller. WHEN I lose weight... I am also a little afraid of sagging, but I am working out 4-6 times a week, so my hope is that as long as I work out hard while I'm losing it I can get to my goal and be tones and not have to work SO hard to maintain.

I'm also afraid of gaining it back... though-- I do realize this is a lifestyle change-- not just a diet.

Also, I've discovered a great fitness community at my gym and outside with some of the instructors--- once I can handle the harder workouts I will take part and that will keep me on the right track.